Really low tonight :(

misty_blue_2

sending you hugs , i am a newbie here and a few years ago my ex husband walked out on me, i am disabled and he left me bedridden , and although i was very much in debt and very scared it all worked out for the best, i met someone wonderful, caring and very supportive
be proud of yourself for dealing with your debts, be strong for yourself, not for someone else and know you are not alone
take care
misty blue xx

ellerose

Thank you everyone for some nice posts. It's good to know I can wave my arm here and people will give me a boost. I know I am dealing with the debt, it just feels so slooooooooooooooooooow sometimes and every now and then I get a reminder that my life would be easier if I'd never gotten into this mess in the fort place. My god, I will appreciate being debt free so much!!!

stampyfoot

jet77 wrote: »

S*d the ex-boyf ... your better off without him. If it's not right then it's better to find out sooner rather than later babe. His loss not yours at the end of the day. I know it's probably hard to accept that right now but it's true in my humble opinion.

Don't ever feel alone ... there are always so many friendly faces here who are in similar positions and ready with a (((HUG)))

You are dealing with your debt ... you're on here and look at your sig ... over £475 in less than 7 weeks!!!! I'm proud of you even if your not

I've been through some really crappy times (then again think most of us on here have) and felt very alone and the DFW's have always been there for me ... might sound sad to some but it really is a mutual support thing on here. I've concluded that things happen for a reason ... even though we may not realise what it is until looking back in hindsight.

Anyway, enough of my babbling.. I think ur doing brilliantly and everything will work out for the best ... they just needed to get a bit worse before they can get better. Take Care and Good Luck xxx

This is a really heartwarming post and full of good advice for you to heed. Please believe that life will get better and taht you will look back one day and think that your ex did you a favour. Take care of yourself.

1ANGEL

Take one day at a time-which is all we can do anyway-little steps will slowly you get you to where you need to be. Otherwise you get overwhelmed with too many things going through your head, driving you mad with worry.
So try go with the flow- remember you ARE that strong & worthy person who deserves all the good things in life-so keep smiling!!
There is always light at the end of the tunnel! :A x

meyore

I know how you feel, I still have my boyfriend though, but he lives 250 miles away. If I wasn't so in debt I could move nearer to him etc. I've spent most of tonight crying as tomorrow is our anniversery but we can't even meet up.

Things will get better though, and I know it deep down and I'm sure you do too. Its my faith in that thats keeping me going

((((HUGS)))) to you tonight, its sent to try us

Xx

Tesco_points_addict

I just want to send you huge, humongous, extra large, .......................................................................
(((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))
TPA x

jet77

stampyfoot wrote: »

This is a really heartwarming post and full of good advice for you to heed.

Aaawww Thanks stampyfoot :j Feeling kinda low myself at the mo n appreciate that :cool:

skintas_2

keep gpin, this site really does help, i didnt think ill ever see the light, hopefully by the end of the year i will be debt free......just remember these things in life are set to test us...........x x

ms_london

When I was in debt & truly miserable, a guy at my (then) work, used to say 'what doesnt kill you, makes you stronger' - you could imagine how much I wanted to punch him one! :rolleyes:

I know there will always be the 'what ifs' - but you are in debt, unwishing it wont help in the slightest and only make you more depressed (I could have gone on a round the world trip and had a deposit for a house with the amount I racked up!), but no point torturing myself, and there is no point you tortuting yourself! It sounds like you are dealing with your debt and doing really well, yes, it is a slow road - but you can do it and it willl be ever so worth it in the end.

Sorry to hear about your boyfriend doing that - doesnt sound like he is worth it if he is going to do that to you in your hour of need, so TRY and forget about him, and starting thinking about you want to do with yourself when you are debt free - think about the non grotty basement you want to live in & stuff like that - that will keep you motivated! Just come on here if you need a good moan, I used to do it all the time! I had 2 jobs for most of my DFW journey and the good people on here would listen to me moaning - usually on a sat afternoon, hehe!!

Good luck xx

rentok36

Good Luck ellerose,

I have been in exactly the same position, it has taken some time to get myself out of the mess i was in but I DID IT.

You will get to learn alot about yourself in the next few months, there are loads of us all in the same boat. Keep posting on here it seems that everyone on here genuinely wants to support each other.