Help needed - how to tell him

joanne1977

Thanks Karen29.

I feel really ill at moment, just knowing that the time is coming round so quickly for me to go home and talk to him about it all.

But I will write down how I feel about it, I suppose it's a way of airing my feeling on paper.

PENNYWISE_3

joanne1977 wrote: »

Thanks Karen29.

I feel really ill at moment, just knowing that the time is coming round so quickly for me to go home and talk to him about it all.

But I will write down how I feel about it, I suppose it's a way of airing my feeling on paper.

i'm not surprised, you are psyching up to a big conversation think of the sense of relief though when you've done it.
any idea how he will react? you never know, he may just be demanding to talk because he doesn't know what loan is, once you explain he may be very supportive?
hugs, thinking of you

Soubrette

If you were my partner then I'd be really proud of you - you made a mistake (it's not unheard of in us people )and you've worked hard to rectify it. You've changed your spending habits and are paying back what you owe.

Well done :T

I would definitely emphasis the changes that you've made, acknowledge that mistakes were made in the past but they won't be happening again because of these changes.

Good luck

Sou

joanne1977

He will probably shout and moan at me for keeping it quiet and may not speak to me tonight after.

But yes it might just be because he does not know what I have done and that is why he is being demanding.

Thank you soubrette, I hope he sees it this way.

fc123

Good luck tonight.
I found out my hubby had run up £50k on cards during a contract (we had had no debt for 2 yrs prior)......and I found out when the company shafted him.
I was furious BUT, that was 5 yrs ago and our marriage is better now than before.

joanne1977

I am hoping that we can learn from our mistakes. I know he has debts but do not know the total amount as he has never told me. So really we are as bad as each other.

joanne1977

Well a big thank you to you all gain.

I am now just about to leave work to have this discussion with him.

Feeling nervous but better out than kept hidden.

Richie23_2

GOOOOOOD LUCK..I'm sure you wont need it. xx