Loopy_Girl wrote: »
Oooh JN will be delighted that this thread is still going - exactly what he wants.
No, I don't know best. Those comments (if you can be bothered to read correctly) were aimed at the selfish pigs that commit suicide and leave their children without a father. At no time did I defend any PWC who stops the NRP wanting contact with their children.
Get your facts right and direct your anger to someone else - preferably your ex where it is deserved.
But since you ask, men that go on the dole to avoid paying CSA? wow, they are REAL men eh? NOT
war1974 wrote: »
trust me i gave up on anger a long time ago but MOTHERS or PWC lets face it there are very few men who actually get any form of custody then stop ex's seeing there children it CAN drive even the most SANE of people to consider or commit suicide!
maybe if you experience the pain and anguish some people go through then you would understand it more!
my ex stopped my children from having thier biological father in their lives so does that not have the same effect as if i was DEAD?
... seems strange that there are alot of women on here!
...turned against me by the mum and new daddy
Mercian wrote: »
My experience of the CSA (I'm a single dad btw) is that they do try but their procedures seem designed to be slow...like trying to run over a weasel with a glacier. My ex girlfriend made one payment of £50 and that was it. She makes no effort to see her son. (or daughter by previous r'ship according to that dad) I agree that there are other issues at work in some of these suicides etc... My ex left/got sacked from her work and so the IR has to do a trawl to see if she turns up anywhere else...the CSA in cases like these should be waving the stick and demanding the info...it only takes a call to update the CSA. After all those without the kiddies have more time than those of us who do (I work as well) Its an offence not to give info to the CSA and but when I suggested using that option to concentrate my ex's mind they seemed reluctant to do it. My option now is to use the Small Claims Court, both for the arrears and the court costs she was ordered to pay.
After all those without the kiddies have more time than those of us who do (I work as well)
war1974 wrote: »
i hope they all lose there jobs when the agency is shut down!!!
ANNIEHAHA wrote: »
Having gone through depression and anxisty over the last two years I know the feeling and darkness it leaves you in
We also have CSA arrears and constantly recieved letters asking us to pay huge lump sums and monthly what would leave us penniless
put these two together and I had both and I see how it pushes you over the edge, add to this fathers not being able to see kids or only for a limited time, life can be very lonely
the fathers leave the women NOT the children (I am talking about the ones that are there and want to pay)
When these dads are on their own evenings and weekends with no money or company I can understand
MENTAL HEALTH is a serious problem and relentless targeting of dads who are there for their kids WILL sometimes tip them over the edge
There are always two sides, this is mine, married to a dad, being penalised, while she claims, works, goes on holidays and has even lived in a boyfriends house and had his mortgage paid and yet they dont seem to be catching her at it even though they know!
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