We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

joeblack066

Have your tried www.gumtree.com? Sometimes ther are landlords on there who don't use a LA. And you sould post a 'wanted' ad, it's free.

blue_monkey_2

Hiya,

Yes, I am taking as it comes to be honest, as I say, we might even get enough points but I wanted to know what I do if I don't get what the website states I am entitled to - and this is the thing, I am entitled to 98 points right now but they have only given me 73. Obviously I need to argue this if they still refuse to give me what their guides tell me I should have and their reason for this can only be to serve me more difficulties, but yes, I want to know what I do from them forward. Hey a miricle might happen and they might even feel sorry for me and give me what I am due...... or not.

Thanks for the post on DLA, it is something I have recently been told, but for me life is what it is and I've not noticed it being any more difficult than usual purely because it is my life and I know no different, but people have told me to apply for it. I know ther are pluses because it would give us more things and benefits, but I feel bad claiming for it because, it is hard to explain, but I don't feel right taking it. When I read the notes on whether I would be eligable then yes I guess I would be because there are so many things I am unable to do with him as I would with another child of the same age, but it is just me, I don't like to take too much and tend to get on with what life throws at me and deal with it.

Yes, I have tried Gumtree but not posted my own ad, I didn't think of that (Doh) but I have looked, where we are we are bang in the middle of the Essex, Cambridge and London areas so they never seem to come up to the edge and there is nothing around here. I did check gumtree though - again it would mean moving out of the district (is this what they call it, the council area?) and I don't want to do that. I don't mind travelling as I said but then I still have to stay in the district.

As I have just a week to go I am going to wait and see what they say now and go from there.

I'll let you know what happens next week.

Mollymop5

Good luck

blue_monkey_2

debrag wrote: »

surely with them buying his council place couldn't they hae waited for you to find somewhere first?

Hi debrag,

Well this is the conculsion we have come to, we don't know for sure, as I said she has not said anything. She actually wanted us to leave about 6 weeks before Xmas but I asked if she could wait but she hasn't even asked us, hasn't apologise for asking us to go, hasn't said thank you for looking after the house, she just called and said she was selling and we had to go. She just wants it sold and she wants the money for it. This is the thing though, we can't find anywhere to go. I've enquired about houses but we can't get anywhere and we don't have any money for a deposit let alone to be able to go in and say we have a bigger deposit to help our situation. She could not really have picked a better time, it was my DD birthday weekend, it was 6 weeks before Xmas, the week before we went on holiday and on top of this we had just bought new heaters (we were going to put them all around the house as there is no fixed heating, it was £300 for the 3 less powerful ones but luckily we decided to see how these 3 worked before we bought the rest, it was going to cost almost £1000 but we decided to trial them upstairs first, thank god) and also we bought decorating materials for the house to start doing it up (we was still going to after she asked us to leave but then changed our minds), then she dropped the bombshell and asked us to go so that will go into storage (not the heating though) as I am not leaving it here. I would rather car boot it!!

So we are not 100% sure this is what the money is for, but what else can it be for? I can't think of anything at all that it can be other than this. I wonder if they are embarrassed to admit they can't cope now her bf has retired and getting rid of the house we are in means they can buy the flat and have money. I don;t know it is this, it would make sense if it was me.

When she called us Mid November I asked her when she was going to the EA and she said 'well not tomorrow I am working, probably Wednesday'. So that was it really and this is why it has come to this.

Funnily enough, one of the houses in the village up for rent (It has been on the websites at least since Nov but is not suitable for us as it sits practically on the main road (straight onto the path) so not the best for my son, but I saw people in there today, people living there so that has obviously gone now.

Does anyone know if I am found a private place by the council that will have us but if it is dangerous for my son (for example, the one in the village sits on a corner, the buses and lorries run past it and there is no front garden so it's out of the house onto the path and he is not good at noticing the traffic, would they make me take something like this? Would they just insist I have to keep my son on reins or something? I am finding myself worrying about everything these days, stupid stuff, I just want my family safe where ever it is. I'd seriously live in a caravan if I could find one as they are quite nice these days but even they are stupid money now. Also, do they class the disabilities he has as disabilities? Are they Mental health problems? I don't even know, they are just things I deal with but they mean we have to take things into consideration all the time and this is all new to me. We was initially referred to a Mental Health team but he is too young, so maybe it is mental health - is this classed as disability then? As I say, I just want to make sure I get everything right rather than ask for something and look a complete idiot if they say that what he has is nothing important.

blue_monkey_2

silvercar wrote: »

If she has not lived in the home as her principal private residence for a number of years she will be liable for CGT on sale. There is no such concept of "family home", either it has been her PPR or it hasn't and if you have been living in it for a number of years without her then it hasn't been her PPR.

Hi silvercar, she has been 'gone' for 8 years in February and then this is when I started living here but before that I lodged with her although she was out more than in but she did live here) when I got married hubby came to live here and she moved to her bf's. I read on another thread a few weeks back that if it has been the family home but she had not lived here for 9 years then she would have to pay, is this wrong then? I am not sure myself but this is what I read and just remembered it because she had mentioned it just a few days prior to this. I haven't told her or anything, she isn't really speaking to us tbh other than to sort stuff out about the Estate Agents. More so she seems to be avoiding us. So it is not something I have mentioned to her just something I read and so this is why I mentioned it.

blue_monkey_2

silvercar wrote: »

There seems to be 3 acceptable options:

a) you get a council property in the area you want, with a low enough rent.

b) you get a private property in the area you want and hopefully DLA and HB give you enough money to manage.

c) you find a property that you can afford further afield and commit yourself to school journeys if you can afford this.

Then there are the unacceptable solutions:

d) you take what the council offer and put up with the unsuitable aspects.

e) you look further afield where rent is more affordable and accept that your children will need to go to a different school.

Remembering that any temporary move will require upheavel in the future, I hope that setting things out as I have done helps you to work out the pros and cons of each one.

Personally, the idea of moving to B&B with the problems you have settling your son seems the worst of all worlds and if (a) doesn't happen, I would seriously consider any other solution to resolve the issues and start moving forward, but then I'm impatient.

Yes I know, I have to be honest I think of everyone of these option every day, I don't sleep more than a few hours a night and when I do I wake up thinking about it and can't get back to sleep. I am exhausted, but with the business winding down at least if I fall asleep when geting the kids off to bed I can catch up on some sleep (LOL, I usually read them a story on the bed open my eyes and find out they have gone).

I am reluctant to move far away somewhere cheaper - it would have to be further North as we are in the Home Counties and this is why it is expensive (as you probably know). It has been hard enough to find the friends I have because people don't accept us too well with my son as he is, I would PREFER to stay in the district so I am making this my first choice so I have these people to fall back on even if it is for something silly like needing to get out of the house. We can't do clubs or activities either because he just hates stuff like that and will just get frustrated and throw a wobbly and people do not invite us anywhere because Ryan get aggressive with the other kids, so this is why I PREFER to stay in the Council District.

Yes, i do understand about the B&B but what I was saying was that if we had no other choice then we would do it - and tell the kids it was like a holiday - if this was the only choice we had if evicted and had nowhere to go then I would do it, that is all I was saying. Apparently they have done away with B&B as temporary council accomodation in this area and there have been concnerns about kids sharing hostels with drug addicts (it is in the homeless stratagy on the internet) as with people with mental health probelms and disabilities being ain hostels, but they have told me that is here we are going to end up so we have to do it. Did I mention the cost of the hostel.... £180 a WEEK!! I have heard that the hostel in the next town for families is the top of the hostel, so you get a whole floor as a family rather than one room so I am focusing on that tbh.

I used to be impatient but then I had kids so you learn not to be!! Well, not as much anyway!!

mrsmortenharket

with regards to your son escaping, why not get a bolt & out it high on the dorr. Also our door locks inside with a key so obviously you need the key to unlock it. That would stop any escaping. Or at least slow him sown somewhat.

Hopefully you will get your points when you see the council..

Its awful the way they do things. My sister cannot get council as she dont have enough points. She had to leave the battered womans hostel with her 4 kids & rent private. She has a tiny flat & a to$$er for a landlord.

Good luck

Lisa x

mummytofour

I was in a hostel yrs ago, I was lucky mine was a 1 bed self contained flat so you might get something like that. Does your council do a rent deposit scheme at all?

Mollymop5

Just a suggestion but does your council know of private landlords who accept housing benefit.As they often pay housing benefit direct to landlords they may know of some in your area.It might be worth asking.I'm up north and alot of private landlords put notices in shop windows ect and say wether they accept housing benefit or not.it might be worth checking your local shop windows, notice boards and local newspapers rather than just visiting letting agencies.

blue_monkey_2

There are some things, I have already mentioned to the lady dealing with me that we can't get anywhere and she is just asking I send information to them on what we need, there has been no mention whatsoever of them offering us this help with deposits and the like..... I am hoping that this is a good thing and that we are eligable as, she did say, 'if you have not received an offer by the 2nd then stay put for now' but if we was not eligable for an offer she would not have said this, she would have said keep looking private (I still have been btw I am not taking anything for granted) so I am being optimistic on one hand but cautious on the other hand (by packing and I've arranged storage for my furniture etc... as I said). But no, they have not even mentioned any of this and I have already informed then we are having trouble getting somewhere to live, the reasons for doing so and they have my bank statements to see the payments going out each month. I am wondering if they 'know' my son's problems will override anything else but cannot tell me until their doctor has verified this as even on the points we have now, with the top allowance, we will have enough points to be housed. Last year a house became available in the village and it stayed empty for around 10 months and there was a lady in the paper who was living in a tent and could not get housed, but they stated that this was an adapted house and that they have properties they especially keep aside for families with disabled children are offered, they said this in the paper. So, I am hoping that maybe just maybe we will get lucky, but as I said, I am not counting on it as I do know what the score is and I know what I am asking for and I am not expecting anything, I just want to help to get what I am entitled to along the way and fight it if I do not have what they say I should have (Shelter said they can often not do as they should).

Where we are now we have locked gates, one is really high (9ft) he cannot reach the lock on that unless he has a ladder, the other on the front gate is his height but we have put the bolt on the other side and it is tight so he cannot (yet) open it. mind you, half the visitors struggle with it but we did learn early on after we found him naked on the other side of the road playing in one of my neighbours garden..... ho hum!! we was in the lictchen making dinner and it suddenly went quiet..... Also, in the house we have the doorkeys hooked high at the top of the door after he locked me out of the house while I had a pan of food on the cooker on the high setting while I waited for it to boil - I have never been so scared and I tried to get my hand in through the cat flap but he pushed it out and locked that, I tried to call my daughter and he physically stopped her from letting me in. From that day forward the key went on a hook at the top of the door!

Again I have not asked about the private landlords they might have as they have not mentioned this option to me - again these are all the points I am gathering that will help if we are unlucky and the more info I know about the better. i only have a week to go so I am going to try and forget about it for one week and catch up on some stuff. We have never been on top of this and know what our rights are and where we go for help, this is why I asked. MOT has mailed me too but I told her to get her stuff out of the way and then we can speak more as I am not going anywhere for a month or so and her need is right now.