Broody but can't have baby

starbump

I don't know if you can get rid of a "broody" feeling but I do think it is hard to live without choices. E.g. if adoption is a possibility in the future then you might not feel as restricted in the present. Perhaps ask your partner simply not to rule anything out as you don't know what the future may hold? It might change your feelings sufficiently for the present and it doesn't involve too large a commitment on his part, so I think it's a reasonable request. (Btw, I too think it's a male thing to be against adoption - my hubby feels the same, although it's not an issue for us.)

choccyface2006

From reading your post you seem unsure if you can have children rather than certain, maybe you have had tests which show you are unlikly to have children but at least it sounds to me like there is a chance?

My friend was quite sure that she could not have children after over 10 years of trying and a laparoscopy that showed she has so much scar tissue that had completly blocked her falopian tubes making natural conception impossible (so she thought)

She had one cycle of IVF which was very unsucessful (only a couple of eggs harvested and no embryos deleveloped to implant) She was very unhappy and resigned herself to a life withoutout children.

But, then she felt ill, did a test to rule it out and she was pregnant! Her son was born 4 years ago and she became pregnant again 6 months later (but had a miscarriage ) But earlier this year she gave birth to her daughter and her family is now complete.

Miracle can and do happen. Good luck

Sarah xx

Js_Other_Half

grey_lady wrote: »

Going back to an earlier post, I thought that all NHS areas had to offer one round of IVF? there are also schemes set up by private clinics to reduce fees for those willing to share eggs.

In our area the waiting list is 3 years long, and you can only join after 35. You will also be taken off it once you have your 40th birthday...

Oh, and as we paid for IVF for DS, we are not entitled to our 'free' attempt any more...:rolleyes:

GlasweJen

It's a medical thing, I had appendixitis and the appendix blew in the way causing loads of damage to fallopian tubes and intestines. Couple months later they removed the ovary on the other side due to a huge cyst. I still have the ovary on the right side but no one can tell if it's actually working and if it is does it have a clear path to the uterus.

Can't get onto IVF list until I'm 35 and I have a disability that will be worse with age, I would rather the kid was up and about before I got to the stage where I needed help from others. You see these kids on TV who spend their childhood caring for their parents and I wouldn't wish that on any child and I wouldn't intentionally do it.

mum2one

Its a feeling you have, but you manage it - i was told when I was 25, it was very unlikely Id had children and to an extent, in my mind of minds there would the odd I wish, but most of the time it didnt bother me, between the gae of 22 and 30 I had 4 miscarriages, and it upset me, but it also strengthened my belief that I was never destined to be a mother my dd was born in 2002, Id only been with her dad for 2mths then I found out I was expecting, he and his ex wife had tried for 10 yrs and no go, the wierd thing is I feel broody to an extent, I know because of my helath problems Id only have 1% chance if I was lucky and my body wouldnt cope with a pregnancy. Yet I feel envious of friends that have gone on to have their 1st, 2nd child etc.
The female mind, I dont even understand it myself x

emilyx78

:rotfl: I have a dead cert cure,

hes called Barney hes my 10 year old son, I can say without a doubt 1 week with him and you will never be broody again....

:rotfl:

GlasweJen

My sister said the same and I took her up on it. a week with 2 kids under 4, one with special needs and i was even worse than ever, didn't want to give them back.

emilyx78

ok fine, when can I drop him off

PLEASE....

GlasweJen

lol any time after 3 tomorrow

Paparika

awww GlasweJen I had days when i felt really broody,

I am luckily i have a son, (was told i couldn't have kids) and my son proved them wrong, i then got pg again but this one wasn't to be, I had to wait until i was 12 weeks before they would do anything even tho i knew the baby had died at 4(that i can live with)
The problem was an incompetent jnr surgeon who pierced my womb whilst doing a D&C, it left me in a position that yes i could conceive but not carry. I was placed on the list for fertility but i split up with the hubby by then, and once i hit 30 decided that sterilization was the way for me to stop the upset of ever thinking i could have children again. I still want another child but know this will never happen, and think that as i am not in a relationship it would be wrong for me to bring another child into this world if i could not support it.

Remember you will always be the best Aunty in the world, you will get through this you really will. Best of luck to you. :A