New member. Hope this is right forum.

sloughflint

Percybridge wrote: »

When she goes, do they have any comeback on me if they think I have "wasted" their mums money?

Do you have proof of exactly how much care she needs?

Her children think I am wasting her money getting nurses in. They appreciate that she is a lot happier, and recognise that she would hate it in a nursing home, but they think I should select the cheapest care option available. Do they have any say.

Her three children live about 5, 8 and 10 miles away, but they do not have time to visit.

Have these all been passing verbal comments to you?Could you write to them in response to their concerns with the following points?
You do not want to unsettle a lady with dementia with new and unfamiliar care package and are satisfied with the level of care provided.
Explain how you notice how much your aunt enjoys your overnight stays.
Would they like to take turns and offer the occasional overnight company to make an old lady happy and also to satisfy their concerns with keeping costs down, even though these are unfounded since she can easily afford the nurses fees.
Just some thoughts. I feel for you percybridge.

chesky369

It might also be an idea to keep a diary of your aunt's affairs, including the nights you stay over, nurses visits and logging the visits of her children when they occur. So that, in the end there is a record of what actually happened if there is any come-back from her heirs.

sloughflint

chesky369 wrote: »

It might also be an idea to keep a diary of your aunt's affairs, including the nights you stay over, nurses visits and logging the visits of her children when they occur. So that, in the end there is a record of what actually happened if there is any come-back from her heirs.

But would that be worth the paper it was written on I wonder if the children got awkward?
I'm not even sure if what I suggested would be worth it either.
It is enough to put anyone off accepting the responsibilities of EPOA.

chesky369

If matters ever get to something like a family court then things like diaries or records made at the time, are indeed taken into consideration. It goes to show the circumstances surrounding those concerned.

chesky369

sorry all, that wasn't supposed to happen.

Savvy_Sue

If you hit your edit button, you should get an option to delete the duplicate post, and the one just above this one. If you do that, I'll delete this post! :rotfl:

chesky369

how do I get rid of the EDIT sign on the lower right hand side and put the THANKS sign back? It seems to have disappeared.

Biggles

chesky369 wrote: »

how do I get rid of the EDIT sign on the lower right hand side and put the THANKS sign back? It seems to have disappeared.

You can't 'Thank' yourself!
;-)

chesky369

I didn't want to - I just wanted my threads to be the same as all the others. OK, OK, I NOW realise my stupdity. We can all have off moments.

seven-day-weekend

We all have them chesky, don't worry!