how much should i give as a wedding gift?

poppyscorner

My friends did this last summer and I was a bit annoyed about it because I heard the conversations about "well if 100 people give us a tenner we would have a grand" and it seemed they were rubbing their hands together at the thought of it so I gave £20 but I would have given more if it had been a gift I was buying but the groom in my case was just planning how much drink and rubbish he could buy with the money.

Had I not heard the conversations I would have also probably given more it was just the expectation they had and in their case they couldn't afford the wedding they just had it to get the money.

I think £25 is plenty I lived with my husband when we married and we opted for vouchers but also stated that nothing was necessary apart from guests company we didn't get alot which I wasn't bothered about was more worried about everyone enjoying themselves the little money we did get we used to decorate our bedroom buy new bedding etc as we had never decorated our room since being together always at the bottom of the list.

moggitymog

I think £25 is perfect, i know i would be more than grateful for less.

SaveTheCheerleader

I think £25 is absolutely fine.

cazziebo

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Give what you can afford to give. There is no magic figure. If the host had any sense the gifts would be anonymus anyway so as not to put guests under any pressure.
A recent wedding I went to, there was a wishing well in the room. Guests could put in what they wanted anon.

I'm not sure I like the fashion of asking for money - but if people were to do so then this is a lovely idea.

When friends of mine got married, they said on their invitation they would rather have our company than a present, but if we really wanted to, they had a wedding list on Oxfam so guests could buy a goat for a community or whatever.

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Going rate, from what i've seen in my 'circle' (North London, reasonably well off for our age) is £100 from a couple, £50 from a singleton. We've been to 4 wedding in the last year.. ouch. Thankfully ours is in 4 months and we'll see some comeback.

Frankly, we're not bothered about gifts, just happy to getting married. I expect we'll spend any money we get on double glazing and keep some back for when we have kids. Got some very generous family, but we're quite minimalist in our living and don't like flashy stuff a lot.

Edit: We received a load of terrible gifts for our engagement (most seemed like gifts they'd received then kept to give on).. Now my shed is full of champagne flute boxes and odd ornaments.

Badger_Lady

If they're not a great friend (i.e. you're not going to the actual wedding), I normally go for about £15 on my own or £20 from me and my "guest" jointly.

So £25 is a perfectly reasonably generous amount in my opinion.

Jem8472

I think £25 is fine. We are going to be asking for money for our honeymoon. I hope that the people that are coming to our wedding give £25. That will make a lovelly little pot for our honeymoon

MrsTinks

I think whatever you are comfortable giving is fine really
We're asking for money towards our honeymoon in May (as well as using tesco vouchers hehe) as we've lived together for years and frankly i wouldn't know what to do with another toaster or kettle LOL
What I'm trying to do though is design my own website where people can pick something from to buy us ie 14 evening meals at £30 each, breakfast in bed 14 of at £15, a massage each £25 etc etc so something for every pocket and they will get the feeling they have bought us something and we can send them thank you cards actually telling them that we enjoyed the dinner, champagne, trip, massage etc that they bought us etc.
But again for us it's not how much people give us, its the fact they are there to celebrate the day with us!

tinker1001

I would usually go for £25 if single too, £50 from a couple. Depends on how good friends they are. I'd give more to my close friends, but I guess it also depends on how much you can afford.