Money Moral Dilemma: Should Jamie take Gordon to an expensive restaurant?

Here's this week's hypothetical situation for you to cogitate on:
Should Jamie take Gordon to an expensive restaurant?

It’s Jamie’s 30th birthday, and he’s always dreamed of spending it at La Trescher, an exclusive swanky restaurant. Most of his friends earn well, yet his best buddy Gordon has just lost his job and is piling into debt. He knows Gordon is very proud and wouldn’t complain, even though he can’t afford it; plus he’s far too proud to let Jamie pay for him. Should Jamie still organise dinner; meaning Gordon either misses out or hurts his finances?
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  • Go to the swanky restaurant some other time.
  • How about Jamie pays for Gordon on his 30th birthday on the understanding that Gordon will pay for Jamie on his 40th (by which time his finances should have recovered)!:T
  • How about having two parties - one for everyone, and one for the rich friends? Obviously you wouldn't tell the poor friends about the rich party, or at least try to disguise it or downplay it.
  • Go to the swanky nosher another time and take your mate down the pub and get yourself both wazzed!
  • robpw2
    robpw2 Posts: 14,044
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    how about he has the meal at home as freinds are more important

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  • starkj
    starkj Posts: 63 Forumite
    Give Jamie a slap and tell him not to be such a pretentious git. Have a big do somewhere that won't rip you off with overpriced rubbish.
  • I know this feeling. I'm trying to organise my stag party at the moment. I've got 10 people i want to invite, 9 of them are able to afford a good weekend away, 1 old friend just doesn't have a lot of money so couldn't.

    I've decided to attempt a compromise, since you can have plenty of fun without having to splash cash everywhere. After all, it's about the company you keep, not the price of your meal and you should remember that in life
  • How about about actually talking to Gordon instead of speculating on what his pride would or wouldn't let him do....?
  • Has Jamie tried - a great site for getting cheap deals on meals out at some really top class restaurants. He may find that he can have a meal at La Trescher at a discounted price
  • How about about actually talking to Gordon instead of speculating on what his pride would or wouldn't let him do....?

    Now Gordon, i know you're poor and jobless, but do you mind if me and my wealthy friends go to an expensive posh restaurant?

    I can see that going well
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