What To Give Wife...

galvanizersbaby

Blimey - lots of different points of view here!

I'm a single mum who works full time with 2 children aged 4 and 5 - can't quite see why somebody with a 13 year old child at school wouldn't work and contribute myself but guess there could be many reasons.

When my ex hubbie was around he worked P/T and I worked full time simply for financial reasons due to me being the higher earner - now we are divorced we share the childcare and both work full time

I couldn't imagine being financially dependent on somebody else and having small children - especially somebody that sounds like this OP:D

smudger1964

Scarlett1 wrote: »

I will do it for £20 and cook you a meal each night

Oh yes please ill give you £30 any extras !!

poppyscorner

Personally I think britguy has got exactly what he wants he has got all mse users in a flap and the thread has descended into man hating women hating yet again.

And britguy if you are for real you and your wife deserve to be together you are both acting selfish and its "the kid" that I feel for.

For the record I have 2 kids aged 5 and 18mths and I have always worked ft I am now training to be a nurse also ft and we manage because we compromise.

CB1979_2

Scarlett1 wrote: »

maybe if some men stuck around and put their children first it wouldn't be left to some women to discipline their children :rolleyes:

well the men can't stick around, cos they have to earn money for the lazy women "working" at home, and by providing for their children they are indeed putting the children first.

Sarahjovi

A friend of mine divorced her husband, because he checked every till receipt and the bank statement. And if she wanted to buy something other than regular items, she had to phone him for permission.:eek:

Controlling men:mad:

Sarah:D

OrkneyStar

Just to add, my OH and I each have less than this per week for ourselves. We don't feel the need to 'treat' ourselves to feel worthwhile.
Do you have loads more than her every week ? If so I would consider giving her a bit more. If not, and you are not that well off, then maybe she could work part-time while your child is at school if she really wants more cash to spend on herself ?

daphne_descends

CB1979 wrote: »

WOOOOAAAAAAHHHHHHHH THERE Betty!!!!

isn't MSE the official Women's Liberation/Lezzers appreciation site, never known a site to be full of such man hate as this one, with the occassional decent bargain chucked in for good measure.

it's obvious this is one man's plight that is felt up & down the country day in day out by millions of men and will always be there until civilisation ceases to exist.

also for all you mum's who think looking after a child is a full-time job, i think not!
looking after your own child should be a pleasure, not a chore, so don't come out with that rubbish.

perhaps if more men decided to take the easy option out and bum around all day like the millions of housewives/stay at home mum's (who allegedly "do the house" too, big whoopie doo for you!), then perhaps they could instill some discipline in the children and we wouldn't have this chav culture that is ever present in today's society.

so to all you women, thanks for making the elderly scared of going out at night, you should all be ashamed for helping to bring this country to it's knees (quite rightly where you all belong!)

don't hate the player ladies, hate the game!

You're right, it's not a full time job.

If I was in my full time job (I do have one) then I would have an hour's lunch break everyday, uninterrupted. I would be paid at least the national minimum wage and have working time regulations which restrict the amount of work I could undertake in any given week. I might be paid a bonus for overtime. I'd clock off at 5.30 every day and you wouldn't catch me in the office before 8.00 am. If I was poorly I could take time off and I might even get paid for it. I would have at least 4 weeks paid holidays per year and every bank holiday to myself. I would have appraisals, receive recognition for my achievements, and possibly a pay rise every year.

This isn't a full time job, a full time job is a piece of !!!! in comparison.

The rest of your post is nasty. Very nasty.

asea

Don't feed the troll!

claire1234

wow . .. . well this is an eye opener for me!
giving your wife money?! this is like giving a child some pocket money and to be honest my step kids get more than that a week,

i would honestly not give you wife any money at all apart from what is needed for thing like:
food shopping / kids clothing / kids pocket money / school money / dinner money / travel money / tolitires / petrol/diesel money.

if you pay all the bills (direct debit?) then theres no need for extra money for bills and it doesnt sound like she needs anything really,

my hubby works so all bills are paid from this money and another income is our ebay which i do but i dont expect him to go to work all week then hand his wages over to me, i do ebay during the day along with housework (the usual) do all cooking and cleaning,
tea is always ready when he gets home but this is my choice not his, i enjoy to cook for him but i also want a part time job.
i dont think i really need treat money or something such, if we need anything we just work and how much we have and get it, money is always shared in a way of we share the responsibility of paying the bills,

perhaps you could stop giving her the weekly money and give her more responsibility with the finances and stuff like that?
it is a bit childish giving her weekly money but then again i woudnt give her any at all as if she wanted some pocket money of her own there are dinner lady jobs which work around school times,
perhaps you could help her get a job?

btw do you give you child pocket money?
do you give yourself a allowance?

Emmy_L

I'm not entirely sure why people are in a 'flap' over OP's wife's suppossed poor treatment?
My hubby and I both have £40 per month "pocket money" that he spends on his games for his consoles and I use for meeting friends for lunch,going swimming etc.
Seems to me be very sensible as the rest of our money gets swallowed up in the kids,house,bills etc.
If a person is a smoker,or a drinker,or both and are selfishly racking up money that way,with their partner getting nothing then I could understand the uproar.
However,the wife has spare time,gets to run her own car and the like,so maybe her helping supplement the income is not such a bad idea.