Well my first contact with the OR's office didn't go well

december

To cut a long story short I had a call today from the OR#s office from the person who makes the appointments. He wanted to book an appointment for Monday 9th June (or something like that.) I said that would be fine but at what time as I'm a teacher the answer was 10am, erm I have a class then. I then suggested varying days and times but said that it would have to be at the senior management's discretion as to whether I was allowed to have the time as leave. (big mistake in hindsight but that's the protocol and the forms have to be filled in and agreed before I can confirm that day/time is ok.)

Cue the OR's assistant getting rather stroppy and constantly reminding me that this is a serious issue (like I wasn't already aware of this) and that the interview had to be completed by a certain date. I had to explain I'm not trying to be deliberately awkward but his reluctance to book me in for any other time other than 2pm or 10am wasn't helping much although I didn't say this to him. We finally came to a suitable date and time (10am this Wednesday) with me agreeing to ask the school for leave of absence and him saying that Mr Smith would have to confirm that this was acceptable to him and then he says (after constantly telling me that it would only be for an hour, and asking what would I do if I needed a dentist or doctors appointment and not being happy with me answering that I would go after school) he then tells me that it will take longer than an hour. Oh SMT are going to love me on Monday and how the OR will probably think I'm a right cow when the appointment person tells them on Tuesday. I genuinely wasn't being deliberately awkward but the way he was speaking to me like I was and like I shouldn't dare to ask about when the OR works didn't help.

Yes I know it's my fault I'm going through this and I know that there are things that I would do differently (ie ask for help from my family instead of blindly carrying on) but I'm paying the price for that. I've had a totally rubbish day, feel incredibly down and like I should be wandering the streets in a sack cloth and ashes being called scum. I feel so low I don't know how I will get through the next few days I know this probably won't help those of you going through it and I'm sorry for foisting my depressing feelings onto you. It's just that right now I just feel so alone in this and I know this probably comes across as a really self pitying post and I'm sorry.

December

Brighteyes_2

Hey December,
Dont apologise for your feelings.Dont we all know full well how serious a situation we are in but they also need to acknowlegde we have lives too.
Give yourself a break and put your feet up,you deserve it x

Got2change

December -
Just want to send you a ((((HUG)))).
Please stop beating yourself up over what has happened; being rubbish with money does NOT make you a bad person only worthy of "wandering the streets in sackcloth and ashes" - it truly doesn't.
Take a deep breath and be kind to yourself. Make the best preparation you can for the OR interview (it isn't pleasant, but is a necessary evil as part of the process) and try to see beyond that to a less stressful future.
Each of the things that you do can be ticked off your list of things you should never have to do again.
Wishing you all the best..........
G2c
x
(And please no more talk of going to sleep and never waking up. Please.)
x

december

Oh and I looked in the paper today, since the beginning of 2008 over 70,000 have gone bankrupt at my local court, the ORs must be busy

december

dalip

Gosh girl you are not alone we are all here. Sound off as much as you want. A problem shared is a problem halved as they say:D .

When my OR called to make appiontment he wanted a 10am and i said i was working,he then suggested 2pm. I must say i did fell a little awkward asking for a different time but you dont know if you don't ask;)

Maybe they try to do all phone interviews in the morn so they can slink off early.

Sorry you are feeling so low, it does get better but you must expect the rough with the smoothe. This might be rough now but just think of the smoothe bit.Bliss.D

betterlatethannever

Dec..try not to worry. You only spoke to the monkey, not the organ grinder.:D
I doubt the OR will hold it against you for needing to be in work.

Your not alone in this and it will all work out well, just sometimes it takes a while.

I've had a rubbish day too, :mad: but it was the first in a while.:j which in my soap opera of a life, is pretty good going:rolleyes:

Good luck x

So_Sad_Angel

Hi Dec..& BLTN !!

Good days & bad days...just tell yourself this is a bad one (but it`s nearly over) & a good one will be along soon.

If I could do the `picture ` thing we would need a `group hug` piccy to cheer us all up!

Ax

betterlatethannever

Good idea SSA:D

So_Sad_Angel

The `pink` one in the middle looks a little worried...don`t you think BLTN?

dalip

I'm the yellow one as i am a cowerdy,cowerdy custard. Now i am giving my age away,if anyboby REMEMEBERS that from school:o

Eternal_Optimist

Sorry you encountered some jumped up brown nosing little jobsworth, December. You made a reasonable request which I'm sure the OR will have no probs with but it just gave this no mark a chance to get officious and full of his own importance and he prob doesn't get that opportunity often. I think you are very brave to do what you are doing and deserve respect and support and not the way you've been made to feel today. I hope the rest of the process goes well for you and you're out the otherside before you know it.