Very depressed

jeannieblue

I recommend you keep posting on here for one, cos we'll listen and I am sure alot of us will understand. Alot of us have been 'kicked in the teeth' at some point in our lives.

I would allow yourself to be miserable, angry, stressed, upset etc - who wouldn't feel like that under the circumstances?? When you get to the 'angry' stage, you know that you are on the mend - bless you sweetheart.

These reunited sites have caused alot of hassle for some, haven't they? If he seeked her out (or vice versa), then something must have been missing for him or her - and just shows that he doesn't recognise a good thing when he has got it. Men (and women ) sure are stupid at times. And, not sure he deserves you my love.

Hang on in there and just come on here and 'vent' your all whenever you want - we are all with you in this.

Lots of love and hugs
Jeannie

Mips

He isn't missing though is he?

He's fooked off with someone elses Wife. The Police would see that and no doubt say, as awful as it is, they have no reason to believe he is in danger.

As for the depression. It is circumstantial. Of course you are depressed. Anyone would be. When things calm down and time has healed, hopefully you will be fine again.

Good luck, you really will have to be strong here.

Mojisola

Your surgery may have someone you can talk to - they don't just dish out tablets. Even if they don't have someone based at the surgery, you can ask to be referred - there will be a waiting list but this doesn't look like a short-term problem so go on the list.

Alison's idea of writing it down will be useful - on here or in a diary, online or paper, whatever suits you.

Don't be frightened of finding somewhere quiet where you can have a good scream and shout out your feelings. Imagine your cushions are the two of them and give them a good thumping. If you can let the feelings out, you'll feel a lot better.

Keep contact with her husband, too. He's going through the same emotions as you and you may be able to help each other.

alison999

Mojisola wrote: »

Your surgery may have someone you can talk to - they don't just dish out tablets. Even if they don't have someone based at the surgery, you can ask to be referred - there will be a waiting list but this doesn't look like a short-term problem so go on the list.

Alison's idea of writing it down will be useful - on here or in a diary, online or paper, whatever suits you.

Don't be frightened of finding somewhere quiet where you can have a good scream and shout out your feelings. Imagining your cushions are the two of them and give them a good thumping. If you can let the feelings out, you'll feel a lot better.

Keep contact with her husband, too. He's going through the same emotions as you and you may be able to help each other.

i think all that is great advise, esp the cushions bit lol!:beer:

pandora205

As others have said, your reaction is a normal response to your sad circumstances. Rather than seeing a GP you may find it more helpful to chat to a friend, even an old one you haven't seen for ages. You'll be amazed how kind people will be in these circumstances.

You may also find you feel that you want to shut yourself away though a walk may make you feel better (or whatever you like doing).

narnia2000

Thanks everyone,
I was trying St. Johns wort...it did work initially, but things seems to be beyond that now:( He isn't missing, he has been at work last week, just not answering his mobile to me. I guess that I will just have to wait for Monday...she is due to fly back, he has no-where to go, I have no wish to have him back, just want closure for my own sanity, he only has a cheque account....he used to do cash day to day stuff as his credit was shot, house is in my name, my mortgage etc.
Before he left without a word though, he did say because he had been living with me for 2 years, I couldn't just kick him out, that he had rights as he had payed into the household....any thoughts?

Cat695

changed the locks then he can't get in....call the police if he does try....

He left the house willingly for another woman so thats his problem!! just box up his stuff and give it to a mutal friend to give to him!!! you have tried to contact him and he has refused to speak to you either face to face or through someone mutal so trust me he hasn't a leg to stand on!!!! if he threatens court action tell him you look forward to speaking in court (with a smile on your face)

SarahPaxton

our thoughts are with you.

narnia2000 wrote: »

Anyone out there know what works for depression? My partner of over 5 years was e-mailing someone on friends re-united, set up a secret e-mail addy etc. I found out 2 weeks ago, found out that she lived in South Africa, she was married 18 years...felt safe enough, we had arguements, thought that we were sorting things out....she got wind of that, left her husband and flew over, only found out because I e-mailed her to find out the score...and her husband picked up the mail, so we have been in contact ever since, both have been missing now for 8 days, as you can imagine I have been at rock bottom ever since.

Mips

narnia2000 wrote: »

Thanks everyone,
I was trying St. Johns wort...it did work initially, but things seems to be beyond that now:( He isn't missing, he has been at work last week, just not answering his mobile to me. I guess that I will just have to wait for Monday...she is due to fly back, he has no-where to go, I have no wish to have him back, just want closure for my own sanity, he only has a cheque account....he used to do cash day to day stuff as his credit was shot, house is in my name, my mortgage etc.
Before he left without a word though, he did say because he had been living with me for 2 years, I couldn't just kick him out, that he had rights as he had payed into the household....any thoughts?

Technically yes he can. He can place a Charge on your property which would mean that you couldn't sell it without him being notified.

If you were married, a Judge might tell him to sling his hook given the circumstances...

.. phone CAB or a Solicitor.... the opportunist [EMAIL="b@stard"]b@stard[/EMAIL]... :mad:

jeannieblue

narnia2000 wrote: »

Thanks everyone,
I was trying St. Johns wort...it did work initially, but things seems to be beyond that now:( He isn't missing, he has been at work last week, just not answering his mobile to me. I guess that I will just have to wait for Monday...she is due to fly back, he has no-where to go, I have no wish to have him back, just want closure for my own sanity, he only has a cheque account....he used to do cash day to day stuff as his credit was shot, house is in my name, my mortgage etc.
Before he left without a word though, he did say because he had been living with me for 2 years, I couldn't just kick him out, that he had rights as he had payed into the household....any thoughts?

What an ar5e, as mentioned before, change the locks. Get a solicitor if need be, but think that a good stiff letter would suffice.

He sounds like a right sponger. You are not his mother nor his keeper - pity his mother...