We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

MummyHol

Keelyjrs - yeah, i've contacted the police and i've gotta go meet a CSO on wednesday! That'll be fun!! The prob with our situation is that we're housing association tenants & we've bene told by them that theres no free housing. So they can't move us, or the ''problem'' neighbours. I didn't think of writing to our local MP, good idea- thanks!

DisillusionedAnna - your situation sounds really scarey. We've been told that there isn't alot that anyone is willing to do about drug abuse because its seen as a lifestyle choice (which says to me that they don't really see it as being a problem anymore or they just can't be bothered to deal with the issue on the whole)!!!! We didn't have a choice about taking this place either- we were in a hostel. We're in a scummy town in Hertfordshire (most of Herts is quite lovely, just not our particular town).
I can't believe how easy it is to get away with a life of crime! It just proves that the government and police have no control over what goes on in this country anymore!

Blue_Monkey - hope your ok? Good luck finding something to occupy Ryan x

gilligansyle

Hi BM just popping by to see if there's any news. I just wish I knew more about the issues you have in order to be able to help. As with most people here, all I can do is say hang on in there, keep us updated.

Wol2

Hi Blue Monkey

Just to let you know I am still reading through your thread. As far as I've read, your situation is outside my experience and there are many posters who are offering good advice. But hopefully I might be able to offer a nugget ....

I just want you to know that you have my support...and hugs...and strength...and if i can be of any practical assistance I will post over the weekend.

Just one thing to offer.in light of your mum's actions...quote from Richard Bach:

"The bond that links your true "family" is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life...Rarely do members of one "family" grow up under the same roof"

Take care.. will be thinking of you, your partner and your children....and the whole MSE family.

Much love
Wol2

Wol2

Sorry sweetheart..Not had chance to carry on reading tonight..will aim to complete over the weekend.

Much love..and thinking ofyou.
Wol2 xxx

DisillusionedAnna

Hi

Just a quick hello and hope that your keeping well,

warm wishes

|Anna xx

mumoftwins

Hi BM, how's things?

blue_monkey_2

Hi everyone, did not post as nothing further is happening at the moment. Just that 'in limbo' feeling really.

The S21 ran out at the weekend and I *believe* my mother is filing at the court in person on her day off this week (Wednesday) - this is what little sis told me last night anyway. So now we just have to wait for the court date to come (around 2 weeks I think). My mother has got into her head that she can have it 'fast-tracked' (nothing like wanting you gone, right!!) and I was worrying about this but it seems you can ony 'accelerate possesion' if you have squatters. So I will let her get on with it as it stands.

We have to tell the council when we get the court date - I think they will start acting on it then - possibly - who knows?? The worst feeling is not know what is happening from one day to the next and I'll be happy when the court date actually arrives as then we will have a specific timescale in our heads as to when we are going. I have been scooting around on the internet and it seems we could have a court date from anything within 1-2 weeks from her filing and then we have 14 days to respond, if there is no response from us then it will be dealt with after the 14 days. If we do not contest it (which we are not) and there are no arrears then no appearance is neccessary by either party and the judge gives her possession and gives us a date in 14 days to leave (as I said before though, we are asking for 28 days on the form to enable us to contact the homeless department - this is what my reason is going to be on the form).

So, stil waiting, but don't worry, as soon as I hear anything I'll be back on to let you know.

I think my mother has a shock coming mind, I think it has been on the market 4 weeks now and there has not been a great deal of interest and she is at the top of the chain. I am past giving a toss if I am honest, she is constantly calling about this that and the other and I've had enough as most of it is about us being out of here which makes me feel really down and sad, I just feel like I am not wanted here. I am not really going to mention anything about it, I just want the court date in my hand so we know how far further things are, we can go to the council and it is 'done' and we we will have a specific timescale on bieng out so we can organise things. My older sister pushed mum to the EA for a valuation as she thought she was going to be able to bu it on the cheap but as it costs she is not really making things move as she would have done if she was able to afford it - if that makes sense!

On the other side of this, I have been offered so much in the way of support from people who I have seen in the past as 'aquaintances' rather than friends, but they have offered me help with the children and the like and it is funny what you do get out of a dreadful situation like this.

MummyHol

Does your mum realise how this situation is affecting you? She might stop asking for help (which must really rub it in) if you tell her.

Hope your not too down at the moment. Just think- by summer this will all be just a bad memory.

xx

blue_monkey_2

MummyHol wrote: »

Does your mum realise how this situation is affecting you? She might stop asking for help (which must really rub it in) if you tell her.

Hope your not too down at the moment. Just think- by summer this will all be just a bad memory.

xx

Hi Hol (I'll send a PM tomorrow, got a cold today and feeling urgh!!). I am not sure a few days back I snapped at her when she asked another stupid question and the time after she rung and said 'just one more question'. I have not really seen her since then nor spoken to her on the phone. She makes stupid comments like 'so, not working today then?' I do';t even think she realises she does it to be honest and even if I told her she would stil do it, so the best thing is to just stay out of the way.

I will be honest and say I have had to book my son's birthday party at one of these soft play places because we did not know whether we would have a house to host a party in for him, but..... I've not invited my mum I feel bad deep down but I just could not face it - prending that all is OK when really I am totally peed off - and I have said it is for kids only. We don't have a great deal of family and my son does not have any school friends (because of his condition the other kids are a intimidated by him) so it is just family friends and kids in the family. There is no way I was going to not give my son a birthday party as he does know it is his birthday and he knows DD had one, we did not have enough people to come to hire a hall so this was the best way for us really.

blue_monkey_2

Hope your not too down at the moment. Just think- by summer this will all be just a bad memory.

Yes, I totally agree. Just looking on it all as a new phase, I am trying not to let things get o me, I just wish that we could fast forward a few weeks and have a date so we know when we are going and see an end in sight.