I was so chuffed earlier this evening but

mountainofdebt

and h
I already work so this opportunity is literally a godsend.

To be honest I'm not at all surprised that he's taken this attitude.....I think part of the anger is because he thinks that I hid the debt from him, which as I've said I didn't because the statements were always on the worktop until they got paid but I'm cracking up under the strain of living with the jekyll and hyde character he's become....I've lost nearly a stone in weight over the last 4 weeks to give you some idea.

I really don't know if its worth the strain...especially as in my heart of hearts I really can't say whether we will get through this or whether he is simply biding his time.

floss2

I've done bar work - when ex husband decided not to pay any maintenance - and it's great fun.

Give hubby your little brown envelope with your wages in - so he can see what is going off the debts - and put your tips into your pocket. You have been given that as extra, because your customers want to, not because the boss has to, so use it to perk yourself up now & again

And if things do get so hard that you need a little bit of cash, even if its enough for a bottle of wine to drink on your own, you will have something put by.

:grouphug:
Floss x

Merlot

mountainofdebt wrote: »

and h
I already work so this opportunity is literally a godsend.

To be honest I'm not at all surprised that he's taken this attitude.....I think part of the anger is because he thinks that I hid the debt from him, which as I've said I didn't because the statements were always on the worktop until they got paid but I'm cracking up under the strain of living with the jekyll and hyde character he's become....I've lost nearly a stone in weight over the last 4 weeks to give you some idea.

I really don't know if its worth the strain...especially as in my heart of hearts I really can't say whether we will get through this or whether he is simply biding his time.

Go and do the job, you need it for yourself just now, you are doing this to get out of debt.

Hugs to you, financial matters can bring huge strains on relationships and surely if your OH had any sense he would see you are trying to put things right.

Follow your head, and not your heart as regards to the job.

Babe1

Some really great replies :A

I just wanted to say; whatever you decide to do I hope things work out well for you and good for you :T for trying to find something extra to help you both.

Hugs. x

cassy

tell him instead of bringing you down he should look at how he can increase the household income in joint effots, you are showing comitment is reducing the debt, maybe he needs to show the same comitment, even if he thinks this is your fault, your married and its a joint problem you both need to resolve it, if its just left to you he will not learn any lessons from it,

im sure he didnt say no to the items your debt bought

ikkle87

Go and do the job, yeah £4 an hour might not be a right lot but its £4 an hour more than your getting right now and gives you the opportunity to have a laught and meet some new people.

Princess_Jane

Go for it.

I work two nights a week delivering pizza - after BR tax I only get about £80 in my pay packet, but make about £10-£15 a night in tips and delivery money.

Plus it means I'm not out at a weekend partying and spending.

The lads I work with are all great and I get free pizzas (which freeze very well for emergency tea at the end of the month when the cupboard is bare).

Maybe he's fretting about you being a sexy barmaid, getting chatted up by all the customers.

My fella still flaps about me wandering the streets late at night in my oh-so-alluring uniform.

Mmmm polo shirt and cargo pants, go on wit my bad self.

southernscouser

It's probably his own insecurities that you're gonna get chatted up and leared at by loads of men with big beer bellies. Or if you're really lucky, me!

It might well be minimum wage but it's by no means a crap job. Everyone I know who's done it says it's a really great sociable job.

jak

Go for it. I've just got in tonight from working in a pub. I got £4.80 tips too. Not loads but a welcome extra. I'm a trained teacher but I really enjoy bar work.
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lifesuckssometimes

Princess_Jane wrote: »

Go for it.

I work two nights a week delivering pizza - after BR tax I only get about £80 in my pay packet, but make about £10-£15 a night in tips and delivery money.

Plus it means I'm not out at a weekend partying and spending.

The lads I work with are all great and I get free pizzas (which freeze very well for emergency tea at the end of the month when the cupboard is bare).

Maybe he's fretting about you being a sexy barmaid, getting chatted up by all the customers.

My fella still flaps about me wandering the streets late at night in my oh-so-alluring uniform.

Mmmm polo shirt and cargo pants, go on wit my bad self.

he loves you and is concerned. I am the same with my wife i love her and worry when she is out late at night. Some of us and i am 6'2'' 20st skinhead worry i love the mother of my children. so dont be to hard on us men

ALL I CAN SAY IS GO FOR IT GIRL