Taking housekeeping money from your children

jo1972

cat4772 wrote: »

(more if she's using you as her personal chauffer service).

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fizzel81

When i left school at 16 and started working i had to pay keep to my dad, i wouldnt take off my boys (there all under 5 at present) if i was recieveing cb and tax credits etc but if was recieving neither yes i would

maybe if you do recieve above you could ask her as suggested above to buy certain things for herself

bexlincs1

Im 19. And i dont thik its fair. While your child is 16 and continuing with education why do you need extra money off them when you get paid by the government to help wiht the upkeep of children anyway. Fair enough if she works full time hours 5 days a week. minimum wage for a 16 year old is £3.50 so its not like she will be earning a great deal for 2 days of work. Shes 16, let het live for 2 monbths before she gets back to school.

why not a compromise...she buys her own clothes, pays for her own hair cuts etc.,..things she wants but doenst need??

SteveyLomas

Not sure I Horace's "I gave up all my wages with a smile" line is going to work with every child. I think kids who are working full time are completely different to kids working part time when they are at school. For the first lot, a contribution is good (£200 a month I always paid, which was a bargain as it probably just about covered the food I ate!)

However, full time education means they are sacrificing a large part of their free time for working and should keep every penny. As some people have mentioned, you benefit by all the things you don't have to pay now they are earning. And working is a good in itself that should be encouraged!

doelani

I have two teenagers, one who is useless with money and usually needs bailed out before pay day and he started work when he left school at 16.5 and I started taking housekeeping off him when he was 18. He had about 1.5 years without paying but during that time he did save to buy himself a motorbike and pay his insuance.

I have a daughter who will be 18 in a few weeks and is finishing her A levels, she has worked part-time since she was 14 and has keep herself in toiletires, cometics etc, paid for half her holiday last year and paid for her driving lessons and has a car and pays her own insurance for and all expenses relating to it . She has a full time job lined up and I have explained to her once my child benefit stops my csa payments will also stop from her dad and we have agreed that from september she will pay housekeeping. She will also be saving to buy a newer car as the one she has is a bit of a banger lol

I really think it depends on the situation, I will not be expecting my daughter to contribute what I will be losing but will have contributing an amount. she is sensible with her money and never asked for anything from us although I offer to top up her phone once a month and buy her clothes now and again.

lil_monkey

Hi Jo,

I had a weekend Job when I was at college, Mum and Dad never asked for any money, but with my money I bought all my clothes traveling money, going out money and when I was 17 I also ran my car. - when I left college and had full time job they still didn't ask fo rent but I did do all my washing ironing, but helped mum with the house work and bought my food, for me and a little for the family - this happened till I moved out at 19! But in a way I wish they had asked me for rent as I might not have been in the situation I am in now!

maybe ask for £30 a month!!! just an idea. x x x;)

Horace

My mum was crafty and any keep that she took from me, she put into a savings account and used it to pay for my wedding (what a daft idea getting married was). She was trying to teach me the value of money - it worked to some extent.

tallyhoh

I agree with ditheringdad & others. I am all for learning kids the value of money but while I am receiving CB & WTC I wont take any money off a part-time job if he's still in education. A proper job I would & I think about 1/3 is fair.

However my DS receives pocket money & has always had to buy his own stuff (even when very young). I buy him the occasional pair of shoes but thats about it.

skint_spice

Horace wrote: »

My mum was crafty and any keep that she took from me, she put into a savings account and used it to pay for my wedding (what a daft idea getting married was). She was trying to teach me the value of money - it worked to some extent.

I like this idea! If I was taking anything from my kids for a part time job (assuming I didn't need the money) I would do this tell and them that it was going towards their uni/flat deposit savings.

Paige

Hi
My daughter is nearly 16 and going to do her A levels, then she wants to train to be a teacher. She will soon be looking for a weekend job with some additional work over the holidays. I will not be asking her for housekeeping until she is in full time employment. However I will expect her to pay for all toiletries, lady stuff, mobile phone, clothes and shoes out of this money. She is excellent with money - way better than me - and has already saved a big sum of money to help when she is at uni.
Paige x