Failure to meet developmental milestones

carolan78

I wouldn't worry either, each child is ready for different things at different stages. As long as he is healthy and happy your doing a great job. (I often feel these milestones can be a factor in pnd cos you are made to feel inadequate if your child fails to follow a stuid chart.)

bonnie_2

There's very few children who don't walk or talk by the time they go to school.
My last dd walked at two and didn't talk till about 3. where as my first could walk and talk at 10 months.
They are all different.

Carmina_Piranha_3

i've seen wildly different developmental charts so i wouldn't worry too much about any one in particular.

my eldest had moderate developmental delay, diagnosed by an educational psychologist. while being a low walker etc. on its own may not be a problem if a child is slow at everything or certain clusters of things then it might indicate a problem for which early intervention will help.

i think the health visitor had always known she would be referring my boy for further investigation. at the two year check she made the referral and he saw specialists in every area. he had lots fo tests but more importantly he was given lots of support from people such as the occupational therapist, speech therapist, play therapist, behaviour psychologist etc. and the help, and having it EARLY in his life made a massive difference, it really did.

catching problems early means the help can be put in place much earlier than it might otherwise have been, and children can get help before they go to school or even before nursery. my boy was given a one to one helper for nursery.

as for my youngest, well there's no problem but he doesn't conform to any charts bless him

mrs_mix

try not to worry as everyone has said all children are different and develop at their own pace

and if anyone ever find's out what normal is can you let me know:D:

bringmeshoes

I said my 1st word at 6 months and walked at 7.5 months wheras my sister did nothing but cry until she was 2 (altho some people argue that she never really stopped ) my mum went the doctors and he said not to worry about it, my sis soon caught up and her mouth nas never stopped since so i wouldn't worry too much about him

Mado

I agree with other posters: it's probably nothing to worry about.
You don't look at adults and think"Oh, I bet you only started walking at 18 months...":D
On the other hand, sometimes, it is worth following up. One of my friend's little boy was very reluctant to walk. He also had other development issues. He was diagnosed with dyspraxia and given help.
He has now caught up with his peer group. So whilst it is wise not to worry too much, it is also important to catch any real issues as early as possible to ensure the child can get the bit of extra help, should he need it.

poppyscorner

Thanks for all the advice,

I appreciate that every child is different there are big differences between DS1 and my step DD (and I was involved in her life from being a yr old) they developed differently DS2 however is a worry because he is slower than usual and I think I just feel that something isnt right with him he is under review at the hospital still seeing the DR who described him as the slower side of normal thanks to the people who posted the links especially its good to get an idea of age ranges for milestones.

Thanks again poppy xx

LillyJ

Doctors only investigate/worry if they are not walking unaided (ie not using furniture/parents hands). That does not however mean that there is definately something wrong at this age.
Most kids are walking unaided by 15 months, and some start at 12 months. It is a spectrum of normal, and depends on other milestones and medical history.