Trying to sort out the Miss/Mrs/Ms conundrum.

Emmia

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81999563#Comment_81999563

Mx in my experience is often used by people who are trans or wish to be gender neutral. As a woman (born female) I wouldn't use Mx as a title.

NBLondon

I'm quite glad that I don't have to deal with this by being male :)

I once knew a divorced woman who went by Mrs and her birth name because it sounded better than her husband's surname (which to be fair it did…) despite the occasional confusion with the school since her daughters still had the father's surname.

My wife is a mixture of Miss and Ms in various places - she kept her birth name in official docs since all her qualifications are in that name. I don't think she's too bothered. The one she did want to change to Mrs Myname was the joint account so that if she ever got a cheque in that name it could go somewhere. The bank didn't accept a marriage certificate as evidence of the change 🤨

rowan222

I understand the historical usage of Miss changing to Mrs upon marriage. However, it seems things are not as rigid now days. I do know of some women who are not married but just go with Mrs. I have no real objection to what people call me to my face but on documentation I prefer Mrs. Maybe it's just me but Ms just ooesnt settle well with me. I think it crept in some years ago from the US but I might be wrong.

Anyway yes I was married (briefly). At the time I was glad to ditch the title Miss as it sounded to me very juvenile. I soon got divorced and reverted back to my maiden name but kept the title Mrs mostly. That was a good few years back now. A minority of entities have tried to de-Mrs me back to either Miss of Ms when discovering I'm not married now. Most have been cooperative when I've pointed out to them. Except this one entity I'll have to send them a strongly worded letter with maybe a copy of my driving license which does have Mrs on it.

Interestingly it seems in some other languages the single/married distinction is breaking down. In Dutch for example, MevrouwM traditionally means Mrs as in married woman but nowdays seems to be simply any adult woman

danco

Oh well, if this thread is producing lots of replies, I think I should mention an academic colleague. Being a professor with several doctorates married to a professor with several doctorates, and working in Germany, her correct formal title was

Professor Doktor Doktor Frau Professor Doktor Doktor

flaneurs_lobster

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82000133#Comment_82000133

Wow, that'll make a mess of your driving licence.

sheramber

There was a time when a married woman was Mrs husband Christian bane husband surname e.g. Mrs John Smith.