Problem with friend - returning my things damaged

ceridwen

...and offer to pay!

As stated it isnt the damage so much - though thats upsetting of itself - its the attitude to having done the damage.

I have a friend who is a bit clumsy to say the least - I got fairly "resigned" to damage of my possessions at one point - but she always said "I'm sorry, I will pay (ie for replacement/repair)".

MKwife

I agree with ceriden, your friends' attitude stinks, she can't be bothered to return your texts, makes you go round to collect it from her and then never apologises for wrecking them. Personally I would not bother contacting her again - she is not a real friend. She obviously has no respect for you so what is the point in even being friends?

Bennifred

Invoice her (or the husband) for replacements!:D ......or maybe not:o

I think if this happened to me I'd think what kind of friend would treat me this way? I'd think that she isn't much of a friend anyway and that I'd have nothing to lose by confronting her about the state of the DVDs. I'd probably start nicely - "Oh Sue, you probably didn't notice how badly damaged the DVDs I lent you have become, and I don't want you to be embarrassed or anything, but I expect you'll want to replace them for me?" Any proper friend would at least meet you half-way. If she doesn't, tell her you're very upset at being treated that way when you trusted her with your possessions, and that friends don't act that way. Then just leave it - she's not worth the bother if she doesn't try to sort it out. IMHO, of course!

pinkshoes

Bettyboop wrote: »

I mentioned texting her otherwise I will get my head bitten off......

Don't worry I will NEVER EVER lend her anything again. The disks look as though her toddler has been playing frisby with them!

I would take the risk of getting your head bitten off!

Go round and see her, point out they were brand new when you lent them to her, ask her what happened to get them in the current state, and ask if she wouldn't mind replacing them with a new set seeing as she damaged them.

Any "friend" would have no problem doing this!

If she bites your head off, stand up for yourself, bite her head off too, and tell her that perhaps she should have a little more respect for her friends, and if that's how she feels, then she can stick her friendship!

I certainly wouldn't call someone like that a friend.

shelly

I also would risk getting my head bitten off. If you don't see her for months at a time you have nothing to lose by falling out now.

Or most likely I would just ignore her and all further contact because I am a wimp and don't like face to face confrontation

Or phone her, then when she doesn't give a monkeys you can get a good feeling from slamming down the phone on her :rotfl:



I lend alot of books from friends and once I was clumsy and ripped a page. It wasn't even a page with the story on, it was one at the front with the ISBN number on etc. I felt really bad, immediately texted her and told her I would replace it. She said not to bother but I still felt real bad.

ATT_2

Crummy friend - text the husband who seems more caring than his partner, he might give you something out of guilt.

Id cut her out of your hair, I know DVDs arnt things to loose friends over, but the lack of respect for your property echos a lack of respect for you too.

Bettyboop

Hi all,

We have been away so sorry for taken ages to respond. Thank you for responding to my thread. The friend in question has not been in touch since I collected the DVD's. I have to say I quite agree with the statement phrased: If she doesn't respect my things or at least me no friendship really exists.

Thanks all.