Can't take any more of this selling/buying stress. Staying put!

dottyotty

I will memorise and learn the following lessons.......

1. Nothing is set in stone and there are no guarantees until completion day, things can go wrong and chains can be broken at any point.
2. Make sure that you can afford to write off cash for mortgage applications, homebuyers surveys, and solicitors search fees... they aren't refundable if things go wrong.
3. My house is only worth as much as someone is prepared to pay for it, and even then it's only worth that when the exchange has gone to 'completion'.
4. I will never trust an estage agent who only finds me a 'buyer' after I have asked them to stop marketing my house.. especially when the said buyer is a 'friend' of the estate agent employee, and is supposedly a in a 'very good position with funds waiting to invest', and the said employee has now been made redundant and the supposedly 'solid investor' now cannot raise the funds! Add to this a catalogue of errors that are almost a sitcom, including me sitting on the settee feeding baby when a complete stranger (an employee of the estate agent) walks into my living room after letting himself into my house to do a viewing that they hadn't bothered to tell me about! :mad: One of many mistakes buts its ok because they say sorry so nicely.
5. Never trust an estate agent whose glossy folder says in big beautiful glossy writing that they will take the stress out of moving. They don't.
6. Our house move has fallen through, but I have wonderful children, a wonderful husband, we have our health, and we have a roof over our heads .....albeit not the roof we wanted, oh well, some things are perhaps just not meant to be.

Thank you for letting me vent, we are staying put and catching our breath for a while now, maybe another day or another year the market will be better for everyone.

Dottyotty x

nelly_2

what:?......

dottyotty

nelly wrote: »

what:?......

I don't understand why you are saying "what:?...."

I was posting about the lessons I've learnt from trying to move house. Is this forum about house buying/selling? Why are you asking 'what?'

So_Sad_Angel

dottyotty wrote: »

I will memorise and learn the following lessons.......

1. Nothing is set in stone and there are no guarantees until completion day, things can go wrong and chains can be broken at any point.
2. Make sure that you can afford to write off cash for mortgage applications, homebuyers surveys, and solicitors search fees... they aren't refundable if things go wrong.
3. My house is only worth as much as someone is prepared to pay for it, and even then it's only worth that when the exchange has gone to 'completion'.
4. I will never trust an estage agent who only finds me a 'buyer' after I have asked them to stop marketing my house.. especially when the said buyer is a 'friend' of the estate agent employee, and is supposedly a in a 'very good position with funds waiting to invest', and the said employee has now been made redundant and the supposedly 'solid investor' now cannot raise the funds! Add to this a catalogue of errors that are almost a sitcom, including me sitting on the settee feeding baby when a complete stranger (an employee of the estate agent) walks into my living room after letting himself into my house to do a viewing that they hadn't bothered to tell me about! :mad: One of many mistakes buts its ok because they say sorry so nicely.
5. Never trust an estate agent whose glossy folder says in big beautiful glossy writing that they will take the stress out of moving. They don't.
6. Our house move has fallen through, but I have wonderful children, a wonderful husband, we have our health, and we have a roof over our heads .....albeit not the roof we wanted, oh well, some things are perhaps just not meant to be.

Thank you for letting me vent, we are staying put and catching our breath for a while now, maybe another day or another year the market will be better for everyone.

Dottyotty x

Hi Dottyotti...great name by the way.

Anyone frustrated at the process of moving home will definately relate here!!

1.Agree
2.Agree
3.Agree
4.definately agree
5.Absolutely definately agree
6.What more do you want...question at this point...why did we decide to move home in the first place???

Brilliant post been there ...had that happen!! Just enjoy your home!!

Take care, Angelxx glad I`m not alone.

Nenen

sorry to hear of that horrible saga dottyotty... but if it is any consolation at all, I'm very impressed by your style of writing... made me laugh :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:... albeit at your tale of woe/catalogue of errors... as I have been there, done that, got the t-shirt, video, feature-film, book and cuddly toy! I loved your wonderful sense of irony and fantastic sarcasm! I have a terribly sarcastic sense of humour myself... despite knowing that makes me the lowest life form on the planet!
:EasterBunHang on in there dottyotty... enjoy your lovely hubby and baby while sticking pins in the effigies of EA and failed buyer!

dottyotty

There really should be a sitcom based on an estate agents office, so many people would relate to it and find it funny.

With hindsight I think our move just wasn't meant to be, everything that could have gone wrong did go wrong, including our (very aged) dog weeing at the wrong moment, and baby projectile vommiting on two occassions, in fact it was whenever an estate agent was in the house, the drs told me he has a milk allergy but I firmly believe its EA-allergy.

Today I have the not very nice task of informing the people we were going to buy a house from that it's not happening. I really feel crap for them because they were aware of how much we wanted their house and gave us time to sell ours, and now they are also back at the start line.

Thank you Angel and Nenen for understanding.

Dottyotty x

ANGSTDATA

Hi - I agree on every point on your list as our house has fallen thru for the third time now and we still cant get the first house we were going to buy out of our heads,as it really did tick all the boxs and even some boxs we never thought about , buts its gone ,ripped out from under us as we let a cash buyer string us along for to many months

So my number 1 rule to share the place in your top 10 is

DONT TAKE IT OFF THE MARKET UNTIL THEY SHELL OUT FOR A PROPER SURVEY!

even when the estate agent says that the price is agreed and the buyer wants it off the market - tell them to get stuffed ,they work for us not the other way round ,leaving it on the market gives an impetous ( spelling ? ) to a serious buyer to get thier finger out if they really want it and it keeps the house in the websites - not like ours which was off the radar for 5 months while he had us safely tucked up - leaving them free to go looking at other houses ( he did get a survey done in that time ,but it was by a "friend" of his ,so actually only cost him a beer and burger meal at wetherspoons probably )

GRRRRR!! - anyhow ,another viewing in just over 2 hours - time to get the old dyson out again and start throwing things into cupboards and under beds ,to give that wonderfully uncluttered look!

(then wont be able to find stuff for days afterwards ! )

Doozergirl

dottyotty wrote: »

There really should be a sitcom based on an estate agents office, so many people would relate to it and find it funny.

There was a few months back, called 'sold'. I presume it flopped. H said it was so bad he wouldn't let me watch even a minute of it.

lisahobden

our house sale has fallen through twice now and we have missed out on houses we wanted.... I think I may well stay put, overpay on the mortgage and weather this storm out to be in a good position for when the market settles down....

sarah_elton

Doozergirl wrote: »

There was a few months back, called 'sold'. I presume it flopped. H said it was so bad he wouldn't let me watch even a minute of it.

My brother's an EA and actually found it quite funny. :rolleyes:

tbs624

dottyotty wrote: »

baby projectile vommiting on two occassions, in fact it was whenever an estate agent was in the house, the drs told me he has a milk allergy but I firmly believe its EA-allergy.

Your son may be developing useful coping strategies for later life .....EA tend to have that effect on me too:rotfl: