do you find it difficult when you invite neighbours to your child's birthday

Deals_2

but they dont offer when it is their own children's? do you find it difficult when you invite them for a cup of tea and you always get excuses? wondered if i am the only one like this! i have learned to forgive but i do find it difficult to deal with especially as my daughter loves playing with other kids .

bestpud

I think I'd be guided by my child for the party issue. If she wants to invite them then let her. I wouldn't leave them out against her wishes just because they won't return the invite, personally. Just explain there may be many reasons why they don't invite her - if she asks - so she doesn't think it is personal.

Re the coffee - I think some people just don't like doing that kind of thing - and more so with neighbours. So don't take it personally as it's probably about them, not you.

You sound a great neighbour btw. Wish mine were friendly!

haylibo

Deals

You do sound like a great neighbour. I have to say that if my neighbours were to invite me for coffee I would probably not 'find time' even though I don't have anything at all against them, I simply am not great in that kind of situation. I hate the idea of being in someone elses home and having to make small take, it does nothing for me and would probably make me a little uncomfortable...useless at that kind of thing. So, it could definitely be them and not you and nothing to do with their opinion of you.

BW
Hayles

the_tired_one

Why do you feel the need to 'forgive' - they havent done anything wrong.

Just dont invite them next time if it means so much to you.

ailuro2

I've been friendly with neighbours in the past, when they turn out to be not such good friends after all it's abit awkward seeing them in the next garden all summer.

Best to keep it to chats over the fence, and only invite their kids if your kids want them there.;)

hewhoisnotintheknow

I don't really want my neighbours knowing my business

SUESMITH_2

i had the same problem, how could you not invite their kids when you've got a bouncy castle etc. in the back garden and they're stood watching it go up - however it seemed that only i felt like that cos when it was their party not an invite or even an ask around for a few minutes was offered by their parents (actually i should say her), problem was solved when she had an affair and walked out with the kids lol

windswept

It's even more awkward when your neighbours are also your relatives!:eek:
Hubby's aunt and uncle live less than 50 yards away - it's taken them 3 years to realise that we no longer visit them or even have any kind of contact whatsoever.
When our 17 year old daughter was little, she would see her cousins turn up over the road and go over to play, within minutes she would be back upset as they were "busy" or just about to go out - this happened every time.
It's funny someone mentioned watching a bouncy castle go up, cue a cousins birthday and a party over the road, did dd get invited?:mad:
When we moved here 10 years ago after 12 years away as hubby was Air force, we said to people - " call in any time". We're still waiting, 2 of the 3 of hubby's cousins have never set foot in our house, despite the fact that they drive past half a dozen times a week and very often park feet away from our drive!
Fast forward to just before xmas - hubby's aunt came across while I was at work and made a huge fuss about us "ignoring them", crying and carrying on about how she cared for his mum (her sister) when she was dying (9 years ago). She was a nurse, !!!!!!! (and we all did our fair share of caring).
He ended up telling her a few home truths that she wouldn't even listen to and it ended up with him showing her the door.:j
Now my hubby will always try and keep the peace but he really saw red with her, there are so many stories of times we weren't invited to their side of the family's partys, I would be here all day, but she was outraged that they weren't asked to my hubby's 40th birthday meal!
Now I wouldn't spit on them if they were on fire.:mad:

Zazen999

Families - keep them at arm's length - bests place for them [although I love mine dearly, wouldn't want to be in the same county as them]

Neighbours - make them tea/coffee when we are all out in the spring/summer gardening but that's really it. Don't want them round the house if I can help it.

Deals_2

i would have no problem inviting you all!!!! you sound great!

windswept wrote: »

It's even more awkward when your neighbours are also your relatives!:eek:
Hubby's aunt and uncle live less than 50 yards away - it's taken them 3 years to realise that we no longer visit them or even have any kind of contact whatsoever.
When our 17 year old daughter was little, she would see her cousins turn up over the road and go over to play, within minutes she would be back upset as they were "busy" or just about to go out - this happened every time.
It's funny someone mentioned watching a bouncy castle go up, cue a cousins birthday and a party over the road, did dd get invited?:mad:
When we moved here 10 years ago after 12 years away as hubby was Air force, we said to people - " call in any time". We're still waiting, 2 of the 3 of hubby's cousins have never set foot in our house, despite the fact that they drive past half a dozen times a week and very often park feet away from our drive!
Fast forward to just before xmas - hubby's aunt came across while I was at work and made a huge fuss about us "ignoring them", crying and carrying on about how she cared for his mum (her sister) when she was dying (9 years ago). She was a nurse, !!!!!!! (and we all did our fair share of caring).
He ended up telling her a few home truths that she wouldn't even listen to and it ended up with him showing her the door.:j
Now my hubby will always try and keep the peace but he really saw red with her, there are so many stories of times we weren't invited to their side of the family's partys, I would be here all day, but she was outraged that they weren't asked to my hubby's 40th birthday meal!
Now I wouldn't spit on them if they were on fire.:mad:

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

we are a group of 4 houses on the outskirts of a village , i have lived in the village all my life apart from moving away for 4 yaers , all our neighbors have young children , we have a bouncy castle for birthdays so do they we do not invite them around and they do not invite us around and i think we are all happy with that we work from home and they all go out to work from 8 til 6ish the only time we realy here or see them is around these times and may be at week ends in the summer .
we have never ever wanted to asociate with any of our neighbors why???,i think many fall in to the trap of getting to friendly, or in fact regard them as friends when in fact there just next door neighbors who in general lets face it move on after 5 or so years the house the biggest distance way has had 3 accupants in 6 years the one couple i no no one ever saw them the entire time they lived here .
I for one love it thats why i live here a group of four houses and know one talking to each other just waving as we past through the year we do neot even exchange xmas cards