Living My Dreams - My New Happy Diary!!

Sea78

Hi all.

Am at work a the moment - break time.

Still not been able to catch up with all the posts i've missed - will just have to read from now and ask if i've missed big bits!

The drama of the family from hell continues - now discovered that b-i-l really really dislikes me and has told OH to divorce me. Why would someone hate me that much? I've never done anything to him and I really don't undertstand why someone would be that horrible. ALso found out a few other things about OH's family in general and the depths they would sink to in order to get revenge (like going for custody etc). Thankfully OH and I are on track again, but it really worries me to think that if one day I was faced with him and I splitting, not only would I have to deal with the break up of my family, but also the repercussions from his family. I've never experienced a family like it before. If I had known, it certainly would have put me off! Comments have been made about the fact that I didn't see his mum after her cancer diagnosis for a month - I didn't think she'd want to see me at hospital, the kids couldn't go and then I was ill and didn't want to pass it on! !!!!!!.

I'm now unsure as to what to do for the best, I want to have as little to do with them as possible. OH can take the kids for events and stuff but I really don't think I can go and be that two faced to try to get on with people who I know wouldn't even spit on me if I was on fire. I give up.

Soryr - bit of a rant, but it's upset me and for once I'm actually feeling on top of things and can think clearly. I also am not being paranoid as it's happened to all those who are 'outsiders' and I'm the only one left, as all the other relationships in the family have split
I told OH but he says it's nonense, but then he would. Secrets and lies.

Anyway, trying this new month to do a spending diary - gone a bit wild recently! Will attempt to get that under control!

Hope all are well

Sea xxxx

boredofbeingathome

I would follow your gut instinct sea. sometimes it is a me or them situation and at the end of the day, they are your children as well.
Don't let them dictate your life, we all moan about our family and there has to be give and take, not give all the time, as you seem to be doing (forgive me if i have misread that)
It maybe best to confront the situation with them all, but i know you feel down..so that is probably not an option at the moment.
keep plugging away at it...Bob x

Lucy1982_2

Hey Sea.

I am so sorry your having a tough time with them. I don't really know what to say other than you are a great Mum and a fab person and if they don't see that then it's their problem.

As for them going to custody... Only in a situation where a child would be 'unsafe or vunerable' would they take them away from you. It sounds like they are just a bunch of threatening idiots!! If I can be honest.

If you don't want to go to 'family' events then don't, and if you do it doesn't mean you have to talk to them. I have family I refuse to talk to, suits me fine!!

Take care hun xx

In_Search_Of_Me

Are you ok?Not see you on much & worried about you as so much going on at the moment Hope youre ok & cj is coming on - mine is untouched so far so must get on with it as its posting on Weds!! eek!! Have been feeling uninspired by that but been doing lots of cooking & researching for o/s stuff...Sorry to hreat family are a mare - would be inclined to keep my distance. You need people like that like a hole in the head! Families - cant live with em & cant shoot them!! Hugs for you!!! Here if you ever want a chat! (literally here usually!!) see if you can get skype & then we can chat for free to our hearts content!! Hang in there!!

Snaggles

Hi Sea, sorry things haven't been great, I'm glad you and OH are back on track a bit more now, but it can't be easy, dealing with his family.

The custody issue is just them blowing hot air to try to scare you - goodness knows why they feel the need to do it, but it says much more about them than you hun.

And if you mil was having cancer treatment, it was very important that you didn't go in to see her while you were ill, as her immune system may have been massively suppressed and you could have made her very seriously ill indeed. It doesn't sound to me as though you have done anything wrong at all.

Families are such strange, tricky things - I think friends are gods way of apologising!

Sea78

Thanks

I went out last night - and didn't drink!!! (well had two drinks in the whole night) and so feeling good today Also OH couldn't give me any abuse r carry on which using follows a night out so also feeling rather good about that too.

Not been posting much as haven't had much to say really - not much to add on others threads as have been quite introverted - sorry:)

Been doing various self help things recently - ordered feel the fear and do it anyway with some survey amazon vouchers and it's brilliant - read it before but lost my copy. It's really helping. The fact I went out, was able to dance and be confident etc without being drunk shows it is!!

CJ still needs to be finished - think I will do that today - the bits I want to add have changed so I need to get it done before they change again! Is it just one more now ISOM and then our own one back?

I do hope all are well

Sea xxxx

Snaggles

Well done on not drinking and still feeling confident - that's something I really struggle with. I don't drink often really, but if I'm going out, I HAVE to have a drink otherwise I would be sat in the corner terrified all night.

Maybe I should try reading that book too.

taka

Hmmmm me too...

Sea78

I didn't honestly think it would make any difference and felt a little silly doing affirmations, but they really really helped!! Still in shock!

The book is by Susan jeffers and I def recommend it!

Sea xxx

hypno06

The little things really DO make a difference - stick with them, and you will continue to see improvements!

xx