Finances vs living situation (not sure what to do)

flower_72

If you think you'd be happy living at the other place, then I would go for it.
If the move is seen as beneficial by your girlfriend as it is by yourself, go ahead. You'll both be saving yourself a lot. Although living in shared accommodation is much more restrictive than in a house shared by a couple. I know, I couldn't go back to that. If it's a case of money versus freedom, I'll have to choose freedom even if it costs.

However I don't understand the 3 steps in rent levels, the sliding scale you are describing. That does really puzzle me! What is that about?
Good luck with your new place:p

Incisor

redrabbit29 wrote: »

That was basically it. Save up for a deposit quicker so I/we can get onto the housing ladder. Remember it would be cheaper for her too, as she would undoubtedly have less outgoings living at home, even if it was just cheaper rent.

What does she want or think of this idea? You have discussed this with her before coming here and asking a load of strangers?

lil_me

Does the rent for the room at the other house include all bills. If not it's usually cheaper sharing the bills with a partner, food costs etc. It may work out worse off because of that.

pennylane99

are you going to be sharing the house with strangers

so you will be doing all your own cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing...;)

how far away will the g/f be, and travelling time/costs to meet up

your post is all about what YOU will get out of it if you move...what does your g/f think of your idea, and for her to be moving back in with family after being living independently for several years.

to me, this idea just looks like an excuse to get out of the relationship

LillyJ

I think the fact that you state in your OP that you get on "OK" with you gf speaks volumes.

It is a very bizzare thing to do to save money, especially when money is not tight (you have £600 spare at the end of every month).

Just admit you are looking for a way out of the relationship! If my OH said he was up and moving 16 miles away to save a couple of hundred quid a month I wouldn't expect things to carry on as they are.

dopester

redrabbit29 wrote: »

I have the opportunity to rent a bedroom in a house about 16 miles away (next to where I work).

Think about how much extra time you'll get to sleep in every weekday morning.

And how much quicker you'll get home.

That alone gets it my vote.

Time is money. I've got a 12 mile trip to work (when I go in) and traffic is a right pain most mornings.. so less travelling stress too.

LillyJ

dopester wrote: »

Think about how much extra time you'll get to sleep in every weekday morning.

And how much quicker you'll get home.

That alone gets it my vote.

Time is money. I've got a 12 mile trip to work (when I go in) and traffic is a right pain most mornings.. so less travelling stress too.

True but he'll have to go and visit his girlfriend (unless they split up in which case moving would be the obvious choice!)

Lavendyr

dopester wrote: »

Think about how much extra time you'll get to sleep in every weekday morning.

And how much quicker you'll get home.

That alone gets it my vote.

Time is money. I've got a 12 mile trip to work (when I go in) and traffic is a right pain most mornings.. so less travelling stress too.

Fair enough, but if you love someone and want to live with them, it can be worth the extra commute. My OH and I both commute an hour each way to work, so that we can live together. It's certainly worth it for us, but everyone has different priorities. Time isn't just money - I'd rather spend every evening with my OH than be home on my own and save a few quid, no question about it.

dannynixon

The OP is laughable. My GF would have me out if I was like him...

margaretclare

dannynixon wrote: »

The OP is laughable. My GF would have me out if I was like him...

......and also, he's not 'into' getting married.

What is he 'into' then? Getting on the housing ladder, but not getting married, not even in the long-term? Not planning on starting a family then, so why get on the housing ladder? Most of us wanted a house to raise a family in - oh, I forgot, we usually got married first.