Think I need to leave but where do I start???

DigitalJedi

Hi SarahLou

I did try to post a reply but it seems to have gotten lost in Cyberspace somewhere.

Basically your situation is very similar to mine about 6-7 weeks ago. My now ex-GF attacked me as a result of a rather petty argument which escalated because neither of us would back down.

She's had a nasty temper for a while and I was sick of compromising, never hearing her apologise and grown weary of constantly being unable to please her. The result of me making my stand was that it made her worse and she then had to escalate to try to get me to back down. In the end she was kicking, punching and biting me.

She's now my EX! lol

Frankly what you did was wrong and being drunk is no excuse. Whats your temper normally like? Do you explode a lot? When your angry is it in proportion to the thing you are angry about? What I mean is, do you end up throwing things, swearing etc. over something small like who's turn it is to do the washing up?

It might be worth you considering an anger management course For me if my ex had taken it upon herself to have even looked into doing that then I probably would have given her another chance. As it is, there was no way I could have continued to live in fear.

Until then I would suggest you give him some space to calm down. After it happened with me, it took me a good couple of weeks for my anger to subside and see things clearer. By then it was all over. Don't get me wrong, I'm not sorry I called it a day but I am sorry I did it whilst angry.

cazziebo

Sarahlou wrote: »

.I want to keep our family together, [...

This is the most important and admirable words in this thread. No excuses for your behaviour, but you now have to put all your efforts into making this work. Reading what you've said, this is just communication problems. You love him, you have a lovely family, you both want to parent your son. All the positive intent is there, things are just going a bit askew. I agree with others about the counselling. Ideal if you go together, but probably still valuable if you end up going alone. Work together to create a happy family environment for your son.

And yes - sort out the debt. Debt's a terrible pressure to carry on your shoulders. The DFWs are a great crowd.

sending big hugs your way

xx