Money trouble with bf's ex

floss2

By the way, how old are the children?

nottslass_2

dieselthebusdriver wrote: »

Wt he pays her does affect her benefits as they constantly check her incomings because she has been suspected of benefit fraud before!

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If shes on benefits the DSS (or whatever they're called nowadays) will deduct the £150 she receives now from her benefit entitlement.

Perhaps your bf could pay a little more - regardless of whether or not she wants him to - this would reduce the amount the tax payer is forking out to help keep his children.

miserly_mum

It sounds like the OP is implying that "The Witch" is doing more work than the 14 hours she's declaring, therefore she is committing Benefit Fraud. (people on certain benefits including Income support can work up to 20 hours per week but only get to keep the first £20. The rest is taken from their benefit)

I am wondering how she manages to do this AND sit on her ar*e all day?

nottslass_2

miserly_mum wrote: »

It sounds like the OP is implying that "The Witch" is doing more work than the 14 hours she's declaring, therefore she is committing Benefit Fraud. (people on certain benefits including Income support can work up to 20 hours per week but only get to keep the first £20. The rest is taken from their benefit)

I am wondering how she manages to do this AND sit on her ar*e all day?

if this is the case,why doesn't "the witch" just work an extra 2 hours pw and claim tax credits ? that way she'd be entitled to keep all of her wages & tax credits plus accept the £150pw that the CSA originally awarded her !!

op,it looks as if "the witch" is doing your bf a favor !

miserly_mum

OP you are making yourself sound almost as vindictive as you paint the Witch to be.

Maybe the real reason OH is avoiding Joint Accounts is nothing to do with the CSA or his ex. Maybe he's just being cautious as you and he have been together less than a year?

Could you be keener on the idea than him and he's feeling pressured to say yes. Sometimes us ladies get a bit carried away during the honeymoon period.

I get the feeling from your Original Post you were hoping someone could prove to you what OH said about the CSA and Joint accounts was wrong so that he no longer had an excuse to hold back?

Tim_UK_3

If the £7,000 bank account was for the children surely it is right she has it as she is the one looking after them.

Have to also agree £150 for two children seems very low - would think she should be getting far more than that from you two.

cazziebo

Really sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter - that must be unbearable.

I see from a previous post that you're 20, and you say you've been together for a year, so unless the bf is much older then I guess these are young children we are talking about.

From what you say, I don't think your issue is just about the money. I think you should try to look at this situation another way. Here is a woman coping with young children, a job, a relationship break up, and a new woman in her ex husband's life. No matter what kind of person she is, she has a lot on her plate. She's also done you a big favour in accepting less in maintenance than was calculated (and a lot less than it costs to support children). She has custody of your boyfriend's children; while you and he are together she will always be part of your life. You can choose to fight that fact, or you can choose to accept it. Honestly I speak from experience when I say it's much easier in the long run to accept it.

I'm not that up on the CSA, but I thought if a woman (or man I suppose) was on benefits then they had to be involved - it's not optional to drop them. I also don't think that a joint account matters, it's earnings that are considered.

Sincerely, I do hope you work it out and find a happy resolution.

webitha

Tim_UK wrote: »

Have to also agree £150 for two children seems very low - would think she should be getting far more than that from YOU TWO.

that is where you are wrong OP doesnt have to pay for his kids HE does, her earning should not come into it as they are not hers

sammy_kaye18

To the OP

I am in a smiliar predicametn with my exs girlfriend and we have been together 6 years! He pays her £80 as maintenance for their 8 year old son. She doesnt work at all, stays in, does nothign for the child and she also ran up debts on a credit card of his puting him into nearly £3000 worth of debt by buying appliances for herself and her family members.

If she is on income support CSA will get involved but if you have a civil agreement and it is direct debited every monththen they cannot really complain as there is proof of the money going out each month (unlike my bfs ex who insists he pays it cash as she is telling IS that he is giving her nothing so she can get extra benefits when he religiously gives it to her ever first friday of the month!!! ). She lives off her benefits and gets more than me and boyfriend put together also - her hosuing/coucnil tax paid, claims child benefit, tax credit,maintenance money and income support - im sure shes duped it to so that shes on disability becuase of her weight issue but cant remember what bf said exactly.

Anyway - no they shouldnt take into account your earnings. but i wouldnt get a joint account as they will see it as money wiht his name on so will think it fiar game to take it. I know they dont take into account my earnings with boyfriends as we are not married but i think if we were married it would be different

duchy

I don't really see the *need* for a joint account and if I'd been with someone for less than a year especially someone who appears to be quite vindictive I wouldn't do it either.