the wedding feast.Do I have to have more options for plain food only relatives.

shelovestobuystuff

My wedding is only going to have 12 guests.I though the wedding day and the wedding feast was all about what hubby2b and I wanted,our favourite things for our special day.I had a little run in with MIL yesterday over the menu.
We are having a 6 course feast for 14 people in total,lots of lovely high quality food,local produce,highland wine and berries etc.We are spending lots of money on the food as its the most important aspect of the celebration for hubby2b who is a real foodie.The main course is to be venison with the trimmings as hubby does them.We have had it before at home for a birthday dinner made by hubby and its glorious.The problem is MIL told me that an aunt and uncle we have coming only like very plain food(mince and dumplings) so we cant serve them that,we have to change the menu.I said that there are 6 courses so if they dont like it they can leave it,they are hardly going to starve with another 5 course to get through.MIL said we cant do that.What do you think?
I think we are spending enough without having to add more main courses for plain eaters.

floss2

Maybe you could check with this aunt & uncle...you never know, it may be that they DO eat other stuff....does MIL eat venison, is she trying to say "it's me that doesn't like venison but I don't want to upset you again by being awkward"?

Also, they won't starve if you have some lovely fresh bread & butter, with all the other foods & veg.

shelovestobuystuff

MIL does eat venison,that is in fact what she cooked to death for us yesterday,she is truly thinking of the aunt and uncle.But I want to serve our favourite food and dont want to change it or have to extra dishes for the aunt and uncle.They will probably love the venison as I think they have only ever had it as cooked my MIL which isnt at all the same as ours.Hubby is a far better cook.Ssshhh!dont tell her that!
Its a 6 course meal and they will be having breakfast and luch with us before that which will be plain.I think they can survive on 5 courses.
Am I being cruel.Selfish I think I am allowed,it is my wedding .

floss2

No you aren't being cruel, thoughtful, but not cruel! Maybe they only like MIL's mince & dumplings...:rolleyes:

paddingtondoo

It's your day have what you want to eat.

I'm sure they will find something they like.

OH and I have decided on the food and we are not having a choice. Strangely my mother hasn't asked about this yet.
Expect that's tonights whinge :rotfl:

JoeyEmma

I wouldn't change my menu for two boring fuddy duddies. Its what you want on your special day, not what they want. If you loved jazz music and had a band booked for the day, and discovered they didn't like it, you wouldn't cancel it. You can't please everybody. Plus, as you said, they aren't going to starve with another 5 courses.

G-G_4

A lot of people say they don't like something and most of the time it's because they havn't tried it, or have had a bad experience of it...

I would go with whatever you want to have. If they had a problem with food then they would have come to you to ask what it was that you were planning.. They havn't, so they can't be that fussy.. and with 6 courses i'm sure you will be fine..

Sod it, it's your day, you have what you and hubby2be want x

MsChazzer

You stick with your choices, they sound amazing and there must be something out of all those courses they will eat. I've been to plenty of things where I haven't liked the food but I see that as my problem (well, a problem with caterers not doing decent vegetarian food really but what I mean is that I wouldn't turn it into the host's problem).

whitewing

I agree that you should keep your plans as they are.

I don't like pineapple (as an example) so if someone was planning a pineapple pudding for a wedding (or even a normal meal) I wouldn't be fussed. However, I wouldn't expect anyone to change plans to revolve around me. And I'd probably eat 'just a small portion' anyway on the day.

Try not to let it worry you. Aunt and Uncle probably don't know anything about this conversation and would be devastated if they did. It's probably just MIL wanting things to be perfect in her own eyes.

Relatives can blurt out unthinking things sometimes.

flea72

personally, i wouldnt choose food that doesnt appeal to the mass markets. id feel awful, if no-one ate the food because they didnt like it. Vension is an aquired taste, which people are more against ethically, than on the taste. also the cost would come into it, why pay lots (vension isnt a cheap meat), for it to be left.

on the other hand, we went to a wedding recently where the B&G though they had played safe and gone for a roast beef dinner, but the meat was so pink, most people didnt eat any of the main course, as the blood had run all over the veg and other stuff on the plate. however, me and dh enjoyed tucking into everyone elses leftovers, as we like our meat nice and rare lol

I know its your big day and you want to eat food that you prefer, but there must be other foods that you enjoy too, that would appeal to more people.

Flea

Krystaltips

If there are only 2 guests who (based on someone elses opinion) might not like it... That's hardly a mass market...

I'd stick with what you have planned, if you're making it yourself it's not like a fancy restaurant where everybody has a choice of 2 or 3 meals... If they're eating 2 other meals with you and there's another 5 courses then I don't think there's a danger of them starving to death at your wedding...

But just in case you could always take a multi-bag of walkers and some microwave popcorn....