Failure to meet developmental milestones

poppyscorner

Hi all,

I was wondering if anyone can point me in the direction of the timescales children have to meet their developmental milestones. Specifically when official guidance says they should walk, DS2 is described by Dr's as being at "the slower end of the normal scale" and I wanted to know what this is based on by looking at facts and figures.

Thanks in advance
Poppy

alwaysonthego_2

How old is your son?

Children are individuals and some are slower then others, but more efficent in othr areas. They develop at their own rate!

pantsdr

Hi,

I've posted a link which i used during my paediatrics module. Hope it helps.x

http://www.dbpeds.org/milestones.html

Js_Other_Half

http://www.nappyinformationservice.co.uk/articles_development.htm

http://www.gpnotebook.co.uk/simplepage.cfm?ID=1362427941

Fourcandles_3

I know it's a harsh thing to hear, but try to think about it unemotionally if you can.

The Doctor is saying he is on the slower end of NORMAL. Many kids, especially boys just take ages to start doing things then do everything at once;) My son had to go back to be re-assesed after an extra 3 months and now has caught up.

If he is struggling and needs extra support then you have a doctor who seems on the ball, rather than DS carrying on and struggling to keep up with his peers.

I really wish you the best of luck.

Elliesmum

pantsdr wrote: »

Hi,

I've posted a link which i used during my paediatrics module. Hope it helps.x

http://www.dbpeds.org/milestones.html

Hi there

Thanks for this link, this is really useful for me. By the way it says that imitates housework at 18 months - well my husband hasn't managed to master this in 38 years :rotfl: :rotfl:

Sorry couldn't resist!!

EM xx

alwaysonthego_2

At the moment I am completing a module in child developement milestones as we speak. Personally speaking as a mother, I really dislike children being labelled has being normal or not normal. Children are individuals and maybe more developed in their language but slower in their physical development.

My dd1 did not walk until she was 18 months old but was clearly drawing people's faces. Obviously if the child is 2 and not walking it would be a worry.

Cissi

As others have said, it's hugely variable, even within the same family. DS1 walked at 13 months, DS2 not until 17 months (he was a bottom shuffler, and they tend to walk later). If anything, DS2 is more physically agile than DS1

Nenen

None of my three children walked until they were 18 months old... I despaired with ds1 as was heavily pregnant with dd and still having to lug him around! I was told by my health visitor that the age children start walking is strongly genetically linked so if their mum or dad was a late walker then there is a strong chance their children will be too. When I asked my mum and mil, sure enough, both dh and I walked late too!

The amazing thing was for all three of mine that they went from not walking or even being interested in standing, to getting up, taking a few tentative steps and then starting toddling happily all in one day! I guess they were just ready for it!

My ds1 also performed badly in those tests health visitors do (don't know if they still do them these days but he was given bricks and encouraged to build towers etc, which he simply looked blankly at). When many of my friend's children were already starting to string 2-3 words together at two years old, e.g. 'daddy gone car' my son was still only saying single words. He worried the life out of me and I felt very inadequate as a mother.

Fast forward 22 years... he graduated from Nottingham University last year, has a great job in science research at Cambridge University, has a black belt in martial arts and cycles 15 miles per day! I think I can safely say that he managed to overcome his slow start!

MegS

I shouldn't worry too much about it, if you feel everything is 'right' with him then that's good enough. My son was born on the bigger end of the scale and had his own centile line throughout the HV kept saying he was too big, then measured his length and conceded he was all in proportion. He crawled early and then walked and climbed everything in sight but didn't talk until gone two. I had a right battle with the HV who insisted I send him to the speech therapist (when I finally agreed just to shut her up they concluded he had a 'moderate slight speech delay', amazing I knew that already). They didn't seem to understand that he was so busy doing the climbing and running that he couldn't learn to talk as well (his fine motor skills were excellent as well). A friend's son the same age talked from 8 months but didn't learn to walk until after two. His vocabulary was fantastic, full sentences and all. They all develop at different rates and different times for different things. If you are happy with everything else then don't worry about it. IME if your child isn't 'textbook' the experts panic nowadays and most can't seem to see outside of the box.

hobo28

As others have said, try not to worry. I remember with my DD she didn't walk until she was nearly 18 months old. Didn't even crawl until she was about 16 months old where she developed this funny dead leg shuffle rather than proper crawling.

She's 11 now and is perfectly normal and excellent academically. My point is that just because your son is slower to learn to do one thing doesn't mean there's anything wrong with him.