Gifts for Teachers

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To the OP. Have you contacted the headteacher about this? You say in your post that the headteacher is not aware about the issue.

Has he/ she got any views on this.

Maybe it is a completely honest mistake by someone genuinly trying to do something good, but got it a bit wrong.

I think its a bit harsh to judge before all the facts are known.

Savvy_Sue

Call me tight, but I've never given presents to any of my sons' teachers. I've asked if they want to when they were little and they've always said no, although I think they've had some brilliant teachers! Then again, they've had some disastrous teachers, and I wouldn't have wanted to spell that out!

When the eldest left his first primary school, I bought books for the school library, and I think I did that when we moved as well.

And ask for asking for a particular amount - well half the fun of present buying is appearing to spend more than you have, isn't it?

Jay-Jay_4

Goodness me!!!

My daughter's teacher could potentially take £280 from her pupils she did the same thing. How incredibly rude of them to ask for such an amount!!!

A gift is optional and a nice touch, not compulsory and asking for a specific amount is absolutely disgusting. A box of Maltesers and a card is our gift of choice, it comes in at under two quid and says thank you without being ostentatious (like the parents that go in with big bunches of flowers and wine...'like me, like my child! :rolleyes: '

I'd rip the letter up and return it to school. :cool:

gregg1

Savvy_Sue wrote:

Call me tight, but I've never given presents to any of my sons' teachers. I've asked if they want to when they were little and they've always said no, although I think they've had some brilliant teachers! Then again, they've had some disastrous teachers, and I wouldn't have wanted to spell that out!

When the eldest left his first primary school, I bought books for the school library, and I think I did that when we moved as well.

And ask for asking for a particular amount - well half the fun of present buying is appearing to spend more than you have, isn't it?

I agree with you. My OH is a teacher and would rather just have a thank you on parent's evening if the parent thinks OH has donea good job with their child.

The thing my OH says is that some families cannot afford even a token gesture and then you get other rich kids coming in with ridiculous, one-upmanship pressies which creates bad feeling with the other kids.

The other posts are right, my OH is getting paid and is satisfied with that. Presents are not necessary.

Murtle

master_blaster wrote:

i had to reply to this
the school in question is dundonald primary school ( this i know because my child goes to the school and we were one of the lucky parents to get this note)

Just wondering what the general thoughts from the school parents on this has been???

M

suziewuzie

I work in an infant school and I find this suggestion absolutley outrageous. I work in quite a poor area of Stoke on Trent and work with very young children. I never, ever expect parents to give me a present. However, they often do send in things at Christmas and when their child leaves the class. Sometimes a few flowers, a plant, toiletries etc. Some items are not necessarily to my taste but I would never say anything about that. I always write a thank you card to the child & parent whenever I recieve anything. I find it quite moving when I get things from some of our poorest parents who have very little themselves. Asking for money is just unforgivable in my opinion. I hope the school concerned sees sense and withdraw this request.

Polly

suziewuzie wrote:

I work in an infant school and I find this suggestion absolutley outrageous. I work in quite a poor area of Stoke on Trent and work with very young children. I never, ever expect parents to give me a present. However, they often do send in things at Christmas and when their child leaves the class. Sometimes a few flowers, a plant, toiletries etc. Some items are not necessarily to my taste but I would never say anything about that. I always write a thank you card to the child & parent whenever I recieve anything. I find it quite moving when I get things from some of our poorest parents who have very little themselves. Asking for money is just unforgivable in my opinion. I hope the school concerned sees sense and withdraw this request.

How refreshing to hear of a teacher who actually says thanks for the gifts. I have been buying gifts for seven years now and not once has there been any acknowledgement. I'd never even given it a thought until now but I would never fail to thank someone who gave me a gift.

Prudent

I am also a teacher and am appalled by this request. I have mainly worked in areas where many of the parents are on low incomes.I try to avoid end of year presents as some children can feel left out if their parents can't buy a present. I suggest to the children they bring in something we can all enjoy together at a party to celebrate our year together e.g. a packet of balloons. Most can contribute something - one child who had very little made a lovely, bright paper chain.

northern_munky

Thats outrageous! I teach in a college and would be so embarrassed if we sent out a letter like that. Try and talk to other parents and see if you could possibly get together and send them a letter back declining their very kind offer! School teachers get enough money :rotfl:

jockettuk

my daughter is leaving primary school this yr and every other year she has saved her pennies up to buy the teacher a little pressie, this yr the teacher has no chance he has been more than useless and the head he can go and jump in the local river.. if i had got a letter like that would have sent it back in saying thanks but no thanks..

my daughter got on better with the help of vickya a local teacher who took the time out to help my daughter through her sats.. so a huge thank you to vicky and the rest im looking to see the back of in 6 weeks time