Why are people so rude?

petitepois

hello im new to this site.. and find it quite confusing with all the different things that we can claim or cant claim ect.. I have been reading through quite a few posts and like me there are many people who just dont know what they can and cant request back from their lenders/banks or whomever..

I notice that some people do reply quite nasty comments as though we are stupid people.. im not stupid just confused like alot of us thats why we have registered with this site so that we can find out.

Please can people not be soo rude to questions it doesnt help anyone..

thanks

Does anyone else agree with me on this subject?

lynnexxxo

Yes i agree people could just not reply if they are going to be rude

I agree to a point that rude comments are not necessary but often the posts end up rude as people don't like the advice they have been given, or ask the same sort of questions over and over instead of using the search function to see if a similar question has been answered before.

petitepois

fair point thanks lynnexxxo

LuciferTDark

hmmm depends on your definition of rude, insulting answers I would say yes, discussing sexual positions then no.

thewelshman_2

OP having looked at your thread on "I have been ripped off", you don't listen to what others say which would then result in them not being quite so mild mannered

pollyanna24

I have seen a few posts on here which I would consider rude, but then there are others where people just don't like the advice that they are given. Just because it's not what they want to hear, in the way they want to hear it, does not make it rude. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Don't post on a public forum if you can't take flak. There are always going to be good and bad answers in there, and it's good to get differing opinions. The problem is when people read too much into things, just take it on the chin and move on. You're never going to meet these people.

dmg24

No i dont agree full stop

OP,

Can you show us where someone has been rude to you? Might help to put it in context.

ohmsoft

thewelshman wrote: »

OP having looked at your thread on "I have been ripped off", you don't listen to what others say which would then result in them not being quite so mild mannered

I can't find that thread started by this OP, has it been deleted?

Woby_Tide

some people find it rude when they ask a question (in good faith normally) and get a short response based on the fact that it's been asked/answered many times before

some people find it rude that people can come on the forum and ask a question without bothering to search and see if someone has taken the time and effort to help someone previously with pretty much the same problem

I'd probably say the second scenario is more rude, the first one tends to have exasperated/frustrated users not wanting to answer the same points again and again when a search facility could have come up with the solution.

If someone searches then can't find their answer then ask the question and poiint out that you've searched, I think you can expect to get a courteous reply and people shouldn't be rude though.

In the context of the OP's other thread that was a bog standard query on a mortgage application fee that is asked nigh on daily, i think a search would have answered their question.

_Andy_

This thread has no relevance to mortgages, would perhaps have been more appropriate in the Discussion Time forum.

dunstonh

No i dont agree full stop

It was observed on a thread the other day that those posting in an aggressive style tend to get responses back in an aggressive style as well.

i.e. posting that something is a con or you have been ripped off when in reality it isn't a con or you haven't been ripped off but you have either misunderstood or you being just plain greedy.

Since the dawn of the internet, when Usenet was the main discussion, FAQs have always resulted in negatives responses from regulars. There is a netiquette that you should always search before you ask in case it has already been asked and it is a good idea to lurk for a while so you can see if your subject is covered.

So, whilst you complain about responses being rude, asking an FAQ is rude as well. Its even more rude when posted in an aggressive style.

Remember, these forums exist and work so well because of the regular contributers. The ones that visit daily and answer questions. Without them you would just have one post wonders posting questions and not getting answers.

So, look at it at from the regulars point of view. If you had been here longer and see the question asked daily or even twice a day and having answered it a hundred times before already, how would you feel?