Home education, finances, and anxiety

marcia_

RAS said:

Based on your second post, the issue isn't that she doesn't want to learn. It's that something(s) in the school environment terrifies her. So she's in pure fight or flight mode.

At that point, possibly including all the morning she spent in the SENCO, she's incapable to explaining what the issue is. When she's not distressed try to talk to her about. At least ask her to think and when she's feels able to express herself, share with you.

You might also want to look at mindfulness, or focusing.org. These aren't golden bullets because there are times when feeling terrified is justified, or is what you feel. But both can teach ways of managing overwhelm.

And look for your local homeschooling network. 

I'd also be blunt. The important GCSE qualifications are English, Maths and sciences. If she's interested in languages, she'd pick them up beyond GCSE level without much tuition.

It's not unknown for non-conformers to re-enter at 15/16, take essential GCSEs at college and then do their higher exams through college. If their terror of formal education continues, then high performing tertiary may not be the appropriate. But they may well be able to perform very well in the right subject. 

 This is so true. I don't have learning disabilities and was just a messed up kid for various reasons. I left school age 14 then went into college at 17 to do gcse and now a qualified professional so school isn't the bee all and end all in my opinion