Need some advice re: my dad

TangledMemories_2

Surfbabe wrote: »

Just thought that I'd point out that Fathers Day (a rip off commercial stunt IMO) is actually the 15th June.

We were never allowed to buy our Dad cards or anything as it was oinly a stunt pulled by the card companies - so use that excuse. As for birthdays - i'd say go with the charity card - world vision or Oxfam do brilliant presents.

I know it's the 15th. I meant it as, Father's Day is 15th and Dad's birthday is 22nd

toothfairybuttkicker

hiya i went thriugh a rough time with my da when i was 16. got thrown out and didn't speak for years. we agree to disagree, we dont do presents even now when we have become closer and learn't to talk to each other but we do do cards. for me it shows that i do care but i'm still hurtin. keep your head up and follow your heart. Please remember you must do what is right for you and yours
good luck xoxox

GhostDog_2

I spent two years mourning the death of my parents. No, they didn't physically die but six years ago my father said something so hateful to me (that my mother did not attempt to address) that in effect they have both now gone from my life.

I don't send cards, telephone or even think about presents anymore but with a wonderful supportive partner and good friends around me I have come to realise biological parental rights do not exist.

MRS_TO_BE_2

If you are coping with failed business don't bother with anything. Tell him your skint. Maybe cook a meal at their house as it would help your mum out and mean you can see your brothers.

If he gets the hump tell him how it is. might shock him into bucking his ideas up. good luck x

rls1973

G-G wrote: »

I'd get him a card and a gift voucher.. nothing too personal, but at least you will still have made the effort..

I'm not close to my dad, not to the extent you describe though, but he just doesn't really bother with me that much.. and whenever I get him nice birthday / xmas presents, he always returns the favour by giving me crap presents..! So now I don't bother, and then I feel bad..

Anyway, I know how you feel.. maybe get him loads of cheap and crappy presents.. and a book 'Dummies guide to being a Dad' or something..

x

this
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Overcoming-Hurtful-Reclaiming/dp/0553381407

is a good read

you are not responsible for his problems:A

January20

You wouldn't reward a child for bad behaviour, would you?
So why reward an adult, especially a father who should know better!

I'd get him a card so as not to feel guilty but nothing else!