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  • elsien
    elsien Posts: 35,964 Forumite
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    Finances aside, I think if you are staying nearby for a prolonged period of time, she’s going to get more dependent on you anyway. You won’t be working so there may well be an expectation that you are there whenever she wants you to be - that is  not going help with promoting her independence whether you’re living in the house or just up the road. 
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
  • Muttleythefrog
    Muttleythefrog Posts: 20,402 Forumite
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    edited 14 July at 7:39PM
    Agree with above... simplify this situation...it's messy.. she is already dependent on you... nobody moves 6 months away from home to help someone independent. This doesn't make much sense. Move in with her if necessary and resolve benefits from that perspective. If she's uncomfortable with you moving in or that's not practical then re-assess whether you are appropriate as support in this case... it is a big sacrifice already.
    "Do not attribute to conspiracy what can adequately be explained by incompetence" - rogerblack
  • sheramber
    sheramber Posts: 22,413 Forumite
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    If you are just a phone call away it will not be any different than living with her. She will depend on you being readily available. She will then be left alone when you return home or you will end up staying there. 

    Organising local help , if needed, would be better.
     
    Does she need more help than assisting with hospital visits etc.? You only mention that help. 

    You could arrange to go  and  stay with her for the visits and travel home a couple days afterwards. 

    That way she.  would still be independent.

    What does she think about you renting near her?
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