Daily Chat:Sunday March 30th

jinky67

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

I think he's perfectly happy to plod along-we don't really argue, we laugh a lot, we enjoy each other's company...

We don't hug, we don't kiss, we don't **** ****, we don't cuddle.


Dunno-maybe i should just get a lap dog and some bits from IA?

sounds like me too hon:rolleyes:
although things have sort of got better recently

cat4772

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

I think he's perfectly happy to plod along-we don't really argue, we laugh a lot, we enjoy each other's company...

We don't hug, we don't kiss, we don't **** ****, we don't cuddle.


Dunno-maybe i should just get a lap dog and some bits from IA?

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

jacs76

our erm...'love life' has taken a bit of a nose dive since my hysterectomy which has been hard to bear at times im only 31 i don't want to give 'that' up yet. lol
need to deal with issues behind having it in the first place and get my bl00dy hrt sorted once and for all.

z you can have my 'particulars' anytime hun ...seriously if you use fb or owt add me if you like obviously ill have to 'reveal' myself xx hubba hubba wink wink he he

elantan

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

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Dunno-maybe i should just get a lap dog and some bits from IA?

but is it what you want? ...laughing and having fun is amazing and very important in a relationship..would you like to take it further? would you like to have some passion back in your life? with oh? with someone else?
do you think you will be able to go through life accepting what you have just now and be complete? ...i dont want to upset you i honestly dont i just know that it is important to regularly take stock be grateful improve enjoy and alter things in our lives so that we can become a more fulfilled person ..i have asked alot of questions ...just think about them ..think about the wonderful person you are and what would make you happy ...after all everyone deserves happiness and we shouldnt as humans deny ourselves it

jinky67

elantan wrote: »

but is it what you want? ...laughing and having fun is amazing and very important in a relationship..would you like to take it further? would you like to have some passion back in your life? with oh? with someone else?
do you think you will be able to go through life accepting what you have just now and be complete? ...i dont want to upset you i honestly dont i just know that it is important to regularly take stock be grateful improve enjoy and alter things in our lives so that we can become a more fulfilled person ..i have asked alot of questions ...just think about them ..think about the wonderful person you are and what would make you happy ...after all everyone deserves happiness and we shouldnt as humans deny ourselves it

well said:T :T :T :A
God does that I mean I should think about these things too?:eek:

elantan

cat4772 wrote: »

Elantan

Are you a counsellor? reminds me of when I saw the bereavement midwife and a work counsellor a couple of years ago; God I'm nosey when hungover!

Cat.x

no i'm not a counsellor did think about it ...

its just me and the nosey kinda questions i ask:D

i just know i have had alot of things to deal with in my life and ultimatley i learned to love myself ...it is such a wonderful thing (well i think so) when you love yourself

LouiseJ

jinky67 wrote: »

well said:T :T :T :A
God does that I mean I should think about these things too?:eek:

Els got a good point there, I would say that I am 75% happy and 25% miserable and unhappy with certain issues, but that 25% can seem like 100% when you dwell on it, which I do, alot.

But can I give up the 75% in the search of the 25% with someone else? Probably wont ever take the risk plus I want to find the other 25% with the one im with.

If im making no sense at all tell me to shut up.

penguin83

Sorry I cant offer any practical advice but what I can do is offer a giant hug - jump in everyone! x x

jinky67

LouiseJ wrote: »

Els got a good point there, I would say that I am 75% happy and 25% miserable and unhappy with certain issues, but that 25% can seem like 100% when you dwell on it, which I do, alot.

But can I give up the 75% in the search of the 25% with someone else? Probably wont ever take the risk plus I want to find the other 25% with the one im with.

If im making no sense at all tell me to shut up.

Shut up:p
Only joking... I know exactly what you mean
Its a scary world out there...dont know if I want to join it again:rolleyes:
xx

boredofbeingathome

elantan wrote: »

but is it what you want? ...laughing and having fun is amazing and very important in a relationship..would you like to take it further? would you like to have some passion back in your life? with oh? with someone else?
do you think you will be able to go through life accepting what you have just now and be complete? ...i dont want to upset you i honestly dont i just know that it is important to regularly take stock be grateful improve enjoy and alter things in our lives so that we can become a more fulfilled person ..i have asked alot of questions ...just think about them ..think about the wonderful person you are and what would make you happy ...after all everyone deserves happiness and we shouldnt as humans deny ourselves it

Such truisms- it is amazing what we deny ourselves, just because we think we are not worth it, will fail, or even get laughed at. I have been married for a similar length of time as you El, and i often go through difficult patches with OH-but we do have a lot in common...which goes some way to getting us through it. It does overwhelm me at times, this feeling of doing it all myself... but i am sure it is the same for him. I wonder if bunny has asked him that as well-does he want the passion back or is he also afraid to ask?
You are a very wise woman Elantan, the councelling profession will be sadly lacking. Maybe you should start an agony aunt thread. ASK EL?:T