How to approach future purchase

gadget88

I did look at new builds but me and my wife don’t drive so it’s made options very limited as we want to stay near family

Silvertabby

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81933387#Comment_81933387

Perhaps take driving lessons? Unless you want to live in the centre of London, being able to drive will expand your options.

mlz1413

So you want to move, but ask AI for answers to questions you put in the way of buying another house.

You are also asking, again, a forum of people who can inky give general advice. But you need specific help for your issues.

You have two failed purchases behind you to be able to work with a therapist and work out why you sabotage your move.

You may find the answer is to stop wanting a bigger house and just be happy.

You may find that the answer is to move and replace the carpets.

But it is going to be your journey. Good luck with it

gadget88

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81933467#Comment_81933467

Thanks you are correct. I may new to stay or it’s new carpets. The therapist I had said it wasn’t even ocd so sort of lost faith in therapy but perhaps looking up another one might work. I feel the ocd got in the way of the choice . But yes I do need to work on issue to stop it happening in future

goldfinches

Try looking at this site to help you choose a therapist with experience at helping people through traumatic moves

Bobbe - Our story

Once you've done the initial filtering then click on individual therapists names to see more about their expertise, training, specialities etc.

Best of luck.

elsien

Do you have a formal OCD diagnosis from your GP/ other health professional or is this self diagnosed?

Anyone can set up and call themselves a psychologist with very little in the way of qualifications so how are you tracking down in your therapists?

if you think you have a genuine health issue then off with your doctor. There are other issues which could be impacting on your thinking, but I’m not going to name them because you might just pick another label which is equally incorrect.

see a qualified professional to start with.

gadget88

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81933657#Comment_81933657

Thanks yes I do have ocd

gadget88

I notice the agent has had alot of stuff go “back to market. Obviously it’s unlikely but I told them I’m still interested as you never know. Given I regretted the choice of an opportunity came again I think I’d go and try again.

Herzlos

Do you have a partner? If so, can you get them to handle all of it and only involve you with the paperwork?

If not, then you can always approach the agency again, explain the problem and what you're doing to counter it. Offer to give the agent some deposit and make a new, slightly higher offer to the buyer with some financial guarantee that you won't pull out again.

gadget88

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81936404#Comment_81936404

Thanks I feel a bit stupid asking but the board has been up six weeks usually it’s down within a month. I said same offer or higher as it sold for less than my offer. Like I say I feel I made a poor choice so no harm in asking but I feel a bit embrrased having pulled out.