Private school fees (merged)

Rikki

Mado wrote: »

Do you really believe thta it is a good thing for young children to spend such long days in the classroom and then weeks on end on holidays?

Saw my BIL last weekend. Both girls (same age as my kids, 8 and 10) go to school from 8.30 and come home around 6.30 or 7.30pm with all the afterschool clubs. No saturdays. I really don't want that for my own children and can't see how this is an aspiration.

Its not all day in the class room so its not really as it sounds.

Its some form of sports in the afternoons for a couple of hours, or cadets, D of E, matches against other schools on Wednesday or free sports for those not in teams ie: squash, swimming etc. Some times there is another academic less on afterwards, but not always.

At a private school its just not about academic lessons. There are so many other activities the children get involved in. They have some great inter house competitions. Both academic and funny ones. These are all done during the day. The plays and concerts are presented in the evening.

If I had to take him to all the extra activities he was involved in, not only would it cost me a fortune but I would be forever taking and collecting him from somewhere.

We make are choices because it suits our lifestyle. We are all different and thats what makes the world go round.

Dick_here

meester wrote: »

Are you really so ignorant of the country we live in?

Exactly. I won't quote your post in full, but it goes to prove my point. And I see the beginnings of it in some children in primary school. As you said to back me up, some people are so out of touch. And it's that attitude that is allowing the problem to get worse.

Mado

Rikki wrote: »

Its not all day in the class room so its not really as it sounds.

Its some form of sports in the afternoons for a couple of hours, or cadets, D of E, matches against other schools on Wednesday or free sports for those not in teams ie: squash, swimming etc. Some times there is another academic less on afterwards, but not always.

At a private school its just not about academic lessons. There are so many other activities the children get involved in. They have some great inter house competitions. Both academic and funny ones. These are all done during the day. The plays and concerts are presented in the evening.

If I had to take him to all the extra activities he was involved in, not only would it cost me a fortune but I would be forever taking and collecting him from somewhere.

We make are choices because it suits our lifestyle. We are all different and thats what makes the world go round.

Well, Ricki, I was just comparing what my nieces are doing with waht my children are doing.
Of course variety is a good thing. But under no circumstances would I want my children to be away from home for longer than an adult workday.

I was watching my kids playing in the garden recently: it was all make believe and left to their imagination. Something that my nieces don't get since their time is always taken by organised activities.

I believe kids need time away from organised activities, just to be themselves. There was an excellent program on Radio 4 recently stating that we are ruining children by not letting have small amounts of boredom... that they learn to fill for themselves.

Rikki

Mado wrote: »

Well, Ricki, I was just comparing what my nieces are doing with waht my children are doing.
Of course variety is a good thing. But under no circumstances would I want my children to be away from home for longer than an adult workday.

I was watching my kids playing in the garden recently: it was all make believe and left to their imagination. Something that my nieces don't get since their time is always taken by organised activities.

I believe kids need time away from organised activities, just to be themselves. There was an excellent program on Radio 4 recently stating that we are ruining children by not letting have small amounts of boredom... that they learn to fill for themselves.

Thats why all children are different. They all blossom but in different ways.
One child may be happy sitting colouring all afternoon, while the next is happiest running around in the garden.

You never can beat the feeling of any proud Mum watching her children play. They grow up too quick.

usa1

setmefree2 wrote: »

I'm not trying to be funny but do you think it was worth it - as in value for money? Why did you have so little faith in your state school?

It all depends where you live - Our local state schools are poorly run baby sitting service (primary)/over funded youth clubs at best(secondary). No -one would spend 7-10K a year on fees willy nilly without some research. Private school is not the luxury it once was, its more `just another bill`. . You may lucky to live in a good state school area. Many, many parents are not so lucky.

borntobefree

benood wrote: »

Surely you recognise a stirrer B2BF

Thanks I hadn't realised but it's obvious when you point it out.:o:rolleyes:

"Anyway, I've emailed my accountant to try and find out what the rules are and if I glean any further information, I'll keep you posted (ED permitting :rolleyes:)". Siganature of !!!!!! Here

This comes directly from a post made by Dithering Dad in post 14 on the following thread
(http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=874183

See Post 14

OMG it's Dithering Dad. How could you do that to me? you WUM or is that a troll? Feral Indeed. ;-(

natalie1974

borntobefree wrote: »

Thanks I hadn't realised but it's obvious when you point it out.:o:rolleyes:

"Anyway, I've emailed my accountant to try and find out what the rules are and if I glean any further information, I'll keep you posted (ED permitting :rolleyes:)". OMG it's Dithering Dad - How could he do that to me? That's too bad. :-(http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=874183

see post 14

i am lost

borntobefree

Hi Natalie,

It would appear that a poster called Dithering Dad and !!!!!! Here are one and the same. This is the poster that called state kids "feral"/ animals. Lets hope he was just being a WUM (wind or merchant or otherwise known as a troll!;)) and doesn't actually mean it hey.

natalie1974

Sorry , being a bit thick tonight ! Good job I wasn't privately educated or it would have been a complete waste of money eh :rotfl: Tongue in cheek joke

borntobefree

Hi

It's not that interesting honest:D and you are definitely not being thick:D.

B2bF