When did you stop tucking your kids in at night?

amandada

Kazzajr wrote: »

If your daughter feels comfortable with it then I don't think there is an issue. Although how they both fit in the bath is a wonder!

I haven't bathed with my ds (5) for a while as there wasn't enough room for him to play whilst I was in and I was restricting him however we are both naked around each other and probably still will be when he is older than 8 and I don't see it as a problem I would feel a bit put out if people thought it strange.

I totally agree with you. My dd was still going in the bath with her dad when she was 8, and possibly in the early days of being 9.
It was when she was about 9.5 that she suddenly decided to be modest, and we respect that.
I'm as aware as the next person of children's safety, but you have to have some faith in people, as long as your dd feels comfortable with it that's what to go with

Lunar_Eclipse

We read to both our children every night. They are 8 and almost 7. They also read independently, but absolutely love their 'bedtime story' with us. Occasionally we all sit together on our bed and have an audio story from a website with the laptop, for a change.

We also tuck them in every night, but encourage independence in getting ready for bed by themselves. Our eldest loves to shower now and wash her hair independently. The six year old needs help with shampoo & conditioner.

My eldest's teacher told us last year to keep reading to them for as long as we can. She said she still read to both her sons who were 11 and 17 at the time, daily where possible.

My mother finds it odd that we still read to our 8 year old given that she reads Harry Potter etc by herself, but I think this is more a social norm thesedays. Truth be told I have actually NEVER enjoyed reading aloud (I used to hate it in English lessons at school as a teenager) but I still make the effort to read to my children daily. Oh forgot to say that they read to us too. We listen to the 6 year old daily and the 8 year old 2-3 times a week. In an ideal world we'd hear her daily too. In fact, I'm going to try harder now.

Although both girls, one good kiss and cuddle satisfies the youngest at bedtime, whilst the eldest needs about six! Bizarrely she is actually the most independent, but likes a few 'i love you' reassurances at bedtime.

Rachie_B

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

OMG - could you daughter honestly read independently at the age of 5?!
and your son a good independent reader at 6?
I'm now worried about my 5 year old reception class son - he recognises a few words they've been learning but I would no way say he was an 'independent reader' - Yikes :eek:

I wouldnt worry,every child learns at their own rate

my eldest son now 12,taught himself to read! he had the reading age of 11 at just 5 yrs old

his younger brother however was much later at learning to read,
he is 6 now and in yr 1, and is doing very well ,and seems to be on par with the others in his class ( same books sets etc)

does your sons school send home words to learn each week? thats how my son started off

it was ages until he had a reading book,they had to be able to recognise a lot of words until then,which is good IMO

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neverdespairgirl

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

OMG - could you daughter honestly read independently at the age of 5?!
and your son a good independent reader at 6?
I'm now worried about my 5 year old reception class son - he recognises a few words they've been learning but I would no way say he was an 'independent reader' - Yikes :eek:

My mother used to read to all 4 of us at weekends for years - she read her way through the entire "Lord of the Rings" and we finished the series the Christmas when I was 20!

Until I left school and went to work abroad for a year, my mother would knock at the door if I went to bed before she did and give me a kiss.

I could read at 3, and remember being bought "Secret 7" books when I started school at 4, but I think it's one of those things that really varies. My DS is 2, 3 next month, and can't read yet, but does sit on the sofa, turns the pages in his books, and talks about the pictures, usually when I'm cooking dinner.

td

My 2 are 2 and 6 and we still read to themboth and put them tobed. My 6 yr old can put herself to bed but TBH I think it's a really special time together and I love doing it. I also cuddle them a bit before sleep. I don't want to encourage my kids to grow up too quickly in any way so will let them decide when they don't want it anymore (and will try not to be too hurt when they do lol).

td

moneypooh

Children are always the guides. My DD now (14) always was an independant madam and put herself to bed from about 7yrs, BUT every so often she wants to be 'tucked in'.
Younger DS now 11 really can't go to bed on his own and still loves being put to bed.
Either way I don't mind

MoaningMyrtle

Mine take themselves up and I go up ten minutes later and kiss them goodnight, sometimes we chat or read, depends what time it is. My eldest is so rude to me right now I don't feel like being that nice to her, I struggle to be honest. My youngest loves really babyish books, Topsy and Tim and stuff.

Poppy9

My DD 13 puts herself to bed but always asks if one of us is coming up to say night night! One of us usually follows her up, giving her time to do her teeth etc, and then the other will go up 20 minutes or so later.

OH was the main reader at night to DD; he is excellent at putting on voices which DD adored.

Re bathing. I wouldn't worry if they are both comfortable with it. We've never been very modest in our house and all walk round in various stages of undress when there is just us at home. OH paranoid at covering up though when she has friends over to stay. DD is comfortable with her body and doesn't worry about showing her bits when in changing rooms etc. not for her going into the toilets to get dressed/undressed at the swimming pool!

bright_side

My youngest is 11 and he still loves his hugs and kisses when he's all tucked up for the night

Penny-Pincher!!

My DD is 13 (14 in December) and she still likes to be tucked in and kissed goodnight. She stills asks her dad to read to her and she still falls asleep as she did when she was a baby:D....the book choices are a bit different now though:rolleyes:

PP
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