Taking housekeeping money from your children

immoral_angeluk

If she's earning £50 a week then I think it'd be appropriated to ask for £10 a week off her to contribute.

sweetpeas_2

I think you are right Jo, you shouldn't tell her you're saving it up as when she does get it back on her 21st or whatever she will be pleasantly suprised. By then she may have moved out and learned the value of money for herself. In the mean time she will think that her hard earned money is going towards bills and this will give her some responsability aswell.
Hope you find a middle ground that you're happy with that your conscience will let you take from her. Must be difficult, but I think it does have to be done for her own long term benefit.

xx

proudmum_3

Before my son went to Uni he worked for a few hours at the weekend. I didn't ask for any housekeeping, but he did buy clothes, smellies etc.. himself. He also started driving lessons and paid for himself by getting a summer job. He still learnt the value of money, as if he wanted something or went out he would pay himself. It has helped now he is at Uni and has to live on a tight budget.
If however he was working full time and living at home then it's only fair to ask for a contribution.
Whatever works best for you really, but i personally wouldn't take any money whilst she is still at school/college.

raq

actually brother is in a very similar situation.

His daughter is 17 and work full time, he is trying to run a succesful business and asks for , wait for it, £20.00 a week towards the gas and electric. She looks at him daft. He told her he and myself and other brother had to and we where all fine with that. She takes her wages out on a friday , spends £25.00 in primark and it goes a long way and then moans she got no money by time she pays for her bus pass , lunch and goes out. He also mentioned that it will teach her the values of money and it doesn't come from the tree in the garden.

11 years ago I was giving my mother £110.00 for the month and it was fantastic. Also if we went to town and I seen a top for £20.00 she would give me say a £5.00 towards it. Also growing up she would never buy my deodorant, toileteries or makeup I had too.

When my little one's work I will not hesitate to take a small donation from them.

all the best

Heffi1

When I lived at home - an awfully long time ago, my parents decided that a 1/3 of my wage was for board, 1/3 was for saving and 1/3 for doing as I pleased with, it seemed to work and I now do the same for my two, who both appear to think things are fair.

Heather.

Forgot to add - Both contribute to petrol costs, me and their dad paid for driving lessons for both on the understanding that they would buy their own cars in time

Broken_hearted

I would ask for £10 a week just so she feels like she's paying her own way.