My 3 year old son wants to keep wearing his nappies!

SUESMITH_2

sending you a big hug. stick him back in nappies and don't worry about it. my ds was 3 when he suddenly announced he no longer wanted to wear nappies (i had tried when he was younger but got fed up of chapped legs and little puddles) and that was that dry day and night straight way.

i remember just how competitive early childhood can be, first to walk, talk and be dry etc.

sexyjessie599

Kids will do it when they are ready,actually I was watching Jonathon ross lately and he embarrassed that Baddeil bloke who apparently keeps ringing him on his mobile by mistake and Rossy said "I don't know what the hell you were doing but you were in the loo singing about ploppy ploppy in the loo" and this Baddeil fella said they were trying to get their little girl to use the loo so it t's the same for all of us.
Just take care of yourself for now and give it a few weeks and you will be back telling us how good he.
Jessie

SammyD_2

There are two parts to toilet training - the psychological part, and the neurological part - if your child does not have the physical capabilities needed to control his bladder, all the incentives in the world won't help. I started toilet training my son when he was two and a half. After two wet messy years, one day he just clicked. He just did not have the ability to do it before. I should have saved the time, effort and washing and left him in nappies.

All children are different, and develop differently - be guided by your son, rather than misguided by those who think if you try hard enough it will work. And as others have said you probaby do not need any more worries at present.

poppyolivia

Rachie_B wrote: »

just go cold turkey with it

i got rid of all my sons dummies when he was 3 ,he asked for it for 2 nights

and after that nothing

leaving a treat / toy from the "dummy fairy" helps lessen the blow

I really want to do this and the wee man was agreeing with this for SO long then he got ill and he was waking up screaming for his dummy (although he had it in his mouth??)..I thought I was putting too much pressure on him cause it was going on for a few nights. As soon as I said he could keep one on his pillow the nightmares stopped....I mean the poor soul was sobbing!

He thinks the 'new babies' are getting the dummies and he wants to post them...he's known this for about 3-4 wks now and we are having a count down til his birthday (Tuesday)

I think in all honesty I did the potty training and dummy removal talk too close together and I've probably traumatised him!:rotfl:

But hey yesterday I got off with buying him a spiderman cake....he is so chuffed with it! Saves buying 2!!:rotfl:

But yes I think I'm gonna have to cold turkey the nights though...thats the bit thats giving ME nightmares!....plan is to get rid apart from one then make a great big deal outta him...then 'get a letter' about a wk or 2 later saying a new baby has been born and they have ran out of dummies (he seems to understand things about babies???) and if he gives his night dummy up then he will get a present of his choice then sit back and hear the screaming!!!:D

Thing his I HATE dummies so much..I can't stand them at all!!...With my oldest she never had one but Super Pooper loves his!

Wario

Not meaning to hyjack your thread here, and I can offer no more advice than you've already received, but I'm at a loss how you 'go about' dry nights? My eldest has just turned 3, and has been dry in the day for the better part of a year, but is still waking up with a wet nappy in the morning.

Any advice would be grately appreciated!

EDIT RE DUMMIES: I got my chidren to throw theirs in the bin themselves, (all of them because it'd be so easy for me to have lapsed and given in) and when they asked for them I told them " you put them in the bin, remember?" and it seemed to work fine. My children were quite dependent on their dummies, but after throwing them (one nearly 2 and one nearly 3) they had a bit of a tearful first night without them and now 5 months later don't even mention them, and haven't done since a few days after binning them. Be strong!

PinkLady

Hi
Sorry to hear about your MC. Now is the time to give yourself a break and not add any unnecessary stress to your life. Be kind to yourself. Loads of children are in nappies at 3 - mine included!!!! So you are def not alone on that one!

Re the dummies - the reindeer came on Christmas Eve and took them for the baby reindeer!

xx

thriftlady_2

Wario wrote: »

Not meaning to hyjack your thread here, and I can offer no more advice than you've already received, but I'm at a loss how you 'go about' dry nights? My eldest has just turned 3, and has been dry in the day for the better part of a year, but is still waking up with a wet nappy in the morning.

My advice is 'be patient'. My daughter has been dry at night for the last 3 months, she celebrated her 8th birthday last week!

Don't be alarmed- my boys were dry at night at 3 years old. All children are different. With dd we just relaxed and let her wear dry-nights until one day she woke up with them dry and decided she could manage without them. We still take her to the loo when we go up, but sometimes she doesn't go and is still dry in the morning. we've had a few accidents they are inevitable.

I still look back on the whole potty training thing as the worst aspect of having small children :rotfl:

cheeks

Wario wrote: »

Not meaning to hyjack your thread here, and I can offer no more advice than you've already received, but I'm at a loss how you 'go about' dry nights? My eldest has just turned 3, and has been dry in the day for the better part of a year, but is still waking up with a wet nappy in the morning.

Any advice would be grately appreciated!

My son has only just become dry at night and he's 5 and a half. I think its just a matter of physical maturity, the body produces a hormone at night which inhibits the production of urine, so its just a case of waiting til this develops, not something that can be 'taught'! The doctor can prescribe a drug which mimics this hormone, but personally i preferred to just keep using nappies. No-one outside the family need know unless you tell them! x

Cornishpixie_2

LavenderLily wrote: »

I'd love some help on this one as I'm stumped.

My son has just turned 3. He is still wearing nappies despite my many attempts to get him out of them. I have tried bribing him with treats to use the potty, lots of praise, telling him he's a 'big boy' now etc but nothing helps. He just ends up wetting himself. He will use the potty on occasion but it's sporadic.

I just bought him a special book for boys about using a potty and it's got stickers in so I thought that would help. However, he just clearly tells me, "No, I want to wear my nappy".

I managed to get him out of the nappy this morning and kept asking him if he needed the potty and he kept saying 'no'. In the end he wet himself and I'm ashamed to say I told him off :-( I felt really bad afterwards and apologised (I'm going through an early miscarriage right now so I'm a bit emotional and didn't mean to react so badly).

I just don't know what to do. Anyone got some suggestions? I'd be so grateful. He's starting pre-school in just over a week and while they know he's not potty trained, I'm a bit embarrassed because he's three years old and I feel he should be by now.

Many thanks.

Hi, my DS3 last of 4 wouldn't be potty trained. I felt bad cos he had moved up in nursery to pre school and was the only child to be taken out into toddler room to have nappy changed. Even got him posh potty chair but he was too big to fit in it:rotfl: Then when he was around 3yrs and 3 months everything clicked. Since then he has never had an accidents and poos no probs on toilet. Others all toilet trained a lot younger, but DS2 used to poo in his pants whilst hid behind the curtains:eek:I would leave a few more weeks then try again. You can't really push them if they don't feel ready. Perhaps its a man thing.:rotfl: :rotfl:

moneypooh

re: dummy

this too is a matter of time. my son kept his until he was 5. he had it when really upset or tired, but never slept with it in. my OH was quite stressed about it and what people would say, but I let my son choose his right time. One night just before he was 5 he gave it to me saying he didn't need it anymore and that was it, he still slept with a muslin for a while until that got turfed out on the floor too.

It's not really an issue in the grand scheme of things and now neither of the children even remember nappies/ dummies and find it quite funny talking about it (but then again anything to do with wee is hilarious for a boy of 10!!)