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DFW Daily Chat 22 March
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Bunnyinthelights wrote: »Been there, done that.
I've tried for a very long time-counselling etc etc etc.
At one point in my life, security was all that mattered-and he offers all that and more. Now, however, I want more. I can't ask anymore because being told 'no' just makes me sad. But, life being what it is, I have friendship with him, a brilliant provider, father etc.
So? What is the solution?
Answers on a postcard please?
No answers, but a question - what does *he* want?
Don't say someone thinner, because it wasn't."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0 -
Bunnyinthelights wrote: »Been there, done that.
I've tried for a very long time-counselling etc etc etc.
At one point in my life, security was all that mattered-and he offers all that and more. Now, however, I want more. I can't ask anymore because being told 'no' just makes me sad. But, life being what it is, I have friendship with him, a brilliant provider, father etc.
So? What is the solution?
Answers on a postcard please?
but surely he can't be happy either? doesn't he want to fix things?Mortgage OP 2025 £7050/7000Mortgage OP 2024 £7700/7000
Mortgage balance: £34,965
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”Do what others won’t early in life so you can do what others can’t later in life” (stolen from Gally Girl)0 -
Zed,
You speak words of wisdom.
I don't know what more to do.Empty pockets never held anyone back, only empty heads and empty hearts can do that -Peale0 -
Len,
You've been my wonderful friend for a long time now.
Thank you. xEmpty pockets never held anyone back, only empty heads and empty hearts can do that -Peale0 -
Well I never Bunny. I suppose it depends on what you want. Whether or not your own happiness is more important or playing the dutiful wife for your kids(?). Only you know the answer to that one but if you aint got your happiness then you aint got anything. I suppose 50 years ago you would have towed the line but now we live in a more liberated world where self worth is much more prevalent nowadays. Feeling for you hunny bunny xBunnyinthelights wrote: »Been there, done that.
I've tried for a very long time-counselling etc etc etc.
At one point in my life, security was all that mattered-and he offers all that and more. Now, however, I want more. I can't ask anymore because being told 'no' just makes me sad. But, life being what it is, I have friendship with him, a brilliant provider, father etc.
So? What is the solution?
Answers on a postcard please?This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
I have asked if he's happy-he said yes.
From what 'information' I can gather, yes, someone thinner and with bigger boobs and who bears an uncanny resemblance to Lucy Pinder *would* make him happy. lolEmpty pockets never held anyone back, only empty heads and empty hearts can do that -Peale0 -
Bunnyinthelights wrote: »Been there, done that.
I've tried for a very long time-counselling etc etc etc.
At one point in my life, security was all that mattered-and he offers all that and more. Now, however, I want more. I can't ask anymore because being told 'no' just makes me sad. But, life being what it is, I have friendship with him, a brilliant provider, father etc.
So? What is the solution?
Answers on a postcard please?
It's hard isnt it...pretty much sums up what was happening in my life until recently:o
but we talked it all through and now we are getting married:eek: :eek:
can you both continue to live like this?
If you can then fine...if not then it is a problem
dont have a solution though..sorry:heartpulsOnce a Flylady, always a Flylady:heartpuls0 -
Bunnyinthelights wrote: »Zed,
You speak words of wisdom.
Wisdom? Moi?Bunnyinthelights wrote: »I don't know what more to do.
First rule of war - reconnaissance.
Communication is key. Listen to him. Try to find out what he does like about you. And also what he doesn't. Since you've tried it before, don't interrogate him directly, because he'll either clam up, or come up with any answer he can think of.
You need to try to find out the truth, rather than get any old answer.
See what you do that makes him smile. See what things you do that make him look at you with less than clean thoughts."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0 -
Just to cheer you up bunny - I had no idea how Lucy Pinder was and had to google!:eek: :eek: :eek:Mortgage OP 2025 £7050/7000Mortgage OP 2024 £7700/7000
Mortgage balance: £34,965
Money making challenge £78/400
”Do what others won’t early in life so you can do what others can’t later in life” (stolen from Gally Girl)0 -
Bunnyinthelights wrote: »I have asked if he's happy-he said yes.
From what 'information' I can gather, yes, someone thinner and with bigger boobs and who bears an uncanny resemblance to Lucy Pinder *would* make him happy. lol
That just sounds really shallow:rolleyes:
If he loved you he should be happy however you look
Is he perfect?:cool::heartpulsOnce a Flylady, always a Flylady:heartpuls0
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