How to get a Mum to listen...

Gingham_Ribbon

I used to have to deal with a younger brother who would wait till he heard me getting out of bed before diving in the bathroom and spending an hour in there. I used to beg him to let me in and finally one day I wet myself on the landing. I was about 13. Still my parents did nothing about it. But although that was annoying and humiliating, (and the time he locked me in the house because he'd taken my key and I couldn't get to work wasn't fun either) it wasn't violence.

It just isn't acceptable for a 16 year old to beat someone. So what if she's his sibling? He will probably grow out of it, but what if he doesn't?

Alikay

Are you my sister in law GR? My DH did the same to his sister. Mind you, he also suffered at her hands: every ciggie he sneakily smoked, every girl he kissed, every time he swore or cursed.....all reported back to mum!!

It's amazing how we all survive our childhood reasonably unscathed: even more surprising that most of us go on to have more than one child and inflicting sibling troubles on another generation!:rotfl:

nicokpe

It Looks your brother always disturb you and his mind has't grew up. So in that situation, try to find a good timing and talk to him that his attitude was not good and bad manner. Don't use hard way, some people like if we can talk or give suggestion in softly. Who knows it can changed his attitude.

Cheers

bestpud

Is he normally violent, or has he ever over reacted in this way before? Because, apart from the hitting incident, his behaviour will reflect that of many lads his age.

The trampoline incident sounds like pretty standard sibling bickering to me! Not sure what you wanted your parents to do about it exactly?

Really, I don't want to seem harsh, but we only have your word on this and with the best will in the world, it will be heavily biased (particularly given how mad you are with him right now!)

And I've yet to meet a teen who doesn't feel their parents treat them unfairly (at least to some point).

If he is frequently violent, or is again if it was the first time, then yes, that is unacceptable. It also needs to be dealt with, by your parents, or the police, or both.

Otherwise, it is something you will both grow out of so just try and ride the stormier bits. Maybe keep some toilettries in your room too - just in case? You shouldn't have to, I know!

Personally, I'd have done anything but let him know he had got to me - I most certainly would not have given him the satisfaction of me hammering at the door to get in there! Perhaps that's just me though! I had a very stormy relationship with my sister, including frequent punch ups and I preserved my sanity by staying one step ahead of her. She was awful though, in fairness and admits so herself now! We get on ok now, on the whole!

pinkshoes

Welcome to being the older sister and the responsibility and unfairness that comes with it.

When I was 16 (doing GCSEs) and my brother was 15, we were still punching the cr*p out of each other. I would end up with bruises, because although I used to be much taller and tougher than him, he suddenly grew up really fast and didn't know his own strength. Boys that age still have brains like kids!

My parents would ask him to do things before they went out, then he'd just go out and leave me to do them, and if they didn't get done, I'd generally get the blame being the oldest.

He'd also play loud music when I was trying to revise, hog the bathroom, and be a general antisocial teenager.

I think anyone who suggests calling the police is OTT. If I'd have done that when I was the same age, it would have torn my family apart, just due to some teenage hormones. Nowadays, me and bro get on like a house on fire, and are really good mates!

Charlie1986

This sounds so much like how me and my brother used to be. Mine once pushed me down the stairs and then continued by hitting me around the head etc.... Mum did nothing and said we were as bad as each other. I phoned the police and I have never seen my brother so scared in his life. The policeman went up to my brother and told him to try it on him if it made him feel big, he then got the biggest bollocking of his life and has never ever done anything like it since.
Roll on about 3 years and now he's more like an older brother, always looking out for me etc. We go shopping together, to the pub........ Although he still does nothing around the house and i get blamed and moaned at for everything :rolleyes:
Hopefully things will improve as you and him both get older, although this is no excuse for his attitude now.