Pregnant for the fourth time and dont want to be

cantbelieveit_2

I have three children already, none have started school yet.

My OH is not even bothered I am pregnant. Has nothing to say but he doesnt want it and we couldnt cope.

I feel sick, fed up and very resentful towards him and really dont want another baby. I cant go through all that again.

Has anyone else had a baby in these circumstances and been ok with it?

my friend said 'oh well whats a fourth'

I just feel numb.

dmg24

If you visit your GP they will be able to refer you to a counsellor. This will enable you to explore your feelings about keeping the baby, or if you decide that this is not an option for you, they will be able to advise on your other options.

vixarooni

I think you have to ask yourself what would be worse to you. Abortion or
no abortion. Only you know how you feel about that one.

hope you find a sollution you are happy with.

vixarooni

dmg said it in a nicer way than i did! Bit blunt.

Id sit and have a proper discussion with my partner. Time for one of those chats where you re evaluate and come out fresher the other side.

FrankieM

My 4th was a surprise, in fact I was at the doctors sorting out contraception and they did a prgnancy test 'just to check' as I was breastfeeding my 3rd, who was 4 mths old at the time and hadn't yet had a period since giving birth.
Needless to say I was pregnant. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry...the nurse wasn't sure what to do either..
For us abortion wasn't an option, but the 2 of you need to work out what the best option is for you, as your the ones that have to live with it...
I would love to say it was easy and wonderful, but it was a struggle and tiring..now she is 10...they are 14, 13, 11 and 10 and I wouldn't be without any of them.

CB1979_2

don't want it?

well don't have it then????

very unfair on the kid, that you don't even want, say you can't go through with it again, "father" don't give a crap.

great start to the kid's life

johnswife

cantbelieveit wrote: »

I have three children already, none have started school yet.

My OH is not even bothered I am pregnant. Has nothing to say but he doesnt want it and we couldnt cope.

I feel sick, fed up and very resentful towards him and really dont want another baby. I cant go through all that again.

Has anyone else had a baby in these circumstances and been ok with it?

my friend said 'oh well whats a fourth'

I just feel numb.

How many weeks are you?

ladypinkof66

I really get angry and upset when i read posts like the op's here i totally agree with
Alias_Omega - how harsh that maybe i have been trying for a baby for 14 years and still not managed it I am now 42 and my only choice now is ivf which hopefully we shall start next month (which we have to pay for at a cost of £5000).
You say your husband is not too bothered with the new pregnancy well what a start to bring yet another child into this world.
You should quickly get yourself down to the docs for contraception otherwise in 9 months you will be posting again saying you are pregnant with your 5th !!!!!

squidge60

no advice ,feel sorry for you think its every womans nightmare to be in your situation.x

viktory

Ahhh, I feel slightly sorry for the OP. I had two children and knew I wanted no more so took the drastic action of being sterilised. Best thing I ever did.

I think possibly the OP could do with some support and kind words - have none of you throwing stones ever done something/been in a situation, possibly of your own making that seemed desperate?

OP, you need to get to the Doctors and discuss the situation. Please don't let it go on any longer of the situation will only get worse.

completelyspent

It is really sad when people can't have children or have problems conceiving-I would like a child more than anything, but this poster has come on here for support and is in a vulnerable and mixed up position.

Cantbelieveit - you need to sit and weigh up your options. I can imagine this is a shock to you and perhaps you just need a little time to get your head round the situation. Trying getting someone to babysit your children for a couple of hours and take yourself and O/H off somewhere to have a proper chat about it..I'd imagine it's really difficult to process this when you are looking after three small children.