Advice pls for [dissapointing] son who has left girlfriend.

neverdespairgirl

hpsaucey wrote: »

He had been trying to leave her for months but she kept forgiving him. .

You don't "try to leave", you just do.

Short of suing her for the£300, he needs to put it down to experience and move on.

pinkshoes

I'd say your son needs to grow some balls, grow up, and become a man. There's no such thing as "trying to leave", and having an affair to try and get her to throw him out is pathetic.

He should learn from his childish behaviour, forget the money, and move on. It's only a small amount of money, so not worth chasing considering what a prat he was!!

Although you're not proud of what he's done, you should offer him a room give him 2 weeks to find a new job, and he can pay you some rent out of his earnings until he can afford to rent his own place.

mlz1413

You and your son know he has behaved badly, he also now knows that he made a bad choice of gf and bad choice of job with gf (or gf through job - same result). AND he now knows that the finanical decision he agree to was bad.

He needs to draw a line under the whole sorry situation and the money side and move on. Hard yes but unless he wants to waste a lot of time and energy being involved with her and her Mum for an untold amount of time probably getting nowhere is best just to as everyone else has said put it down to experiance.


Your son had debts when he moved in with gf and still has the same debts now, he needs to sort them out himself get a job at McDonalds or Tescos get a part time job as a barman or a cleaner and get the money together to start again, a better job will come along.

You are his Mum and not his fairy godmother, be there for him but don't do everything for him, to be a responsible adult you need to let him make mistakes and sort them out.

beer_tins

He needs to cut all ties (financial arrangements etc.) and put it down to experience. He might as well write off the money, it's not a lot. Most people would lose a lot more money through a break-up! The only thing he may have a claim to is the £150 unpaid wages, but on the other hand he didn't give any notice to leave work, so I'm not sure what his rights would be. At any rate, it's not worth going after it, he needs to put a line under it and move on.

Rabiddog_2

He shouldn't cut all ties.. he will need these for His job interviews. Sounds like he got wot he deserved, to be honest...

hpsaucey

Thanks to everyone for their comments good and bad
He is writing it off as bad behaviour on his part and staying at a mates to sort himself out. Worked through an agency even though the job was the same place her mother worked, so he's trying to get a job somewhere else [he is 28 by the way]He had no debts when he moved in with her and any debts incurred since he has paid if they were in his name and half if in her name[except her personal debts] All new contracts SKY etc have been cancelled and except for a few nasty phonecalls from his ex he will be ok and she will be with her families help. so thanks again for all your comments and as someone said THATS LIFE get used to it.