Weekly Flylady Thread 17th March 2008

vanilla

Been in bed since 7pm and then DS2 woke up coughing at 10pm so now i can't sleep.

Rach i'd love to see some pics most have missed them the last time.
Skint_spice hope your feeling better soon.
Sobliuion i hate when that happens.
Mudbath glad op is over.
Tracey thats great news, when i first moved up here i knew no one. I tried the mother and toddler made a few friends who now are leaders in the youth club. I found it really hard and found that no one would talk to me but they all knew each other well. Since i've started the courses at the woman's center i've made another 2 friends and it's been great just to be me, not someone wife or mother. Oppps flip i can go on.:rotfl:

JillD_2

tracyg wrote: »

JillD - thank you, your post hit the nail on the head, yes I can't even have a wee without him climbing on my knee. My gym is the council one so I can use the pools with LO but only does creche from 18 months but thats only a month away! I'm in Nottinghamshire
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And try and arrange playdate with next door - right all sounds like a plan!

tracy - glad you are feeling brighter today. My gym is the council one too. The creche there is pretty good, I've been going so long I know the staff quite well now but I was a bit anxious at first. But I was always in the building (even if just the cafe LOL) so they could come and get me. It might just be the break you need for an hour or two a week. My LO goes in 3 times a week - once for an hour while I take DD1 to her swim lesson, and twice for an hour and a half while I go to the gym. I meet some friends I had already sometimes, other times I meet with other people who are there the same time as me each week and who I see with their LO's dropping off/collecting from the creche.

And I know what you mean about some playgroups being carp, you get some really odd people at some of them. I also know what you mean about making the transition from someone you just see to someone who comes over to your actual house LOL. The way I have done it is to regularly say "ooo we must get the girls/boys/kids together for a play sometime. Then after you've said this for a bit then start saying " ooo bring your diary next week and we'll organise a time" and then say "here take my mobile number and text me yours back then we can arrange something when we've checked our diaries" - this way you have given them your number, often you can tell if someone wants to be friends because if they do they will text you right back there and then, or if not you may never hear from them again!!! If they don't text you back they may just be forgetful LOL. The great thing is then if they do text you back you can then be fairly sure they are happy for you to arrange something and in fact are probably hoping you will, so you can text them and then if they really didnt want to be your friend they can think of an excuse before texting you back. I think the key is to let it progress over a few weeks dont push it too soon. Am I waffling too much ???
I have no family here and when I was pg with DS I went to every class I could to make friends. At first it was really hard and the fear of rejection was immense, but I am better at it now and sometimes people have come round and never come back, or they've come round and its been awkward and we didnt click at all. My Mum always goes on about how "lucky" I am to have such a great support network, but I dont think its luck at all, I've had to work at it, put in the time and effort but it has so paid off, because she is right in the part that I do have a brilliant support network and lovely friends.

Oh and one other thing, although I do have friends etc etc some days I feel immensely lonely as if everyone else is out having fun and doing things and I am stuck in my own private h3ll and noone feels as bad as me. So I really really do knowhow you feel, motherhood is a very lonely job sometimes.

Having a lunch out with DH sounds like a great idea too.:D
Good luck with the whole playdate thing,make sure you let us know how you get on.

Wow that was a long one. Even for me!!!

Oh yeah and I'm in Reading so miles away otherwise you could have come for coffee tomorrow (if I had any ggrrrr). DH is from Nottinghamshire

pigpen

oh but shelley.. 16 years olds are SO grown up and responsible.. and sensible.. and know so much more than we do..we are WAY too old to remember being their age!!

(I have one too.. can you tell?)

JillD_2

managed to do:

[strike]
- get washing in TD and out but not folded yet
- empty DW
- load DW
- empty it again
- tidy kitchen
- tidy upstairs
- sort post
- wash lunchboxes
- lunches for tomorrow
[/strike]

Am now in bed with laptop and yoghurt.

I've been very good foodwise all day, so soappie here's what I've eaten (no shame at all!!!)
B: oatso simple
S: alpen bar and coffee after spinning
L: couscous and salad
S: grapes and carrot
noodles and veg&quorn stir fry
S: yoghurt

:A

Was going to do a meal plan tonight but too late now.
I have however made pasta salad for lunch tomorrow, I have a friend coming and have texted her to tell her not to bring any evil puddingy stuff. We always seem to end up eating flapjacks or crispie cakes .....

fallen_angel_shelley

pigpen wrote: »

oh but shelley.. 16 years olds are SO grown up and responsible.. and sensible.. and know so much more than we do..we are WAY too old to remember being their age!!

(I have one too.. can you tell?)

16 years old, what a great age, not:rolleyes: you think it's gona be easy once they are out of nappies and sleep through the night, but oh no, then they grow in to the dreaded monsters called, teenagers:eek: :eek: :eek: i love him to bits really

JillD_2

tracyg wrote: »

Hello
Saw my neighbour hanging around outside with her LO so thought I'd be brave and went out and chatted to her for a few minutes. Arranged a playdate and had a nice chat, she told me some of the issues shes got at the minute and said 'thanks for talking to me, its been nice to speak to someone'! So feel like a nice neighbour today and returned some of the kindness you lot have shown me!

Anyway, thats me for today xxx

well done on taking that first step

soappie

JillD wrote: »

managed to do:
I've been very good foodwise all day, so soappie here's what I've eaten (no shame at all!!!)
B: oatso simple
S: alpen bar and coffee after spinning
L: couscous and salad
S: grapes and carrot
noodles and veg&quorn stir fry
S: yoghurt

:A

Way to go Jill - well done you !!!! :T:T:T I bet you feel a little bit better already...

ChasingButterflies

Cooker is in

Managed to get ds into bed with the promise of HM pizza for supper tomorrow night - not quite sure which one of us is most excited

Not quite sure what to do about the whole mum thing. DH and I had time for a chat (too many customers earlier - can't complain they keep the roof over our heads) so I kinda feel better. Storming headache has gone at least.

Today I:

Put out the bins,
Put some name lables in ds's new pe kit.

So beating that tomorrow shouldn't be too hard :rotfl:

tia - sorry missed you earlier - great news about taking steps towards doing your course. I am pretty sure Kilmarnock college has a creche - Have you had a look at the Ayr campus for Paisley uni? just a thought.

lil_me & Pigpen - I hope your sisters start behaving themselves!

skint_spice - Hope you are feeling better soon.

soblivion - Good luck with the "creating"

SSL - The list of what the cleaner covers is actually huge lol. If you want I can pop what I have here in the post to you. tbh it deals really well with tarnished metal. I know what you mean about it looking mouldy this stuff brought back to life a really funky ice bucket that I thought I had neglected for too long...

MIL called to cancel trip out tomorrow. One of their dogs has a tumor and I think she is worried about leaving her. She wasn't well last night and if she had a "funny turn" FIL wouldn't be able to help her. So I can dedicate the day to flying - as long as I don't get distracted and start baking :rotfl:

Night all x

JillD_2

pigpen - thanks for the assortment of treats last night LOL

Mudbath - ((hugs)) hope the wrist gets sorted soon

shelley ((hugs)) hope your Dad is ok, very hard when they are far away, you feel so helpless ((hugs)). What's medical care like over there ?

soappie - as you'll have seen, I am feeling heaps better today. A good night's sleep, some sunshine, eating properly, drank more water than usual and no coffee gosh I hope it wasnt that last one that did it. Though perhaps I should try cutting down (I do only drink decaf though)
And :rotfl: :rotfl: at you finding a fork in your undies drawer:rotfl:

ssl - WOOOOOHHHHOOOOOOOO on your weight loss this week :T :T
no not been to GP for a few weeks, funny the difference a day can make, today I've been thinking how great the meds are working (I have the memory of a goldfish LOL) I love the lighter mornings too. MUCH easier to get out of bed (well a bit anyway)

vanilla - sounds like you need some ((((hugs))). Glad doctors visit went well. And dont apologise for ranting, thats what we're here for. on weight loss, think you are right, doesnt feel like now is the right time for you, be kind to yourself and dont pile any more on.

g&b - WQOOOOO HOOOOOO on the weight loss:j :j

taffy - I weigh in tomorrow too. Not thinking it will be a good week at all for me oh well theres always next week

Rach - lovely to see you back, hope married life treating you well

pigpen and soappie :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: about strangeways :rotfl: :rotfl: soappie should you be in charge of ORF ?????

right thats me all caught up. hope I didnt forget anyone who needs a woohoo or a hug. will post weight loss update list tomorrow night. People who gave me goals that I havent updated yet for the week are taffy, Mudbath and hex2. Others on the list but with no specific goal who haven't sent e an update yet are nicki, Frankie, shell and nickysnackynoo.
night night xx

boddy

Morning flyers.

Just getting ready for work. It doesnt look very nice out there.

Hi to everyone and hugs for those who need them.

Study or other reception room & bathrooms - Thursday
Level One
[STRIKE]Clear the clutter from all these rooms!! No mean feat in my house!
[/STRIKE]Level Two
Vacuum the floors
[STRIKE]clean bath, toilets, shower and sinks
[/STRIKE]Wipe down the tiles and defragment the pc while doing this.
Level Three
declutter and dust the pc desk
Wipe away cup rings and sticky things
wipe the keyboard, mouse, cables and sockets and suchlike.
Clean the windows.
Extras

• Vacuum under movable furniture
• HHI..
• Drag out and clean under and behind the pc desk!! Don't injure yourself please!!
• Clear a hotspot

Did a little of this last night and my ironing.

Have a good day everyone :hello: