Calling all you night owls

smashedbooboo

Oh dear BFL. Welcome back hun, Sorry to hear how things have been going. I do know to well how you feel about losing the baby. I was once pregnant but lost it very early on. Very early. But we had been trying for so long that to me it was a baby. And i was devastated. The stupid !!!!!! of a doctor said to why are you crying. You cant have got used to being pregnant already. If i could have got off my bed he would have ended up being a dickless wonder. I tried IVF but that failed too. It maybe your OH is not dealing with things very well about the loss of the baby. And i dont think the fact not having grandparents is an excuse for not having anymore children. It sounds like he is hurting too babe. Its just that men are to damn stubborn to show they actually feelings like that. Have you had counselling hun. If you want to talk about having more kids and pour your heart out then do with us for now. If you feel like saying something to your other half write it here first. Or PM what you want to say to him to one of us. That way you have said it and got it out. Then if you feel you do want to say it to him it will have given you time to think if its the right time to do so. Emotions must be running riot in your house now. And you have had to a lot of grieving to do recently. Give that one yr old a massive cuddle. And tell him how special he is. He is precious. And if you want to tell him in your own way that by now or very soon he would have had a baby brother or sister then you do so babe. I to grieved around my due date. Its not a bad thing you know. For now take care of you and your little one. You are 2 very special people. And maybe see if you can talk to your OH when things have calmed down. Dont forget, when people are hurting they say hurtful things back. Its their way of dealing with things, Unless he is like that all the time. And if he is then you know where we are honey. x x x x x x Dont forget.

piglet29

you ok wendy?? xx

Night-owl_6

This is how Ill look in the morning


LOL

boredofbeingathome

Very well said smashed.

butterflylady

Hi Wendy, I'm sorry your going through a bad situation too. I hope your OH comes back with a clear head and the will to make your realtionship work.

I don't understand his attitude to the October baby, he's been really supportive about the first baby I lost (not his). Esp when I thought I was miscarrying my son.

I think the whole girl thing is hard because I am convinced that the babies I have lost are girls, if I am pregnant and am sick I lost the baby, well thats how its worked so far. With DS I only felt sick all the time I wasn;t actually sick with him until the 12 week period and then only twice.

Some days I just want to take my DS and run away. I know thats not possible as I dont want him to come from a broken home. On a practical note we;red have no where to go and not a lot of money as I only work 3 days a week.

Night-owl_6

This cat has the right ideal

boredofbeingathome

Just been mooching around, as you do and there is another nightowl thread in the arms. Cheeky monkeys.

piglet29

Aww smashed you just made me cry, but as bob said sooo very well said xx

piglet29

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Just been mooching around, as you do and there is another nightowl thread in the arms. Cheeky monkeys.

Quick bob, go tell them theres only ONE nightowl thread:eek:

Just_Me_4

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Just been mooching around, as you do and there is another nightowl thread in the arms. Cheeky monkeys.

:eek: what!!! how dare they!