The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

mollypolly

Good Morning everyone.
Hope you are all ok.
Siannie, welcome....I have been alcohol free for 6 months now since finding this thread and I think it has been a godsend.
My DH still drinks everyday in the house and at first I found it very difficult (especially on a Friday night:rolleyes: ) sitting next to him drinking tea,pop or AF beer whilst he drank alcohol, but each morning when I woke up 'un-hungovered' felt great and spurred me on.
Sit next to your OHfeeli ng proud and oh so smug knowing that YOU CAN DO THIS.
Keep posting, keep reading and good luck.

Jo... where are you...are you still ok.
BHB...How did it go yesterday.
DC. Well done for jumping back onto the wagon.
Bismarck... I think that little devil will always be there but we just have to be really:A
Eselt ..I love yours' and Bis's posts...real words of wisdom.
Alisong..10 AF weeks Well Done:T
Well done Polaroid too. I also came on to sort out money problems...and am doing so very slowly..but this thread is a real bonus.
Shoppy..good luck with the dieting.I have lost three and half stones and am now finding it easier to stay at target with No alcohol to spoil it....;)
Oh Well...beter start my day now.
Hope you all get to where you want to be.
See you later,
Love Mollypollyxxxx:happylove

Bismarck

cheers Mollypolly...certainly glad I don't have to try and find beer money in our household budget...!

shopaholictiedtheknot

Morning people:D

Well, after posting the other day to say I wasn't drinking in the week I have managed only two AF days this week:eek: I am having another today though despite it being Friday:rolleyes: Tomorrow DH, DD and I are going out for my friend's daughter's birthday so will be having some wine - I wish I could NOT drink but I am not ready to quit completely yet (who knows if I will ever manage it!)

I am happier at the moment than I have been since my trauma earlier this year, though I am still having 'womens problems' and am seeing my doc tomorrow (sorry if TMI for you menfolk:rotfl: ) I have started an egyptian dance class once a week to improve my fitness level and my social life and I am loving it! I think my aim at the moment is to try and find alternative means of entertainment and then (hopefully) the alcohol will take a back seat!

Good luck today and for the weekend everyone

Alisong congrats on your 10 weeks!!!

JO - where are you?

SiannieLaz

:T Morning All
Managed another evening without the beer, although came seriously close to going down my local, even put my coat on twice. OH was winding me up about his ex, he promised her he'd paint her living room when they were together and she's still sending him txts about it. As they work together :mad: I've got no idea why she has to txt him in the evenings. Ordinarily this sort of thing wouldn't bother me, but the fact that he informed me she's said she's never going to stop trying to get him back, they were meant to be together, etc, etc means it winds me up. He also told me that they used to have sex at work (mmm, nice!) and that makes me feel more insecure.
When I told him that I rather he didn't do it, I got a lecture about being paranoid, why can't he have female friends, he made a promise, etc. Surely I'm not being out of order asking him not to go? Would it be childish of me to say I'm going round to an ex's this weekend to help him hang some curtains?!

SiannieLaz

:A cheers MollyPolly, given me hope

completelyspent

SiannieLaz wrote: »

:T Morning All
Managed another evening without the beer, although came seriously close to going down my local, even put my coat on twice. OH was winding me up about his ex, he promised her he'd paint her living room when they were together and she's still sending him txts about it. As they work together :mad: I've got no idea why she has to txt him in the evenings. Ordinarily this sort of thing wouldn't bother me, but the fact that he informed me she's said she's never going to stop trying to get him back, they were meant to be together, etc, etc means it winds me up. He also told me that they used to have sex at work (mmm, nice!) and that makes me feel more insecure.
When I told him that I rather he didn't do it, I got a lecture about being paranoid, why can't he have female friends, he made a promise, etc. Surely I'm not being out of order asking him not to go? Would it be childish of me to say I'm going round to an ex's this weekend to help him hang some curtains?!

Hello,

I hope you don't mind me butting into this thread and commenting on this. I read this thread a lot because it helps me understand someone in my life that I think is drinking far too much and too frequently.
Anyway just wanted to say Siannie that your O/H may be doing this because you are starting to take control over others areas of your life (the alcohol etc) and it sounds like it is making him insecure and he's trying to take back some control in area that he knows you feel vulnerable about. If that is the case it's his problem, and just wanted to say that you are a very strong and courageous person for tackling the alcohol problems and trying to improve your life.
The same goes for everyone else on here. Good luck everyone

mouseymousey99

Hello All - hope all well. Still AF here, I went on hol and had a couple of glasses of wine. But, something kicked in - and I stopped drinking again before the holiday ended. Didn't do any major damage, just the glass of wine over dinner. But its not for me. Just to say to anyone else thinking of packing it in - do it! Its also given me the strength to stop taking anti -d's (after about 4 years of doing so)..don't do it without telling your doctor - and to get the painkillers down from 12 to 2! (Lets be honest I was self medicating).
This week did my OU final exam and next year on to another degree. It does get better and I think its the thing I am proudest of doing this year..I really do wish you all well....Mxx

shopaholictiedtheknot

SiannieLaz wrote: »

:T Morning All
Managed another evening without the beer, although came seriously close to going down my local, even put my coat on twice. OH was winding me up about his ex, he promised her he'd paint her living room when they were together and she's still sending him txts about it. As they work together :mad: I've got no idea why she has to txt him in the evenings. Ordinarily this sort of thing wouldn't bother me, but the fact that he informed me she's said she's never going to stop trying to get him back, they were meant to be together, etc, etc means it winds me up. He also told me that they used to have sex at work (mmm, nice!) and that makes me feel more insecure.
When I told him that I rather he didn't do it, I got a lecture about being paranoid, why can't he have female friends, he made a promise, etc. Surely I'm not being out of order asking him not to go? Would it be childish of me to say I'm going round to an ex's this weekend to help him hang some curtains?!

Hi Sianne, welcome to the thread!

I had a similar experience with my ex except he only ever admitted calling round to see his ex when she was 'upset' over something, i later found out that he had been going round after nights out with his friends and sleeping with her - not saying this is happening in your case but just telling you my story, I had only met her once in the pub and caught her with her hand on his knee when I came back from the loo - turns out she was still in love with him and had told my ex's sister (her best friend) that she would always be there for him even if she had to share him with me!!!!!

I would tell him how much this bothers you and why. Good luck

Bismarck

SiannieLaz wrote: »

:T Morning All
Managed another evening without the beer, although came seriously close to going down my local, even put my coat on twice. OH was winding me up about his ex, he promised her he'd paint her living room when they were together and she's still sending him txts about it. As they work together :mad: I've got no idea why she has to txt him in the evenings. Ordinarily this sort of thing wouldn't bother me, but the fact that he informed me she's said she's never going to stop trying to get him back, they were meant to be together, etc, etc means it winds me up. He also told me that they used to have sex at work (mmm, nice!) and that makes me feel more insecure.
When I told him that I rather he didn't do it, I got a lecture about being paranoid, why can't he have female friends, he made a promise, etc. Surely I'm not being out of order asking him not to go? Would it be childish of me to say I'm going round to an ex's this weekend to help him hang some curtains?!

your OH is being a selfish, insecure idiot...is he trying to wind you up for attention..imagine if you did those things to him...why would you want to know what they got up to at work.....sorry...he's just being a tW*t.....he sounds like a childish nightmare. And that's being unfair on children.

eselt

Hi all- weather great here today, everyone had a smile, hope you are all OK.

Totally agree Bis, Sian your OH sounds like hes acting like a selfish, immature berk.....do you think he might be a bit scared that you are getting yourself motivated and looking like you are going to shed that alcohol skin and wake up having grown out of him too?...he should be supporting you now not adding idiotic stressors to your everyday life. His ex sounds pathetic too. Take note about the stuff he tells you about his ex...if he gossips like that about her, he could be telling someone else similar stuff about you in future. I can't believe he's talked to you about the sex at work thing...my dad always told me he only had one conversation with my grandad about sex education, which he's lived by all his life, "lad if she's good enough to give you a bit, be good enough to keep your gob shut about it"- and if he is still gossiping and winding you up it sounds to me like both you girls are being played by a bloke who isn't as deep as the dirt in his nails. Harsh I know...but if I had still been drinking and he was my OH he wouldn't be on a post on here he'd be splattered around a local lampost..but thankfully I am sober and calm now and I don't do that sort of thing anymore!!!! Basically I think you are completely within the boundaries of normal human behaviour and manners to ask him to grow up, behave and stop winding you up about stuff like this when you have your own battles to concentrate on. Best of luck with it...if I was still drinking and in particularly viperous mood I would choose the curtains myself, make sure they were dreadful, then stand there while he put them up, for her to live with the awful things for eternity...but thankfully I just calmly let these feelings go now and don't react,I realise this sort of behaviour is not my problem, its theres and I feel wistfully sorry for them.Just remember your breathing exercises and best of luck with it...don't drink...you might knock both of there blocks off and live to regret it...

All fired up now...more chocolate limes and a Wii fit yoga session for me methinks.......