What To Give Wife...

pinkpig08

I cannot understand why so much board-space has been taken up by this troll What's the point in answering his ridiculous post and letting him wind everyone up?

surreysaver

Doesn't she get child benefit and tax credits?

debs66_2

Britguy, are you sure you're not my ex-husband...? (note the ex bit)

you know, once i finally had enough i did so much better without him.:T

geekgirl

If you are fed up of the situation britguy why not quit your job and swap roles for a bit. Let your OH work and bring in the dosh and you have £10 a week luxury money.

PasturesNew

surreysaver wrote: »

Doesn't she get child benefit and tax credits?

That isn't a parent's money. That money is the child's. It pays towards their keep. A Govt contribution.

Tim_UK_3

if the original poster is indeed paying all the bills, food and everything would it not make more sense for the wife to get no money but to ask the husband when money is needed for luxuries so he can decide whether these are indeed required.

miss_edith

I find it interesting that so many people think it is normal to expect half the working husband/wife's wages while they sit at home all day. Personally I'd lose all self-respect if I lived like that. Kids or not, I'd have to work at least part time for my own dignity. I see exactly what the OP's point is.

Reggie_Rebel

£10 a week?

Blimey, hope my missus doesn't read this, she'll want a rise

RoxieW

Ummm - I'm a SAHM with 2 young children, but I can see the guys point.
Being a SAHM should be a joint decision. My hubby is very happy to have me at home looking after our 2 (one school, one preschool) as it makes his life a whole lot easier in ways that would cost more money than I could earn to buy. I take full responsibility for the childcare whereas, when I was working, he had to do his share of rushing home from work to pick them up from nursery or taking time off due to illness etc. I do the majority of the housework and all of the cooking. I also run the finances, make sure bills are paid on time etc.
So at the moment, we are both happy for me to be at home and the money that he earns is our money.

Incidentally, we both have £50 a month for luxuries. If we need more then its discussed with the other for example, when he wanted a ps3.

I'm happy with the situation at the moment as childcare costs/travel etc outweighed the financial benefits of me working - and I wanted to have some quality time with me youngest before he's at fulltime school too.

However, when they're both at fulltime school I'll be very happy to go out to work. You really cant beat the feeling of your wage packet contributing to the family.

Really, unless you live in a 6 bed mansion and keep it spotless, there really wouldn't be enough home 'work' to justify staying at home when the boys are at fulltime school.

I think with a 13 year old, she really should be working and contributing financially to the household - unless both partners are happy for her not to. There are many school hour jobs available and even if not, I was babysitting my siblings at 13 so I dont think a 13 year old needs Mum around at all times.

I do think the 'giving her money' attitude of the OP stinks a bit but I can imagine that there's a frustration and resentment there thats been building for some years.

keelykat

Hi ya, I can understand supporting your wife while she looks after your young baby/toddler as it is a full time job to do this and look after the home etc. However if the child is now 13 and at secondary school-then she could easily fit in a part time job if more money is needed/wanted.

Personally I could not stay at home all day not working at all by that stage. I would want my own bit of income to help support my husband and to give me some self respect and confidence.

Theres nothing wrong with being a 'housewife' when you've got young kids though, and letting your husband look after you-after all as i said it is a full time job at that stage.

I'm not going to get too personal, as everyones situations are different.

keely.