Help in ideas for a funeral tea

beemuzed

Moany-moany - I am so sorry to hear about your Mum. Mine died at the end of January, so I know how it feels. I don't think I can add much to the list, as everything we had seems already to have been mentioned - but I would agree that if you can get others to help it's a good idea. I know making food keeps you busy and helps to sop you thinking too much, but it's also an added pressure that you could do without. My brother did most of the food prep for Mum's funeral, but I'd have happily paid for a caterer as it just seemed one more thing that we had to do. Take care of yourself.

moanymoany

Thank you everyone. I've taken all the ideas and I will devise a simple menu from them. There were loads of ideas I hadn't thought of, so what you've all said is very welcomed.

moany

peb

Another set of sympathies to you. One thing that was served at a funeral recently and was popular was pizza. If you are not up to cooking it (and I am sure you are not at the moment) pre bought ones from ASDA/Morrisons fresh counter seem to be recommended. Can be served hot or cold.

NoahsPennilessMummy

Sorry for your loss.

i think its all been covered really.....just wanted to say, don`t worry about it all being OS, if you need to buy a few ready mades to cut corners then so be it.
Most people will probably just want a bit of a sandwich and slice of cake to be honest.
You have your own grieving to do and may not need the added pressure of sorting food out from scratch so dont beat yourself up over it.

take care
claire

jumpingjackd

So sorry about your mum. My sympathies are with you. It is a difficult time.

Last year when my mum died we went to an hotel and had arranged a buffet of mixed sandwiches, sausage rolls, shortbread and scones with cream and jam (a favourite of hers). Plus tea/coffee and a couple of drinks.

Dont put a lot of work into it and try and get others in to help you if possible.

blueneleh

I also wanted to send my condolences to you.

Everyone has covered most things but I just wanted to add the suggestion of cheese straws. These can be made a couple of days before and kept in airtight boxes and then placed straight out or heated in the oven.

Take Care

janeyd2

So sorry about your loss, don't panic about the food people don,t expect gourmet. Rope in as much help as you can,specially on the day. Have a look on M&s website, Waitrose etc. they all do entertaining ranges and might give you some ideas, even some hotel afternoon tea lines can help.
I know you want to do your best in honour of your mum and for your stepdad but you also have to look after you.
Take care.

noonesperfect

:grouphug: I just wanted to add my condolences too.

My sympathies are with you I lost my Mum 3 years ago so I know how tough it is.

When my Dad died we held the wake at a nice country pub he'd often enjoyed meals as Mum didn't want the house full of people. They over-catered unfortunately and we were eating leftovers for days after - when we least felt like it.
When my Mum died it was a smaller affair at home but using a local lady caterer. TBH I can't remember what she produced in the way of food but everything suggested above sounds good. As well as wine and tea there was also jugs of chilled elderflower cordial, which was popular.
The funeral tea is probably the last thing you do for them and i don't think there is any need to be too OS.

thriftmonster

When my FIL died we bought the ready packaged sandwiches from Tesco, cut the halves into quarters diagonally and arranged them on disposable platters with parsley garnish, mixing up the varieties. They looked like the catered platters - but saved us a load of time and hassle (and cost). This gave me more time to do HM scones etc which people really liked. We also did open sandwiches of wheaten bread with value smoked salmon on the top.

A cheese board went down well with a couple of mixed boxes of crackers.

Good luck - and sorry to hear about your loss.

specialK

Firstly, I offer you my condolences ((hugs))

Everyone has already given really good suggestions here.

How about a savory rice, mixed with small peppers, red onion, peas, ham or chicken and tossed in olive oil. Sprinkle a bit of paprika on finished dish. Also how about vol-au-vonts? You could use campbells condensed soup for convenience sauces , like the mushroom or chicken.

When I am rushed, I make fairy cakes but add jam and cream like victoria sandwich etc. Or lemon fairy cakes, with meringue on top. Really quick to make and saves cutting larger cakes.

Thinking of you xxx.