Help for elderly

Murphybear

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81915348#Comment_81915348

Thanks for that

unfortunately since his wife died we cannot have a POA as my brother is no longer capable of asking for it. I understand the Deputyship is more complicated as the court has to approve everything. The person who is going to take it on is experienced with dealing with legal documents.

middlewife

You could also look at appointing an IMCA, independent mental capacity advocate, I'm not sure of the difference between their responsibilities and a court appointed deputy, but your legal team would know. I was fortunate that my mum only didn't recognise me a few days before she died, but handled it beautifully just asking " I'm not sure who you are, are you my daughter?" She didn't have a clue who she'd married though and looked at the photo and asked me if he had been a nice man. Go gently, it's tough.

littleredhen

Life can be hard and none of us are guaranteed tomorrow sadly. Unfortunately we live in a very rural area where services are sparse to say the least but thank you for all your input it is greatly appreciated. As I mentioned earlier my friend has contacted another friend so I think the balance may be restored

I am thankful both my sister and I did our POA's and wills a while ago so hopefully won't be an issue

elsien

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81918362#Comment_81918362

That is not part of the IMCA role. An IMCA is there for one off long-term accommodation or serious medical treatment decisions where a person lacks capacity around the decision and has no friends or family appropriate to consult. They have to be appointed by the relevant decision maker. They have nothing to do with finances and are not long-term ongoing advocates.