please advice daugter been threatened with being expelled

DKLS

Agree with ailuro2

I was bullied at school, and the only person I told was a family friend who was a Psychiatric nurse, and into Ju-Jitsu, he taught me a few psychiatric restraint techniques and I attended a summer martial arts course in the summer holidays, on return to school it all started again but this time I had the confidence I could handle any situation, so I challenged the ring leader, and basically let him humiliate himself in front of the entire school, without laying a fist on him, I was left alone after that. And the ringleader became my best mate!!!!!

finc

bonnie wrote: »

My dd went to a catholic school, i had to pull her out in the end, am home educating her now. The school did not admit to bullying and basically called me a liar. If your going to see them either record what they say or take someone big and hairy along. What you say will be brushed under the carpet and you will be made out to be a liar.They knew i was going in and had a big gang of teachers all primed with answers how covenient. You don't live in essex do you?

I had a similar experience with my daughter at her last school. In the end it was easier for all concerned to change schools. My daughter misses her old school friends but overall is so much happier. I know this isn't an option for everyone but sometimes you just can't change things no matter how hard you try.

michellenealemum

update to above i went into school on friday am and spoke to the deputy,who was very apologetic about the meeting she was upset that d had come home and told me as she thought after spending an hour with her she thought it was all sorted.She explained that she just couldn't get to the bottom of the situation and in her words {she just flared up and shouted that they would both be expelled,but she then did call d back and explain that it wasn't ment for her,as you can imagine i was not happy,she kept saying how she was disappointed because she thought d was mature and had understood what was being said she is 9,as for the friendship book this isn't happening now.but i am not very happy, asked lots of questions about what is being done about the problem boy but didn't get any where i am going to monitor the situation i have made a diary and i am going to start logging things and then go to head if i need to.
kids it never ends but thank you everyone that has offered advice,sometimes feel like it just one thing after another the joys of motherhood lol.

poe.tuesday

glad you sort of of a response and that at least the woman admitted she made a mistake however she tried to turn it around and change the subject when she said she was dissapointed that your daughter felt the need to mention it to you afterall, she felt it was all sorted!

that fact of the matter is, she made an error, she may well have lost it but she is an adult and in the suituation that she works in she should not be loosing it, regardless that she appologised for it afterwards.

I still think you should write to the school and just stated what had gone on and that even though this particular situation had been resolved you still wanted it on record of the situation, and in that letter you can address the issue of the bullying and see what they come back with, keeping diaries helps but does not prove anything, your daughter must complain everytime it happens, if she does not the school can not deal with it, you must also write to them each time it occurs, you don't have to demand a response, you just state the facts, including your daughters actions eg, who she told etc and then state that you want the letter kept in your daughter's file, if the file gets full then take yourself off to the school for a meeting, show them the file, none of it should be news to them as they have copies that you sent them and shame them into doing something, if they don't and often they won't, take your daughter out of the school, vote with your feet