Divorce maintenance comments

hobo28

Paul, i feel for you mate but like a couple of others have said, its time to stand up for yourself. Quite frankly she's had her cake and eaten it.

The kids at their age should really decide for themselves and hopefully will realise divorces are never as black and white as your fault/her fault. Parents are human and as such are fallable.

Quite frankly if I were in your shoes I'd tell her to stuff off. Usually in this country clean break divorce settlements are the way to go unless you have an income of Wayne Rooney. So call her bluff, stand firm and even if she gets what she wants, at least you stood up for yourself!

celyn90

Hi OP, I have nothing to add really, but would like to just echo the thoughts and very sound advice of the other posters on this thread. I also think you have been far more generous than the courts would expect you to be.

Your children will love you whatever, I am sure of that - so don't be scared that you will lose their love and respect. They are adults now and have their own lives. It sounds to me like your ex-wife is aware that she is coming to the point where the dependents are no longer dependent and is trying to ensure that she is "kept" for life without any worries. Trust you solictor - and ask for a disclosure of her income and pension too.

margaretclare - I think my OH must have been married to your OH's ex-wifes twin sister, seems like exactly the same ethos...

i1189

I would echo other posters and ask for full disclosure. Luckily my OH had an on the ball solicitor, who found out that when his ex wife was going after part of his pension, the ex actually had investments of her own that were worth more. When the ex realised that she could lose some of her own investments, she suddenly decided the pension wasn't so important...