We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

blue_monkey_2

Hi Babe1,

Thanks for the post - I have called about the forms today, they told me that it'll take 10-14 days but the claim will start from today. The carers I have not called yet - just been browsing their websites, still no Social Worker yet - the hospital wold me they are contacting them on my behalf but I've not had anything from the hospital yet either.

I don't know what to say when i call the carers that is why I have not yet contacted them - the housing side is neither here nor there as I cannot do anything about it yet but in regard to my son we cope because we have to, I see it as part of my 'job' I suppose. Kind of hard to explain but he is my boy and I look after him, that is what I do. So I don't know what to say if I call, my reason for calling and what I want them to do. Does that make sense. Probably makes me sound a complete sap, LOL!! I think the only thing that would be nice would be able to go to some groups where people have children who are the same as my son.

We went to Somerfield today - took me 10 minutes to get him in the shop and ended up sticking him in the trolley (only wanted a few bits) but on the way out he started playing with the automatic doors and did something to them, when we left the alarm was on. The worst thing about being on a budget is that now I am doing a weekly shop and I need to get this done while Ryan is at school - but I got lots of bargains today with meat and the like, I figured if we was going to be here for a bit I might as well get some bargains for the freezer!!

I went up to the libary to get some books on AS/Aspergers but it was closed. Typical really!! Half term starts next Friday - yey, can you tell how excited I sound!!

Babe1

I totally understand what you are saying BlueMonkey ... I was exactly the same last Summer. My GP told me to call them and I thought "eh, what do I want to say" :rotfl:

They just let me talk to be honest ... and then the floodgates opened and so much stuff that I had bottled up for so long came out and I am glad now that it did, as we needed to move forward again.

My sons DLA was due for review also and they sent me a lovely support officer that deals with young people that have learning disabilities... and well we have gone on from there. I am sure that you would have the same experience from them.

I have since met the lady that took my first call; I gave her the biggest hug and we both just held hands ... probably sounds way weird, but it was really lovely.

I feel the same way about my boy ... he is my son, I look after him and I am his Mum. Nothing more, nothing less .... he is my all :A , but sometimes YOU need something to help you along, so that you can help him. Hope that makes sense.

You have such a great deal of stuff going on BlueMonkey .... too many things for one person or a couple to share, but things will get better when you have the right people and support around you.

I have to say the Alarm thingy sounds funny ... :rotfl: . I had to bribe my boy with a burger today so that I could visit TKMax :rolleyes:

You take care ... thinking of you and sending you cyber hugs,
Babe1

MummyHol

Loretta wrote: »

I know council's don't like to house alcoholics or drug addicts because provision is expected to be made elsewhere.

Our local council specialises in housing alcoholics and drug addicts- we have to put up with the people downstairs' weed smoke coming through our kitchen window and the alcoholic in the flat opposite having screaming matches with her partner until 4am and apparently we just have to ''keep a note of times and dates'' so the council can continue to ignor the situation! Apparently theres no proof that cannabis smoke is harmful to children so the people downstairs are allowed to force not only their own kids to inhale the smoke, but my 9 month old too!

In this town, we also have to put up with 30 year olds scoring heroin in childrens parks in broad daylight, families burning down their council houses so they can get free redecorating, groups of 15 or more chavs standing outside our flats with metal poles and base ball bats only to be told buy the police that they'll only come out if an assault happens & those unlucky enough to work in the town centre have to put up with being screamed at, spat at and threatened which obviously the police are powerless to prevent or stop!

Sorry about that rant... having so many issues with my area at the moment! My in-laws still claim this town is a really nice place to live (yeah, right!)

I feel much better now :T

MummyHol

I don't know if your council is the same but here the councils obligation to house only stretches as far as a hostel or emergency accomodation- from which you still bid for properties with your points. We would have been stuck in the hostel for months & months, if our housing association weren't desparate to find tenants for this flat, because we didn't have enough points to get the right size accomodation. If this is the case with your council then it is still really important that you get the right amount if points you're entitled to in prep for this!

Hope this makes sense

tilly's_mum

Hi

Pleased you have rung about claiming DLA - just remember to write about the bad days - the DLA form as Babe1 said it is an awful. It may help to keep a diary over a few days while waiting for the form.

You could email you local carers centre - I did this when I moved house and sometimes easier to write than ring (definately in my house as my DD has a thing about me using the phone!!) - you could ask about support groups and ask to join - they should send you a 'welcome pack' and some areas have a A to Z of services which is very useful.

My local Home Start have a group for parents with children with additional needs - I think they meet weekly and home start may be able to help you with a volunteer for a few hours a week - I was a volunteer and helped a family with a child with autism and another with a child with ADHD - the volunteer can look after your DS while you have a break (think you have to stay in the house) or be somebody to talk to for you or an extra pair of hands when you go to the shops or have a hospital appointment. You can refer yourself or get your Health Visitor to do it.

Wol2

Hi Blue Monkey

I only came to DFW/MSE very recently (via the MOT thread) and have (still am having) my own troubles so am limited at present in the amount of time and number of people I can offer support to at present (especially as my brain can only process so much information in any one time..which is completely alien to a previously multitasking individual!) ) . However I just wanted to say that I am very conscious of the time you have spent supporting other people on this site and I promise you I will read your thread over the next few days and see if there is any way I can help at all. And even if I cant help practically - you have my emotional support and I hope you manage to achieve a positive resolution and be able to move forwards.

You are clearly a smashing person, I wish you well and hope you will be able to move forward with a lightness of step in the near future.

I will make a point of being here every few days.... if possible more frequently. Hang on in there!!!

Much love
Wol2

christabell

I am still reading and following your thread blue_monkey, I hope you are not getting to stressed out........but that is a silly statement, I know you are stressed. Have you had your appointment to have Ryan assessed yet? If you need help to fill out the DLA forms I am sure the school would help, as he gets special help?

keelyjrs

MummyHol wrote: »

Our local council specialises in housing alcoholics and drug addicts- we have to put up with the people downstairs' weed smoke coming through our kitchen window and the alcoholic in the flat opposite having screaming matches with her partner until 4am and apparently we just have to ''keep a note of times and dates'' so the council can continue to ignor the situation! Apparently theres no proof that cannabis smoke is harmful to children so the people downstairs are allowed to force not only their own kids to inhale the smoke, but my 9 month old too!

In this town, we also have to put up with 30 year olds scoring heroin in childrens parks in broad daylight, families burning down their council houses so they can get free redecorating, groups of 15 or more chavs standing outside our flats with metal poles and base ball bats only to be told buy the police that they'll only come out if an assault happens & those unlucky enough to work in the town centre have to put up with being screamed at, spat at and threatened which obviously the police are powerless to prevent or stop!

Sorry about that rant... having so many issues with my area at the moment! My in-laws still claim this town is a really nice place to live (yeah, right!)

I feel much better now :T

Crikey, where do you live? I wrote to our council when we were in their temp housing after being made homeless and complained about a lot of stuff but mainly that our neighbours were making our flat stink of weed and we were moved 2 weeks later!! Keep writing to the council, keep a copy of your letters. Would you feel ok reporting them to the police? Also try writing to your local MP. Not enough people use this resourxce and it is what they are there for after all!!
God I really feel for you and hope your situation improves.

Bluemonkey, best wishes to you as well. Hang in there. Sending possie vibes your way!!

DisillusionedAnna

MummyHol wrote: »

Our local council specialises in housing alcoholics and drug addicts- we have to put up with the people downstairs' weed smoke coming through our kitchen window and the alcoholic in the flat opposite having screaming matches with her partner until 4am and apparently we just have to ''keep a note of times and dates'' so the council can continue to ignor the situation! Apparently theres no proof that cannabis smoke is harmful to children so the people downstairs are allowed to force not only their own kids to inhale the smoke, but my 9 month old too!

In this town, we also have to put up with 30 year olds scoring heroin in childrens parks in broad daylight, families burning down their council houses so they can get free redecorating, groups of 15 or more chavs standing outside our flats with metal poles and base ball bats only to be told buy the police that they'll only come out if an assault happens & those unlucky enough to work in the town centre have to put up with being screamed at, spat at and threatened which obviously the police are powerless to prevent or stop!

Sorry about that rant... having so many issues with my area at the moment! My in-laws still claim this town is a really nice place to live (yeah, right!)

I feel much better now :T

Blimey you could be writing about my neighbours your not from Staffordshire perchance?????

My neighbours a right twerp:eek: :eek:

I was lying in bed 4 weeks ago and suddenley about 8 dark shadows pased my bedroom window and there was a god awful bang and thump. I t hought it was an earthquake shook me right out of bed and that takes some doing believe me.

It was the police knocking upstairs door in, hes a drug addict/dealer and everyone has complained etc done the note the times/date thingey.
We thought yahoo hes got his come uppance and we were all , fewdays later council goes in for the eviction order, judge says you naughty boy slappy slappy handy behave and go home and be nicer to your neighbours and council is horrified thatthey cant evict him.
Now hes got the local drug brothers living there, and there cars parked outside my flat with a Nov 07 tax disc whichthe local CSO officers walk past daily and ignore:mad: :mad: :mad: and Im naffed off with all the comings and goings of there ehmmmm visitors, late at night, car doors banging and them clumping aup and down the stairs
To add insult to injury the council sympathises with my situation but they feel at the moment they have to be tolerant, and give him a chance to turn his life around. i feel Im living in some crazy world, where decent folk are invisible and the chav/druggie elite rule.
I had to accept this flat as I was homelesss due to Domestic Violence the whole flat is lovley, the area ia grand and apart from him upstairs the neighbours wonderful, sometimes i wonder if the local councils full of gaga do gooders, but my friends say leave it and if given enough rope he will hang himself...I just hope there correct.

Sorry for hi jacking your thread BlueMonkey...I hope your situations resolved soon, are there no playschemes in your area that your lad could go to, if its anything like where I live the kids are just left to get on with it..time this bloody government woke up to the fsct that there are lots of folk out there who are not invisible and need some help/support and advice.

If theres anything I can do please PM me not sure what I can do but I have a good wild shoulder and can listen

Best wishes
Anna

blue_monkey_2

Hi everyone, MH, I know where you are - I am not surprised, she lives in the next district but I guess it is the same as everywhere, it depends on where you live. Anna wow, it does make you wonder doesn't it, just what do you have to do to get in trouble. I am one of those people who think that if was me then I would be in big trouble but everyone else seems to get away with it.

Nothing much to report, I've been doing some browsing this morning to see if I can come up with details of playschemes, tried to ring shelter but no answer so far, tried to call CAB at 5p a cal only to be told it is busy call back later. So I'lll leave that for now but I PM'd Loretta (hope she did not mind) as MH has explained that I have to sign a contract to say that we will keep the children under control, quiet and not damage their property. To be honest I am kind of bricking it, when we go on holiday my son is usually running all around the room, jumping around, etc... as the change confuses him and turns him a bit cuckoo!! This is when the tantrums start as well as the sleep problems, and he will wake during the night screaming and not be able to be consoled for anything up to half an hour. So I would be lying if I said I was not worried about whether they would kick us out if we did not 'adhere' their their 'rules of house'. On the shelter helpline it seems we might also be entitled to Legal Aid if we need it but I am not sure what we would need the legal aid for right now, it is just handy to know that if we need it we might be able to get it as I thought the cap was 17k, the shelter helpline says 29k, so that is quite handy to know and I'll look into that.

So, another day, trying to take time off of it for as much as I can by focussing on other things, it is not always easy as I still have a lot to do around here, but I am trying and am spending my time now trying to find other things for my son, no joy of the County Council website so now trying the others. I only get a couple of housrs a day to look so that is why I try to cram it all in while Ryan is at school.