I was so chuffed earlier this evening but

Burlesque_Babe

I did a little bit of bar work in my local years ago but had to stop when I was ill, but it was great - I really enjoyed it and getting that little envelope of cash on pay packet day was great to see - real money, instead of the salary that just got sucked into the overdraft at the bank!

skintas_2

i sis bar work in a club when i was 18 and when i had my ds now 8 i went to work when he was 2 weeks old. i love the social live , and the fun plus i was getting paid. oh didnt like it much as he had to sit in and babysit

Beerworshipper

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

Speaking as a bloke I know there are some who feel insecure & undermined if their partner goes out to work & I suspect thats where he's coming from.

At the end of the day though it's your time to do with as you see fit & if you think it's best spent doing something positive towards reducing your debts then I say go for it.

I'm in agreement with Sunderlandblackcat in that he may feel insecure and peobably thinks that eveyone will know his business is you work there. But hey, you're being proactive and thats really good of you and a huge step in the right direction so big cheers for you. :T :T :T

Take it easy:D

Bismarck

Princess_Jane wrote: »

Go for it.

I work two nights a week delivering pizza - after BR tax I only get about £80 in my pay packet, but make about £10-£15 a night in tips and delivery money.

Plus it means I'm not out at a weekend partying and spending.

The lads I work with are all great and I get free pizzas (which freeze very well for emergency tea at the end of the month when the cupboard is bare).

Maybe he's fretting about you being a sexy barmaid, getting chatted up by all the customers.

My fella still flaps about me wandering the streets late at night in my oh-so-alluring uniform.

Mmmm polo shirt and cargo pants, go on wit my bad self.

Jeeez!

Imagine if you'd said...."there's a job going down the road, I can do it and we ned the money but I can't be ar**d..."

Given recent events, he'd have flipped wouldn't he?

Maybe that's what you should have done....say you don't want to do it and let him be Mr Big and say you should...

Suspect really he wants you to conjure up a suitably-timed job at £8/hr plus because of circumstances but it's hard phrasing this...

So it comes out wrong and the cycle starts again...

He probably means well but doesn't know how to show it. It's funny that after years of so called practice we sometimes just get worse!

SmellyOldSock

hi, good for you!

My hubbie was the same, I work Saturday and Sunday mornings 6am - 11am and he doesn't like it. Mainly because he feels he should be earning enough for us (which he would be if I didn't have debts:eek: ), because he wants me at home being mum/wife, and also because he's a bit insecure (ex wife left him for next door neighbour).

I do it and just weather the storms, it makes me feel great to be bringing in some money.

Do it for you, he'll come round. Also some people feel working in a pub means you're open for flirting etc, this might concern him.

best wishes
Charlotte

mountainofdebt

I know it would be the right thing for me to do but I just wish he would see that I'm doing it not out of choice but in an effort to try and repair some of the damage that's been caused. (its a waitressing job not behind the bar but hey you never know!)

I actually bit the bullet this morning and asked why he didn't want to be around me - when he asked what I meant I told him that it was his body language, things he said - he did try and laugh it off but thinking about it he didn't actually deny it.

At the moment I feel very alone.

duchy

Sounds like his insecurities are showing !
Good for you -you're making the effort to clear your debts.
Hope you get the job-it's definitely worth a try and many of the best jobs come from networking so who knows where it could lead !
He'll get over it

Princess_Jane

lifesuckssometimes wrote: »

he loves you and is concerned.

Bless him he does.

But it was either that or pole dancing, and he really wasn't up for me doing that, unsurprisingly.

kizzykizzywizzy

Good for you, I say go for it,
I work as a catering asst at a school min wage, but it fits in with the kids school holidays, it's only a couple of hours a day ( but they certainly get thier moneys worth out of you!! )
I enjoy it though as I get to meet people & have a laugh, & I get a few quid at the end of the month;)
My Husband upset me a while back, he was spending like no tomorrow, whilst I was counting the pennies, ok we've paid the debt off, but never going back there again! so I want some savings, he told me "I" was stupid for living like a pauper!! which still annoys me now, I thought we were a team, working for the same goal, obviously I'm so stupid, I was wrong!
It has taken me a long time to pick myself back up after that remark, so I know where you're coming from, keep your head up high, get the min wage + tips & soon your min wage job will have helped you to make a huge achievement, being debt free :T

mountainofdebt

Well they said they would ring today and when they didn't I thought that I really was up the creek.

So I bit the bullet (that's all I seem to be eating at the mo) and rang - apparently they were going to ring but everytime they went to do it they got busy. So I got the job!!!

OH is still unhappy about it - apparently he's concerned that it will be more running around for him ....son goes to cadets twice a week and he thinks means he will always have to go and get him, and that he'll be lumbered with all the cooking and cleaning (which he does do in fairness)

Had abit of a conversation about it and I've told him that son is going to have to pull his weight more (he is abit lazy considering everything we do for him) and told OH that I will give it a month - if its too much then I'll give it up.

So I start Tuesday although in a creeping sort of way I've told them that if they are short staffed tomorrow to give me a ring and I will start tomorrow.

I know OH expects me to fail but I really can't ...even if its to save my marriage